Have an attitude of gratitude….

Counting the blessings

May you wake with Gratitude

What is that bothering you ?

We are human beings.Most of us lead a so called ‘busy life’.Many claim so.

These are Covid days and you are cursing Everyone and the Almighty in particular  for all the uncertainties and the life not being busy.

What is happening actually ?

Once you are 18 + your responsibilities increase and before you realize,you have a family adding to your burden.

You are stuck with your work or go on changing the jobs,and you are ever busy chasing money and in the process make heavy losses instead of becoming rich.

Now you start comparing yourself with others whom you feel, leading a better life than yours, in spite of you better qualified.

At one stage with all the disappointments and dissatisfaction abound,you become dejected,sometimes depressed even violent,cursing yourself and rest of the others and now it’s the time for you to start the blame games.

Since you are a God fearing person you start looking up for help from the Heaven.

You become angry soon because you wished a quick fix because you are sincerely praying,but strangely remembering Him only during times you are in crisis.

By now you are getting agitated and annoyed because God is taking His own time,even testing your patience.

You begin to feel that He not listening to you and you start wondering whether His presence is real and wondering whether to continue to pray thinking Almighty wasting your time ! !

Covid times making your life miserable.

You start Doubting His credentials.
Why you feel God never answers your prayers ?

You are too distracted.

Now what ?

My friend,there is no need to lead this kind of wretched life.

This is not what life offers you.

Life is not wretched

Unknown to you,God has already given you His choicest blessings since you are His creation.

There are hundreds of special moments happening in your life to celebrate rather than to criticize.

Although you may feel nothing great happening ,remember you are always blessed by Him.You are much better off than the most of the people.

You may not be rich,but you have a loving family,good friends and most importantly your basic needs are met.What else you need ?

Read this

A young woman was sitting at her dining table,worried about taxes to be paid,housework to be done and to top it all her extended family was coming over for festival lunch the next day.

She was not feeling very thankful at that time.

As she turned her gaze sideways,she noticed her young daughter scribbling furiously into her notebook.

“My teacher asked us to write a paragraph on ‘negative thanks giving’ for homework today” said the daughter.”She asked us to write down things we are thankful for,things that make us feel not so good in the beginning,but turn out to be good after all”

With curiosity,the mother peeked into the book.This is what her daughter wrote.

” I am thankful for the final exams,because that means school is almost over.I am thankful for bad tasting medicine,because it helps me to feel better.I am thankful for walking up to the alarm clock,because it means I am still alive”.

It then dawned on the mother that she had lot of things to be thankful for ! She thought again……

She had to pay taxes but that meant she was fortunate to be employed.

She had housework to do but that meant she had a shelter to live in.

She had to cook for her many family members for lunch but that meant she had a family with whom she could celebrate.

We generally complain about negative things in life but we fail to look at the positive side of it.What is the positive in your negative ? Look at the better part of life and make your everyday a great day.

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Any lessons ?

How many times you counted your blessings ?

I doubt.All the time you are busy complaining and pleading with the Almighty.

Don’t think of the things you didn’t get after praying.Think of countless blessings God gave you without asking unknown

“The secret of happiness is to count your blessings while others are adding up their troubles” Unknown

That one day we all remember to thank God is on ‘Thanks giving day”,for the good things that have happened or happening.

Surprisingly people remember this day for the delicious food.I may be wrong and you can correct me.

Please share your thoughts.I appreciate.

Thank you.Namaste 🙏🏻
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7 Lies by which society misguides you !!

Society lies

“Society has become so fake that, the truth actually bothers people” Unknown     Image by jacqueline macou from Pixabay

It’s 4.5 minute read.

Why why all succumb to the society, having its own views on everything & anything under the the Sun ?

Society never tires you with its time tested comments ,since you are addicted to the concept of society’s benchmarks,right from your birth to till the day you die.

In other words society wants you to play by its rule book.

Do you remember the famous personality Joseph Goebbels and his quote…

“If you tell a lie big enough and keep repeating it, people will eventually come to believe it.”

By now I know that You are wondering which society I am talking about ? And where is that society located ?

My friend,this society is nothing but your so called

  • Ourselves
  • well-wishers (including your parents,sorry if I am brutal),
  • uncles,aunties
  • your neighbors
  • your teachers
  • your friends
  • your community
  • your daily news papers,TVs,movies
  • Regular advertisements
  • Your favorite movie stars
  • Your social media
  • Your political discussions,tastes and narratives

you name it….you have it!

Society in other word is a set  of people around you all the time, trying to manipulate you to their advantage.

1.Unconditional Love exists

A rubbish,and a lie uttered time immemorial.To be frank ,there is no such thing in the relationships.

Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not. So each is inevitably disappointed. Albert Eisenstein

Our love is directly proportional to how our partners,relatives,friends etc make us feel.

Simply put…. any body gets hurt if their expectation is not fulfilled.This is human nature and there is no escape from it.

Don’t hurt yourself by dreaming/expecting ‘unconditional Love’. Also you can never give unconditional love.Mark my statement.

2.Marriages are made in Heaven

Hmm…If it is so….just answer me why there are so many divorces ?

Marriage is like a cage; one sees the birds outside desperate to get in, and those inside equally desperate to get out. Michel de Montaigne

Is it true,some say marriage is a life long torture !

Marriage: A legal or religious ceremony by which two persons of the opposite sex solemnly agree to harass and spy on each other for ninety-nine years, or until death do them join. Edbert Hubbard

Wife & Husband-why can’t they be best friends for life ?

3.Your life is a meaningful minimum journey to be enjoyed to the maximum

Another thrash. And in spite, all the modern Gurus encourage us to lead a meaningful life.( self defeating )

What made Gautama Buddha get enlightenment ? It’s because of human suffering.Do we have similar God’s grace to get enlightened ?

Life is full of misery, and you are intelligent enough to accept that it’s painful to lead the life and death is the only permanent solution.Since we can’t die….at least let us accept the truth.

Happiness in your life is only for the time being that too in bits, and rest of the times you are busy whining.

“It’s a misery to be born,a pain to live,a trouble to die” St.Bernard of Clairvaux

Still, temporary happiness can come from minor things like,you playing with toys in your childhood, your first Kiss,sex now & then,massage,hot bath, friendship,a short travel,one night stand,A champagne,Receiving a lovely gift or a comforting hug etc.etc.. Drugs can take you to another level.

4.It’s better if you know your life partner before your marriage

Really?………another Utter lie.

No partner in love relationship..should feel that he has to give up an essential part of himself to make it viable May Sarton

Each individual is unique.Only sustained friendship in the form of total understanding between the life partners endures the marriage.

Life partners too expect personal space though they know each other so long !

Even if you knew your partner before,it’s not a guarantee for a successful marriage.

When you can’t understand the people, though you spend your whole life with them,(example parents vs children,children vs parents,siblings vs siblings),then why should you give importance to knowing your partner before?.

Understanding becomes easier after the marriage once you both know your limitations and your strengths mutually over the time.

5.Money won’t make you happy

Ha ha ….Without money you cease to exist.

My dear friend, money is everything.It brings you, both happiness and pleasure.

“Lack of money is the root of all evil”      George Bernard Shah

We work / study for what ? is this not to earn money and live happily ?

People with more money are satisfied with their life style and are in a position to help others too.

He who marries for love without money has GOOD NIGHTS & SORRY DAYS   unknown

6. Boys’ won’t cry

Virtually a child conditioning !!

“People cry not because they are weak,because they’ve been too strong for a long time” unknown

Boys too have feelings ,emotions, excitements and stages of sadness.

Otherwise why will Dr.Sivan,ISRO( The Indian Space Research Organisation ) chairman became teary eyed,when the Chandrayan mission was not successful ?There are many famous men like Andre Agassi and Obama too had teary eyes.

7.Blood is thicker than water

Unfortunately blood relatives are not interested in you,since they are struggling with their own problems and you have to fend yourself.

you can’t blame them.

‘Blood is always thicker than water,but some family members at times are on blood thinners’ unknown

Many times friends come to your rescue.The understanding with the friends anytime better than the blood relatives.

Ego and Jealousy play spoilsport in blood relationships.Don’t play victim card here !!

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Positivity in Negativity

Positivity in Negativity

I’m a firm believer in anxiety and the power of negative thinking     Gertrude Berg

Positive thinkers

Be happy,be positive,be successful etc are very popular statements, we come across these days.

This philosophy says, you wish any thing and be positive and you are sure to get it.

So simple ! Abracadabra !

Oh My God,if only life were that simple ! Positive thinking pattern does not work just like that.

The problem with us is that you have hundreds of options making you uncertain of your choice resulting in wishing for good ones thus going in for positive thinking.

Positive thinking is nothing but a kind of ‘being hopeful’ that can be ‘deceitful’.

Nothing more deceitful than ‘Don’t worry be happy’ attitude.

In positive thinking there is no fear factor,because your wishes are on a platter !

If you go on relying on these so called positive vibrations,there are chances that you may relax a bit become overconfident and lenient resulting in failures and disappointments.Do you wish this to happen ?

This is where negative thinking comes to the rescue.How is that ?

The psychology applied here is very simple.

“When I expect the worst,then I won’t be disappointed when things go wrong”

Respect your negative thoughts by not getting demotivated and try to broaden your horizons.Negative thoughts are natural.Welcome it.

  1. Negative thinking makes you understand the problems thoroughly and keeps you well prepared to face the eventuality and you are sure to come out successfully.
  2. Negative thinking makes you a stronger person mentally.( you become a realistic )
  3. Negative thinkers have greatest advantage in winning the situation because if plan A fails…you already have plan B in motion.
  4. Negative thinkers foresee the problems,willing to learn and easily convert failure into success.
  5. You develop confidence and survival instinct.

Check this youtube clip

“Being able to tolerate negative feelings can be crucial to a wide variety of life situations: delaying gratification, learning from bad experiences, truly hearing what other people have to say, and assessing our own circumstances.”
Julie K. Norem

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Complex over dark complexion

Complex over dark complexion

“God doesn’t Judge Dark Skin,He judges Dark Hearts”         Godstillspeaks.com

It’s a 2.8 minute read.

Why would any one wants to change their God given darker shade skin to nothing less than whitest ?

I have no idea about other non white country people,but in India it’s a different thing.

Famously it is said that Indians are fascinated by 3Gs- Ganga ( River Ganges ), Gandhi ( father of the nation ) and Gora ( means fair skinned ).

Fair skin appears to be India’s psyche.Many believe,India getting colonized for centuries by the fair skin invaders is the root cause,resulting in the inferiority complex.

Being born in India with dark complexion is highly disadvantageous more so if you are a girl.

If you come across matrimonial or TV advertisements or Bollywood,company interviews….. as far as selection of the candidate is concerned,preference is given to fair skinned people.Dark complexion kids are bullied with nicknames in the school life.

So to survive the rat race, you must have a whitened skin or white washed skin.

What choices you can have ?

On a lighter note it is said two choices are available..
Either you DIE ( Indian woman kills herself over ‘dark complexion taunts’ A tragic and sad decision) or DYE.

In Dye option. the fairness cream comes to your rescue.

Dark Complexion

No surprise India’s Skin lightening industry is said to be more than half a billion dollar industry.Men too started grooming with these products.

Why Lighter skin is preferred ?

Personally I feel it’s nothing but obsession.
Some of the reasons given by the people.

  • Lighter skin gives you a feeling of higher social class !
  • Fair skin tells the persons worth !
  • Advantage of getting married without hassles !
  • No need to beg for respect !
  • Can get roles easily in movies & advertisements !
  • Better career prospects !
  • Fair skin people are more attractive !
  • More confidence !
  • Cynosure of all eyes !

What is the Psychology of having dark complexion ?

  • Less attractive
  • said to be of low intelligence
  • leads unsuccessful life
  • Perceived as a negative personality
  • Subject of discrimination
  • Negative emotions
  • Judged as unfriendly even of doubtful credentials.

I don’t know from where the hell they get these thoughts.

Are there any side effects of the Skin Fairness products ?

Skin fairness products contain the following ingredients.A kind of toxic cocktail.

1. Hydro quinone. 2.Steroids.3.Mercury.4.Lead.5.Chromium.

These can cause irritation,inflammation,infection,scarring,liver & kidney failures,Skin cancer,Brain damage on prolonged usage.

Please share your thoughts .

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“Best friends forever”(BFF) Do you believe this ?

Best friends forever-Do you believe this

Lovers come and go.Friends remain forever……that is the saying.Is this true ? or a myth ?

Is it not true that we have the concept of besties ?

What is happening now ?

Virtual world in the form of Facebook,twitter or whats up have takeover. And people chat hours together.That means BFF can still exists.

But still,is it not for a purpose ?

Majority of the friendships likely to be based on some expectation,which you and I know.

Remember every one likely to have a goal.In these situations once the goal achieved,excuses start pouring !

Best friends forever-Do you believe this

BFFs take secrets to the grave

The philosophy of BFF depends on both of you,whether you want to make it a truth or myth.

My feeling is to make BFF a reality, there should be a sincere effort,dedication,total understanding,making time available for the constant interaction and most importantly the mutual trust.

” Wishing to be friend is a quick work,but friendship is a slow ripening fruit ” Aristotle

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What hurts the most ?

What hurts the most ?

I am not talking about your disappointments because of your assumptions,presumptions or expectations going wrong and you getting upset.

I am also not talking about failures,injustice,betrayal or loneliness

The list can be never ending as per you !

But I have just one answer and that is ‘Words’

Why ?

Because, Words’ are powerful !

Words hurt more than action.

‘Words’ can cause lot of emotional pain.

“Stick & Stones may break my bones,but words will break my soul”   unknown

Intensity of the emotional pain becomes much more if these ‘words’ come from someone,who means everything to us.

Seriously do ‘words’ hurt ?

Words per se don’t hurt.It is the subjective meaning of each of us give importance to them,that alone hurts.

Strangely we can never forget the ‘Hurtful words’,though one is in mood to forgive.Check this link.
One can forgive,but can one erase the bitterness ?

” Dogs bite sometimes,people bite all the time,with their hurtful words ” Mehmuet Murat Ildan

Finally

Do you know the funny part of the ways of human beings ?

“some people hurt you and then act like you hurt them”    unknown

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Another wasted day & part of your life!

According to me ( based on present day life style ) you are wasting part of your life if you are doing these things.

  1. You are always on phone,texting or browsing while at dinner or in the rest room,even during meetings.
  2. 90% of the day you are always complaining,be your job,love affair,family,friends and my list can be never ending.
  3. You believe in ‘Fairy tales’,which exists in movies and stories.
  4. You are stuck with past.You continue to regret your past and forget to move on and look for change in your life pattern
  5. You give least importance to maintaining your health,be food habits or exercises.
  6. You do not plan.
  7. You watch tv or pornography or play video games all the time.
  8. you have addictions like alcohol,drugs or smoking.
  9. You go on grumbling about your hurt feelings.
  10. you are busy gossiping and lying almost all the time.
  11. You are judging all the time someones way of life. ( Irony here !….this includes me here because I am making a list based on my thinking that you are wasting your day and life ! )

“A great chunk of our lives is wasted on thoughts that bring nothing. We all think about something but, in the end, we only close the day thinking a lot and doing nothing but little.”
Ernest Agyemang Yeboah

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Is growing old,a count down or count up ?

Growing old

Don’t regret growing old.It’s a privilege denied to many

Is it not a fact that we dread getting old ?

Why people in general have a defeatist attitude towards aging process ?

Is it not a bias against aged people ?

How is the way you want to be addressed as you are growing old ?

Elderly person,senior citizen,oldy,senile or old-timer,learned man/woman ?

General feeling is aged people lose their capacity to discharge their responsibilities,resulting in majority going into depression.

And ‘forgetfulness’ is blamed because of aging.

Old age said to be the seat of illness,reduced reflexes,loss of memory etc.I do agree.But all is not lost.

To all the senior citizens in the world, hey,stop sulking and remember the saying of Robert Browning, ” Grow old with me ,the best is yet to be “

When does old age begin ?

Old age is said to start after 45.

Scientists define any age after 60.

Researchers have discovered many advantages of aging.

And how do you summarize aging process in a positive way ?

On a humorous note

” The best thing about growing older is that one is not yet dead !”

1.Knowledge and maturity of old people is extremely beneficial.

2.Wisdom of aged people at its best, and all the times.No surprise the proverb ‘ Old is Gold’ is popular.

3.Old people don’t care what others think about them and can take independent decisions.

4. Lack of stress since bringing up the family is a finished chapter.No worries.

5.Spending time with Grand children.

6.Ability to spend more time with loved ones.

7. Old people rarely make foolish mistakes.

8. Old people are better connected and this is helpful in times of distress.

9. Senior citizen benefits,priorities at airport etc.

10.No taking craps from the idiots.

11. You have nothing to lose.

12. Emotional maturity at its best.

“Youth is a gift of nature,but age is a work of art ” Stanislaw Jerzy Lec

“wrinkles mean you laughed,Grey hair means you cared,and scars mean you lived” unknown

Wishing senior citizens a wonderful time.

Dear readers feel free to write about your thoughts on old age and the advantages it can bring to the society.

Thank you.
Philosophy Through Photography

Overthinking

Overthinking

“We are dying from over thinking. We are slowly killing ourselves by thinking about everything. Think. Think. Think. You can never trust the human mind anyway. It’s a death” Anthony Hopkins

Over thinking is exactly what it means,thinking too much.

11 quotes to remember when you over think:

1. You will never be free until you free yourself from the prison of your own false thoughts.

2. Before you talk, listen. Before you react, think. Before you criticize, wait. Before you pray, forgive. Before you quit, try!

3. Stop worrying about what can go wrong, and get excited about what can go right.

4. Overthinking – the art of creating problems that weren’t even there.

5. There is nothing in this world that can trouble you as much as your own thoughts.

6. Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but it doesn’t get you anywhere.

7. Stop overthinking. You can’t control everything, just let it be.

8. Dear mind, please stop thinking so much at night. I need sleep.

9. Overthinking is the biggest cause of unhappiness.

10.Don’t ruin a new day by thinking about yesterday. Let it go.

11.A quiet mind is able to hear intuition over fear.

Can you escape from overthinking ?

My feeling is that you can not escape from overthinking.but you can bring down the stress level by having a positive attitude,trying to recollect the above 11 quotes.

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Does Age difference matter in Friendship ?

does age matters in friendship ?

‘We need old friends to help us grow old and new friends help us stay young”Letty Cottin Pogrebin

It’s true that peers share common interest because they are in the same age group,but still you can share interests with people who are younger or older than you.In fact you can learn a lot from different kinds of conversations.

Personally I feel there is no age limit.

Age becomes just a number on many occasions,and friendship is no different.

Remember Friendship just happens.

Never judge people by the age.

As long as you share mutual interest,comfortable with each other,and even supportive in situations that demand your attention difference in age makes no difference.

The joy that the friendship gives irrespective of the age difference can not be explained by these two friends concerned.

Friendship vibes are a wonderful feelings as long as

  • you don’t cross the limits or
  • Become possessive or
  • Have High expectations or
  • Develop emotional dependency.

Doesn’t everybody deserve a Best Friend Forever ?

Follow your heart but carry your mind too.

” One of the best things about Friendship is that age doesn’t matter ”  Anonymous

What are your thoughts on this subject ?

Please share your views

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