Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems — problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you’re at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion…
Anger is seen as a supportive mechanism to show a person that something is wrong and requires changing. Anger can mobilize psychological resources for corrective action. Uncontrolled anger can, however, negatively affect personal or social well -being; and impact negatively on those around them. It is equally challenging to be around an angry person and the impact can also cause psychological/emotional trauma if not dealt with. While many philosophers and writers have warned against the spontaneous and uncontrolled fits of anger, there has been disagreement over the intrinsic value of anger..
“We all experience anger; anger only becomes a serious concern when an individual is angry too frequently, too intensely, and for too long.”
You build a house and then install doors in it, isn’t it? After installing the doors in your house, will you allow animals and reptiles like donkeys, pigs, snakes and scorpions to enter your home, just because the doors are there?
Even if they try to forcefully enter, you will drive them away and close the door, isn’t it?
Similarly, you can easily control the door of your heart. If you close the door of your heart to evil qualities, they cannot enter. You should not get angry with anyone, nor criticise or harm anyone.
Even if, for any reason, such circumstances arise, you must learn to control yourself. When anger overtakes you, put it down immediately considering it as your worst enemy. It is said: ‘Anger is your enemy, patience is your shield of protection, and happiness is your heaven’.
Fill your heart with love and compassion.
When you fill your heart with love, you will be able see Goodness everywhere. Where there is No Love, you will able to see only devils everywhere!
“Anyone can become angry, that is easy…but to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way…this is not easy.” — Aristotle
Anger is an active emotion that calls the person feeling it to respond. People get into anger issues because both the instigator and instigated lack interpersonal and social skills to maintain self-control.. They can train to respond to their anger as unwanted and unpleasant rather than react to its need. Turning a blind eye or forgiveness is a tool to turn anger off.. Getting enough sleep, exercise and good diet are tools which can assist in preventing anger…