I have a mate now who recently accepted that he has anger issues and this was a mighty step. This has been a problem because this anger has put him in trouble many times before.
After having a quarrel with a prof in class, he finally had a melt down in class and just would not stop shouting nonsense. I saw someone cry out in pain so openly for the first time. Almost everybody laughed and this just broke my heart. Everybody was focused on the drama, but nobody saw a human in distress. This guy got a disciplinary warning and was not allowed to attend classes for a while.
Before the teacher sent him out of class he made a statement to this boy. He said “I can see you are very angry, but you are not angry with us. Go and look for the source of your anger”. After that the teacher went on to tell us that he can spot an addict from a mile away and that the student had a serious problem.
This got me thinking, he may not even know about the problem. T o him he is normal in his anger. How many of us have an addiction problem and have refused to accept? Many of us have it, but we do not even know it yet. I am here to share tips on how to recognize if you have an addiction.
First of all, what is addiction?
The American Society of Addiction Medicine (ASAM) defines addiction as a chronic disease that affects the brain’s reward, motivation, and memory functions.
General signs of addiction are:
- lack of control, or inability to stay away from a substance or behavior
- decreased socialization, like abandoning commitments or ignoring relationships
- ignoring risk factors, like sharing needles despite potential consequences
- physical effects, like withdrawal symptoms or needing higher dosage for effect
Addiction does not exist only in relation to drugs or substance. You can be addicted to an emotion too. Some people are addicted to being in love; show them a smile and they have already fallen. The first stage is recognizing the type of addiction.
After that, recognizing changes in your life, health, behavior and relationships.
Usually you can recognize an addiction in some close to you, but they can hardly ever recognize it. This is because addicts always justify why they are addicted and then proceed to deny that an addiction even exist.
Here are some ways you can support a friend or family member’s recovery process:
- Learn more about the substance or behavior dependency and the treatment.
- Stay involved, like offering to go to meetings with them.
- Provide a sober and trigger-free setting.
- Speak up and express concern when there is a relapse.
While you can treat addiction, in most cases, someone with addiction must want to change for recovery to be successful.