If you are having problems in your marriage, do not let that kill you; and do not let the problems destroy your marriage either. It’s a normal thing to have problems in marriage. There’s no marriage that is void of problems. If you know one, show me.
Luckily for some people, they know how to handle their problems and so look like they never have problems.
Those who do not know how to handle their problems look like they were born to have problems in their marriage. They have problems all the times.
Before we go into how to handle our marital problems, let us identify the major sources of these problems.
There are two main sources of the problems that we have in our marriages: internal and external sources.
Internal problems are those that emanate from the couple themselves.
External problems are those that come from outside sources. These include:
- Parents in law,
- People you do not know.
- The community
Internal causes will include:
- Sex and sex related
- Family chores
- Lack of respect
- Lack of love
Once you know that these areas are susceptible to generating conflict in your marriage, of course, you should be wise enough to look for how to handle them.
Bear in mind that the successful marriages are not successful because they are free of problems. It is rather because they spouses have learned how to handle their problems as they come up.
There is a tendency always to look at other people’s spouses and admire them and think they are perfect. Then you compare with you own and condemn your own. The truth is you are only seeing that person from outside. The one may even be worse than your own. Yet, they are getting on well. Look for a way to get on well too.