Very embarrassing situation

A young man just left my office. He came knocking my door to seek advice about what he called “an embarrassing love situation.” He is thirty and wants to take a wife and settle. But he is poor; coming from poor parents and is just managing to live.

There is a girl as wretched as him with whom he is in love. The girl is as mad about him as he is about her. They have been planning to get married but have no reason to hope that their social status will one day change. Yet, they have been saying that should not stop their plans.

A month ago, a thing came up that has complicated the situation. He met a beautiful young girl from a wealthy family and is is secret love with her. When he started he thought it would be brief relationship but the girl has sworn he is hers for life. She’s been giving him money; but what ever he receives from her he passes some to the girl he adores. Going by what he has seen so far, he is sure that his social status will dramatically change if he gets married to this rich girl though he loves her less than the other girl. His heart goes more to the poor girl.

He came to see me because the rich girl wants things to go fast. He wants the marriage to be arranged and asks him not to worry about money because she will take care of everything. The girl’s parents have already allocated them one of their houses, a good care and financial provision for the boy to open a super market.

The girl from the poor family does not know what is going on and is very confident that the boy will become her husband and even though they will not have money they will be a happy couple.He too really loves her.

Thus embarrassed, the boy came to me. I gave my advice but told him we would still discuss.

What advice would you give him? From every indication the rich family is not ready to take no for an answer. They will take it very badly; and the boy may have problems if he becomes funny when they have already told all their friends their daughter would soon be married.

Please, advise!This young man feels trapped.

10 thoughts on “Very embarrassing situation

  1. The truth sets us free so he needs to be hones with the girls bt most especially with himself because if he settles for the money, he will be miserable because everything is but vanity. Let him take some time out to make the right choices for his life and a better future. Everything will be alright.

  2. This seems like a difficult situation that he’s gotten himself into. He’s being somewhat cruel, I believe, but I suppose these things happen. How one man can give his heart to someone then say he’s given it to another–it’s quite unfair. Regardless, I think the boy should take a step back and consider the different things he loves about these two women. Does he love the wealthy girl because she is wealthy? If she were just as poor as he or moreso, would he still have fallen for her? Does he love the poor girl because she is poor and so can empathize and understand his struggle? Regardless of religion, this is an ethical dilemma. If your young man considers his own morality–considers what he knows to be right–I think he would make the correct decision. Of course no one can tell him what to do. In the end, he will choose what he feels will make him happiest, even if only in that moment. I’ve found that people most often seek advice for the sole purpose of sharing accountability, much the same in regards to religion. If he follows your advice and it doesn’t work, he can blame you. If he follows your advice and it does work, then he considers himself wise for having chosen to listen to you.

  3. My Bible tells me in John8:32 that the truth shall set us free so that guy needs to be honest before things get worse guilt of lieying kills us but the truth relives us so he must confront the parents and all that he can’t go further the rich girl equally deserves a man who will genuinely love her so they may not take it lightly but the truth is what it is in time they will heal before he runs out of his lies to cover up for his lies and get caught u can’t keep living your one life in such a bandage

  4. I meant not the girl he wants to marry who is rich. But who he is love with truly. Should not play with emotions in the process of get quick rich thing

  5. If boy is really genuinely in love with her.. May be he can do couple of things . either ask her for little time to settle down financially.. Or take help from her but return the money soon .. No debt..

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