A young man just left my office. He came knocking my door to seek advice about what he called “an embarrassing love situation.” He is thirty and wants to take a wife and settle. But he is poor; coming from poor parents and is just managing to live.
There is a girl as wretched as him with whom he is in love. The girl is as mad about him as he is about her. They have been planning to get married but have no reason to hope that their social status will one day change. Yet, they have been saying that should not stop their plans.
A month ago, a thing came up that has complicated the situation. He met a beautiful young girl from a wealthy family and is is secret love with her. When he started he thought it would be brief relationship but the girl has sworn he is hers for life. She’s been giving him money; but what ever he receives from her he passes some to the girl he adores. Going by what he has seen so far, he is sure that his social status will dramatically change if he gets married to this rich girl though he loves her less than the other girl. His heart goes more to the poor girl.
He came to see me because the rich girl wants things to go fast. He wants the marriage to be arranged and asks him not to worry about money because she will take care of everything. The girl’s parents have already allocated them one of their houses, a good care and financial provision for the boy to open a super market.
The girl from the poor family does not know what is going on and is very confident that the boy will become her husband and even though they will not have money they will be a happy couple.He too really loves her.
Thus embarrassed, the boy came to me. I gave my advice but told him we would still discuss.
What advice would you give him? From every indication the rich family is not ready to take no for an answer. They will take it very badly; and the boy may have problems if he becomes funny when they have already told all their friends their daughter would soon be married.
Please, advise!This young man feels trapped.