In continuation with my Learning Series; adapted from a motivating and inspiring write-up which I felt would be very useful for both students and the Society as a whole with day – to – day instances, to encourage positive thinking and improve efficiency !!
SELF-ESTEEM (I AM WORTHY OF LOVE) : Your faith in your abilities makes you respect yourself. Such kind of love and respect for yourself is self-esteem.
“WHAT MATTERS MOST IS HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF”
I AM STRONG : I’ve gone through hell and kept walking. I know my weakness.
I AM WORTHY : It took me a long time to believe that. I’ve worked through my “unworthiness”.
I AM BEAUTIFUL : And no one needs to convince me of that any more. I’ve dropped the illusion of not enough
I AM IMPERFECT : I have imperfections but that doesn’t make me Imperfect. I am perfect as I am.
Observe the following conversations:
“I am a graduate with promising communication skills. My peers frequently pass comments on me that I won’t get my dream job of anchoring on T.V, as I look dark.
I’m also teased that I don’t stand chances of a good marriage either.” – Anjali, Graduate
“I’m shy and cannot make friends easily. I’m called a bookworm and sissy. I lost self-confidence and can’t concentrate fully on my studies. I feel inadequate”. – Varun, Student
Not only these two but most of the youngsters like them experience low self-value. When the above youngsters realize and use the strengths of their skills they develop their self-value which is also called ‘Self- Esteem’.
“I GOT TO KNOW MYSELF!” A beautiful white rose, who couldn’t see herself had no idea how pretty she was. She did not realize that she was admired for her perfection, her perfume and the softness of her petals. The rose was beginning to fade and wilt. A young girl put the wilting rose in water, inside a lovely colourful glass vase. She placed it by the window. For the first time, the rose got to see herself in the reflection of the window. Because of water and sunshine, the rose regained her former charm. Looking at her reflection and knowing how beautiful she was, she said, -”Wow! Till now I hadn’t realised who I was!” If you really want to know who you are, just look into your heart.
Knowing your strengths, weaknesses, achievements, etc. helps in raising self-esteem.
To develop self-esteem,
Appreciate and respect yourself.
Feel good about yourself.
See yourself as deserving the respect of others.
Have confidence in your own abilities
Gives you the courage to try new things and the power to believe in yourself.
Makes you optimistic.
Helps to resolve your problems and help others.
Makes you feel excluded and disconnected from society.
Makes you want to surrender your individuality and conform to stereotypes.
Makes you feel you can’t handle life’s challenges.
Leads to depression, destructive behavior, eating disorders or alcohol/drug abuse.
The Strongest factor for success is self-esteem; Believing you can do it, believing you deserve it, believing you will get it.