An excellent message on Parenting…adapted from a speech !
You will be gone soon but the children will be here; And nobody can manage anybody else’s life; though they are with you, yet they belong not to you…
You may give them your love but not your thoughts; for they have their own thoughts
You may house their bodies but not their souls, for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit even in your dreams…
God will take care …
It is none of our business to be too concerned…
Whatsoever we can do, we do, but one should not ponder and think too much about things going the way one wants …
That is very egoistic
You have given birth to a child, but once he is out of the womb ; he is free of you
First he depended for his breath on you when he was in the womb
Then he will take his own breath
That moment, You don’t say – ‘What are you doing?
Are you trying to be free of me? Trying to be independent?’
You feel happy that your child is breathing !!
First he will take milk from you, then one day he will start eating on his own
First he will go on clinging to your apron and then one day he will leave it
You will be happy because the child is growing, becoming mature.
Then finally one day he falls in love with a woman
He has found his woman, so he will go on his own way
Bless them, and whatsoever happens they have to find their own life and their
own meaning to life.
Now you are free.
Just try to find your meaning, your life, your goals, and devote the few days that are left to the search of the ultimate.
Don’t be concerned with ordinary things I have never seen a single parent who is happy about their children.
Nobody is ever happy… Even the father of Buddha was not happy… He was very very annoyed because his son turned out to be a pauper. He became a Monk and the father was hoping he would become an Emperor .. He crushed all his father’s hopes
One thing is certain — that the child is not here to fulfill your expectations
The child is here with his own destiny, and he will unfold his own destiny. You are trying somehow to direct his destiny and that is going to be frustrated.
Accept it and bless them good.
They have to find their own ways
Who are we to interfere?
And how can we?
Pray for them but leave them on their own.
You just try to grow yourself.
Excerpts from the discourse of a popular motivational speaker !!