The main condition for the achievement of love is the overcoming of one’s narcissism. The narcissistic orientation is one in which one experiences as real only that which exists within oneself, while the phenomena in the outside world have no reality in themselves, but are experienced only from the viewpoint of their being useful or dangerous to one. The opposite pole to narcissism is objectivity; it is the faculty to see other people and things as they are, objectively, and to be able to separate this objective picture from a picture which is formed by one’s desires and fears.
- Erich Fromm –
The sadistic narcissist perceives himself as Godlike, ruthless and devoid of scruples, capricious and unfathomable… omniscient, omnipotent and omni-present, a plague, a devastation, an inescapable verdict.
- Sam Vaknin –
I don’t care what you think unless it is about me.
- Kurt Cobain –