All our life we live like we’re playing in a scrimmage game – time is on our side to make things right. But, along the way we suffer multiple hurts and wounds. We stumble and fall because we never really learned to walk in forgiveness.
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In my younger years, I believed, somehow, God and the Bible would magically erase my aches. Yet the pain I suffered, and inflicted on others, was crippling to my soul. The art of putting one foot in front of another was difficult to grasp, especially with forgiveness.
The Bible is full of verses about our mental health. Forgive others and yourself, and it stabilizes your disposition; for only the strongest shall learn to walk in the presence of God’s holiness. It may not be part of your daily curriculum, but it’s the healthiest antidote for your mind, body, and soul.
Forgiveness is a complex thought and requires many baby steps, but God is absolutely clear about it:
“And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins”~ Mark 11:25
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” ~Colossians 3:13
I was confused the first time I read the first verse. Why should I forgive someone who terribly wronged me? How could I say to them, “I forgive you?” To clarify this bible verse, forgiving others does not justify the deed or the person; nor does it offer God’s forgiveness for their actions. It also doesn’t mean coming face-to-face with someone to tell them you forgive their behavior or action. Instead, we are to move forward from our past, silently asking God to forgive them. Allow Him to handle their sins. Then you will release the deep hurt and heal from the inside out, taking your first step in learning to walk with the Lord. After all, we are all sinners and need God’s forgiveness.
A true testimony to forgiveness was a murder trial aired on TV and the internet last year. A mother’s son was brutally murdered, and she suffered for a year with anxiety, hurt, and anger. She sought professional help from her minister who explained to her the true meaning of forgiveness. As the convicted assassin took the stand for his death sentence, she spoke to the courtroom; she told the murderer she forgave him because that is what God desired for her heart. Then, she stood up and hugged him! She later told the media that as she spoke the words to her son’s killer, God at once filled her with peace. Ideally, the Lord does not wish for us to confront an abuser or sinner, but for this broken-hearted mother, it was the answer to her prayers. Here is her story: https://www.today.com/news/how-do-you-forgive-killer-mother-moves-past-tragedy-4B11203330
The flip side of forgiving others, and the most difficult, is forgiving ourselves. God promises to pardon us if we believe in Jesus Christ, and our sins are no more. (Jeremiah 31:34) Some sinners, though, never heal from their self-inflicted pains; they limp along in life carrying the guilt of their own misgivings. Yesteryears become part of their present life while anger, hatred, self-pity, and depression lurks just around the corner. It’s exhausting! The energy they give to negativity robs them of the good deeds they need to become the person God wants them to be. Look for a silver lining because “what doesn’t kill you, will make you stronger.”
God sends the lessons we learn from our mistakes. The storms might be furious in nature, and some may be hurdles still left unfinished, but He placed them there to teach us a lesson. Learn from the shadowing experiences, pray for forgiveness, and move forward… never to repeat the errors.
Learning to walk in unison with our Father takes great maturity and courage, but necessary to heal the pain. Stop beating yourself up and accept God’s hand. Experience His peace for Peter exclaimed, “In truth I perceive that God shows no partiality” (Acts 10:34). You are free!