People will always criticize the things we o, no matter how hard we try. We are advised to listen to opinions so that we can improve ourselves. The thing is, no matter how much we improve, people will still criticize.
Eventually, we are advised to make sure that the criticisms of others, do not stop us from winning in life. Does this mean we should totally stop listening to some extra advise? I don’t think so, nope.
But there is a not-so-fine-line between those who destructively criticize, and those offering “constructive criticism” — that is, the advice that can be the most important, even and perhaps especially the tough love variety. The difference resides in the intention of the person delivering the criticism.
For everyone recognizing constructive criticisms based on the person delivering it should be easy. The issue comes in when we are clouded by our emotions, when we refuse to really listen because of our emotions.
So one of the most beneficial things you can learn is to “scan yourself” to recognize your own emotions at any given time. (This is a habit that serves you well in many respects of life, of course; people can get better and better at it, but no one ever perfects it.)
Do you have your own internal anger or sadness about something in relation to the person who is delivering what they mean as good advice, which therefore may be tainting how you hear it? Are you simply crabby?
P. S If you do have your own emotions in check, then, it is typically not hard to recognize those who are destructively criticizing you. If their criticism is full of downright insults — calling you stupid and the like, implying or stating outright you’ll never amount to much, etc. — that is clearly destructive.
How do you handle criticisms?