How are you all doing? I am sure you are reading and learning something new every day.
Recently, I was reading the “Rich Dad’s Guide to Investing” by Robert T. Kiyosaki. I had been meaning to read the “Rich Dad Poor Dad” for a very long time but finally got around to reading this book of his. Just few pages into the book and I read something that I felt was relevant for me.
One of the lines that caught my attention was “If you want to see a person’s past, present and future, just listen to his or her words.”
This line is not to judge anybody. If we apply this to our life, we definitely see a connection between our choice of words and who we have become. This also means that if we don’t like who we have become, it can be changed by changing our choice of words.
In my case, I used to be a very negative person. If anything happened in my life, good or bad, my first thought would always be negative. Now, how was that possible? For example, if something bad happened then it was easy to be negative but if something good happened (suppose I scored very good marks) then I would be scared that it would go away (what if next time I did not do well?).
I still do have a little bit of negativity in me but there has been a considerable improvement in how I see myself now. There are days when I feel low and I use demotivating words, but now I am conscious about them and try to come out of them as soon as possible.
Another powerful line from the book:
“Words form thoughts, thoughts form realities and realities become life. The primary difference between a rich person and a poor person is the words he or she uses. If you want to change a person’s external reality, you need to first change that person’s internal reality. That is done through changing, improving or updating the words he or she uses.”
So to be a happy person, I need to use happy and positive words which will raise my vibrations and take me into a positive zone. That is why gratitude is considered to be the first step in becoming a positive person. It helps us see our blessings, whatever maybe our situation, and this in turn sets momentum for more blessings to come into our lives.
To bring about a change in our present reality, we have to change ourselves internally and first thing that can be done is use of positive or constructive words. These words will start giving shape to our thoughts and before we know we will start seeing the positive changes in our lives.
It is very important for us to have more positive words in our vocabulary. Just think whether you speak more positive words or negative words. We are so used to talking about the problems happening around us, that at times we have long conversations just discussing problems – our life, the society, the nation, the world at large. Increasing the vocabulary of positive words will keep us in a positive frame of mind eventually making us happy persons.
I had read a similar thing in “The Power of Positive Thinking” by Norman Vincent Peale where he gave a method to come out of a negative state of mind. He said to become positive , one exercise to do was to make a list of all positive words that we could think off till we became positive. So once when I was not in a good mood, I started typing all the positive words that I knew and by the time I wrote some fifteen words, my mood had changed. Now I know more positive words than I have ever known.
Positive affirmations are another powerful tool to stay positive and believe that things are working out in the best possible manner for us. Affirmations are positive words put together but they become powerful when we believe in them and then let go.
So what can you do about it? How can you change your use of negative words into positive? Here are few things that you can do.
- When you feel negative, first accept it and don’t fight it. The more you fight it, the more intense it becomes. Take slow steps to convert it.
- Think about a positive word, look at its meaning and then use it in a sentence. By the time you do the same exercise for 2-3 words, your mood will begin to change; or just like me start making a list of all the positive words you know, you can even google and find new words.
- Then, start writing gratitude for at-least 5 things that you remember at that moment. This will make you feel good about what you currently have.
- Then dance, hear music, go for a walk, meet friends etc. Do whatever you feel like doing. (I used to crochet because it used to divert my mind from negative thoughts into positive and happy thoughts. I now hear songs that motivate me and uplift me.)
- By this time you will be in a very happy state and to further enhance it start saying some powerful affirmations for health, career, relationships etc. Repeat them again and again till they feel real to you and then let go.
All these steps together won’t take a lot of time and before you know you will be in a positive mind frame.
Gradually, you will start noticing a shift in your overall thought process as well. The negative thoughts will be replaced by more positive ones. If anything bad happens, you will be calm and you will try to look for something good in it. Also, if you do get negative thoughts, you will immediately realize it and automatically take steps to change your thoughts instead of worrying about them.
Words have great power. So let us use them carefully and positively for our own good and for the world at large. Let us pray for peace and harmony rather than discussing wars.