In the world where social media is a way of life, it is so easy to lose our authentic self to a world of judgment and preconceptions. Inundated with daily notifications on what is happening with other people’s lives either gives us encouragement for self-motivation or disheartenment at times when we feel inadequate of ourselves.
“Be a first rate version of yourself, not a second-rate version of someone else.” – Judy Garland
Steps to Finding Your Authentic Self
Research suggests that authentic people are well-liked, and they benefit from social support and the many other positive outcomes associated with enjoying close relationships with others.
So how to battle depression when negativity starts to creep into our mind? How to be happy with one’s self to feel awesome again?
1. Pay attention. Observe. Sense Your Feelings.
This step may sound simple but is profound. When you take the time to pause and stop, sensing your thoughts and feelings can be scary or challenging.
At times when you feel inadequate, ask yourself what is it that you really feel? Because inadequacy is actually not a feeling. It is a thought and is different from real feelings. Thoughts trap us in the detracting images of other people or the high standards of ourselves.
Meanwhile, a real feeling should free us from the bondage of perfection and help us be in touch with our true authentic self. It is the acknowledgement that as humans, we are imperfect, we are vulnerable and it’s alright to feel sad, fearful, angry, uncomfortable, tired, lonely, worried, anxious, frustrated, impatient, frustrated, weary or despondent.
Identify your real feelings and own it.
“Choosing authenticity means cultivating the courage to be imperfect, to set boundaries, and to allow ourselves to be vulnerable; exercising the compassion that comes from knowing that we are all made of both strength and struggle.” – Brene Brown