THOUGHTS OF THE WEEK
“Whether you think you can or think you can’t – you are right” (Henry Ford).
“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he”
It’s All in the State of Mind
You might have heard the words ‘its all in the state of mind.’ If they have never meant anything to you, I would like you to look more closely at them. This is a powerful statement; more powerful than many people are aware.
The power of the mind to shape your life is amazing. What you think and believe about yourself determines what you achieve in the world.The way you see yourself, what you think about yourself, what you believe about yourself determine how you perform and what you become.
Go back to my post
You might have read my post “Do you have the courage of your aspirations?”. If you haven’t I recommend it to you. If you have just go back and look at it again. I’ve just read a post by one of the blogging giants that I know Jeff Goins titled “The Amazing Realization that Turns Amateurs into Professionals.” It caught my attention because of the similarity I find between Jeff’s thinking and mine. Many of us are afraid to admit we can do what we can do. We want to do it; and can do it; but fear to admit it to ourselves not to talk of telling the world. Either we are afraid to admit it or we are ashamed to do so. It reflects a low self-esteem. We keep making as novices who need someone to come along and affirm us.
Action is what gives flesh to ideas
In life the way to achieve anything is to act. It is to start doing what we want yo achieve. No action, no achievement. All achievements follow action taken. We never can know what we can do until we try. We say also that ‘the test of the pudding is in the eating’. Drawing inspiration from Jeff’s post I want to say that the way to know how good a writer you can be is to start writing. Only by writing can you become a great writer. Wishing to become a great writer and not writing is what we call wishful thinking. The way to know how good a speaker you can be is to begin speaking. The way to become a great motivational speaker or any kind of speaker is to start speaking and speak and speak. Perfection comes through doing. Football stars become great players because they play and play. They perfect their skills the more matches they play.
Of course, this is not to underestimate the value of learning to do what we want to do. We need to learn but after learning we need to put the knowledge into practice. The stress is on actually going into the field to practice what we have learned. There are some people who spend all their lives learning to do something but they never do it even when they are well equipped to do it. They end up never making use of the knowledge acquired because they see themselves as not good enough; exaggerating the goodness of others in the same field.
There is no doubt we have to acknowledge that in every field there are talented people; people who are specially gifted; but we must not play down our own gifts. We must not believe less in our own ability when we have not tried it; or when we have not tried enough;or just because we have tried and failed once; or because we have tried and met with difficulties.
Truly, it is all in the state of the mind. What we believe we can do we are more likely to do than what we do not believe we can do; or what we believe we cannot do.
Do not be surprised to find that many of the people who go for experts in your field and are hailed the world over may not be as good as you; but while you are wasting away in oblivion, they are shinning and sparking in the world; hailed like superstars.What makes the difference is the state of the mind.The ones who shine and sparkle believe in themselves. The ones who waste away in oblivion do not believe in themselves.
The conclusion becomes obvious. The difference between the great people of the world and the rest of the people is largely in the state of their minds. The people who move mountains are usually those who believe in their own abilities. They follow their belief with action; and because of their strong belief in themselves they stay on until they make it; refusing to take failure as the final answer.
Those who do not believe in themselves often do not even start at all even though they may be more talented than those who believe in themselves. Not believe in themselves, when they start something, they are quick to give up when some difficulty shows up. This is easy to understand. Often we draw conclusions that fit with our belief about our abilities or inability.
It is your responsibility to develop your potential and become the person that God created you to become. God created you for a great destiny. He created each of us for a great destiny. If you want that great destiny to manifest in your life, it is a real possibility; but you have to be aware it is all in the state of your mind. Whatever you want to become in life, you can if you believe you can and go on to take the action that will make it come true.
If you have been negative about yourself, you must change.
- Start today to see yourself positively.
- Start believing in yourself.
- Start taking action to do the things that you have been afraid to do because you did not believe you could do them.
- Know that you can never know what you can do until you try.
Do not be surprised to find that many of the great figures in the world in your field are not as talented as you. What places them high up is their believe in themselves and the action they take to make their belief a reality.
If you are not shining and sparking as an expert in your field, it is not because you are less able, but rather because you do not believe strongly in your own abilities.
Read my post “Live a life beyond your wildest dreams.“
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STORY OF THE WEEK
The Life of A poor Village Boy(Day 3)
If you remember, we ended where Che Sama’s friend was unable to continue to house him because life was too expensive in the city and he was not on any good salary. Housing another person was going to create financial difficulties for him. It was thus not easy for Che Sama. To get a job was virtually impossible. In the end he found himself on the streets, homeless.
If you have not been following this story, it is advisable to go to the start of ‘The Life of A Poor Boy. This will enable you to better follow it.
Che Sama found himself in the streets. It was not easy. He had it hard. He went through thick and thin. Finally, and by the grace of God, he stumbled on Mr. Chumo, his uncle who had been missing from the village for many years. He had actually been thought dead; but he was not dead. He was living in the city; and a cook in the city’s biggest University. He was doing his 20th year in the city. For all that time, he had not returned to the village. That was why many people, back in the village believed he had died.
He was not on any good salary where he worked. However, he accepted to sacrifice to offer shelter in his home to his nephew.
To make up for the strain on the finances of the family, Che Sama was required to play the role of a domestic servant. This meant washing clothes for the whole family, washing the dishes and pots, cleaning the floor, going to market, buying food, cooking, serving it at table, and clearing the table when everybody had eaten. He was also required to take care of the children and much more. In short, he was the jack-of all trades in the home.
It was very strenuous; but he had no choice. All these chores kept him busy from morning till late every night. He was over worked; and often worn out. Yet, his uncle’s wife, Mami Yabi, never felt satisfied. She scolded him almost permanently and not only complained that he was a burden to the family but also that he was shortening her children’s ration.
It was the worst time for Che Sama. Often, Mami Yabi recalled, to his face, how miserable he had been before coming to live with them. Many times, she threatened to throw him out. Her words were often hard:
“Know that I can throw you out at any time I like,” she would tell him while he listened and trembled like a soaked chicken. “I can throw you out at any time and nobody will ask me a question. You know what that will mean to you. You will suffer. You are a wretch. You have nobody in the world. You are worse than a wretch; you are a little rat.”
This saddened Che Sama. At the start, he thought working harder at home would help; but it did not. He would work and work but madam’s reaction would only be worse. One day, things came to a climax. As usual, madam waited for her husband to go to work. Then she picked on the boy.
“Pack and leave my house, you wretch. You have no right to live here. You are a burden. You eat my children’s food for nothing and develop plump jaws. I am not responsible for your wretchedness. You get me right? Pack and leave my house now. You have no right whatsoever to be shortening my children’s ration.”
Usually when she spoke, her words came in fast succession like fast drops of rain and fell like thunder on the boy’s ears. That morning he was frozen; too frightened to cry. What had prompted such hard talk was hard for him to say. He was so sad and worried that he went into the toilet, shut the door and sobbed out his sorrows. He wondered where his God had gone; and what he had done for God to abandon him.
Mami Yabi’s brothers who also lived with them did very little work at home; but were always appreciated and praised.
It was Che Sama who prepared the food; but it was Mami Yabi who shared it and always gave him the smallest share. On the other hand, she made sure that her brothers always ate to their fill and asked for more whenever they were not satisfied. She never told them that they were shortening her children’s ration. It was only Che Sama who was doing it.
Mr. Chumo knew the hardship that his nephew was going through; but there was nothing he could do. Twice, he had attempted to speak in defense of the boy but each of the times he had more trouble with his wife than he had ever had. He saw his marriage threatened and got so frightened that he swore never to try to speak in defense of the boy again. Hence, Che Sama was left alone in the world to face his troubles.
Although he felt frustrated that even God had abandoned him, he did not give up his prayers. Prayer became part and parcel of his life. He went to bed with a prayer on his lips and got up in the morning with one. Some nights, he sneaked out of bed, got into hiding and prayed. Often, he prayed and cried and called on God to come to his aid.
Whenever the other children caught him praying, they would make fun of him and later report to madam who would join to make fun of him. Yet, that did not deter him. He did not relent in his effort. God was the only hope he had. He lived in hope that persistence would pay off and one day his prayer would be answered.
That was what happened. God answered his prayer. After many years of suffering there was an opening. Che Sama jumped at it. It looked better than any opportunity he had had in his life. He was very happy. Tears filled his eyes.
But was it truly the beginning of a new life for him? What type of job was it? How did it turn out to be?
Since all that glitters is not gold, we shall not jump to any conclusion. We shall wait and see what happens in part 4.
WHAT DO YOU THINK?
It is said that fear is responsible for many of our failures; that it inhibits us and we are unable to achieve what we are capable of achieving? What do you think?
What is your take on these statements by some famous people?
- “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself” (Franklin D. Roosevelt).
- “Fear makes the wolf bigger than he is” (German Adage).
- “There is perhaps nothing so bad and so dangerous in life as fear” (Jawalarlal Nehru).
- “Fear is the most devastating of all human emotions. Man has no trouble like the paralyzing effects of fear” (Paul Parker).
QUESTIONS OF THE WEEK
- Is there anything you’ve got from this week’s Weekly Magazine which can change your life?
- Is there anything you had forgotten which you have been reminded about?
- Is there anything which you knew but never took serious but which after reading it in Weekly Magazine you are going to start implementing?
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