I just read this story on how a daughter was raised and decided to share. A must read :
My Dad always sounds it in my ears “Simi, you must be tough. Being girlish and being ladylike is not an excuse for weakness”. This he still says to all of us.
All the children were raised to do the “masculine” as well as the “feminine” tasks.
My sisters and I started winding a 15KVA generator as soon as we got one. I learnt how to wash a car (internal and external) before the age of 16.
I started learning driving immediately after secondary school. My Dad told me that before he allows me drive out independently, that I must learn to change car tyres.
My Dad said to me “If you are driving on a lonely highway and you need to change your tyre, what would you do? You will have to get down and change it…. that’s the common sense thing to do. It’s a survival skill for drivers.
He started washing the dishes as soon as he could reach the sink and handle the dishes.
He started cooking simple meals before the age of 10. He started washing his socks and under wears before the age of 7.
He started handling his laundry before the age of 11, when he had to go to boarding school.
In my house, the rule was (still is) that anyone who eats must be able to get involved in the kitchen, when required.
My father tells me I can be president, not first lady. There is nothing wrong with being a first lady, but there’s also nothing wrong with being the husband of the president.
Thus, if you tell your son that he can be president, you should also tell your daughter that she can be president.
The hidden but significant psychology behind this is that telling your daughter that she can be President pushes her to be great, while telling her that she can be a first lady pushes her to aspire to marry a great man, and probably reduces the needed inspiration to aspire to exercise her maximum potentials.
We need not teach our girls to believe that the best they can be is to exist under the success of a man, their husbands.
It is dis-favor to humanity to raise your son with the impression that he is better than other females..
Raise your daughters to understand that they are not inferior to males.
Teach your sons to be as domesticated as your daughters, and push your daughters
to attain financial independence as much as you push your sons.
This way, we will raise a less entitled and more responsible generation,
equipped with all vital survival skills, and with lesser handicaps.
Charity begins at home, not in the offices or work places.
Go tell it to the world, over the hills and everywhere
Various acts of brutality and violence against Women have aroused societal outrage, protests and collective introspection… People are angered and reviled by such criminal behaviour, and many volunteer to join placard demonstrations outside court when the accused men make an appearance.
But with the passage of time, people move on to other interests and challenges in their daily lives, hoping that attitudes will change and that violence against women will soon abate. But it doesn’t. … In fact, the levels of violence, rape and female infanticide just get worse by the day.
At the heart of the problem is the status of women and the respect accorded to them in society. In some cultures, they are marginalised and have little or no power to make important decisions about their lives.
The violence is also often based on the roles that are given to women in society and the need to focus on the balance of power between men and women.
Leaders, community and religious organisations and NGOs need to be involved in earnest discussions about the role of women in society and how some deep-rooted social, cultural, religious and historical norms and attitudes need to change.
Much of this can be achieved within the walls of our own homes.