Complex over dark complexion

Complex over dark complexion

“God doesn’t Judge Dark Skin,He judges Dark Hearts”         Godstillspeaks.com

It’s a 2.8 minute read.

Why would any one wants to change their God given darker shade skin to nothing less than whitest ?

I have no idea about other non white country people,but in India it’s a different thing.

Famously it is said that Indians are fascinated by 3Gs- Ganga ( River Ganges ), Gandhi ( father of the nation ) and Gora ( means fair skinned ).

Fair skin appears to be India’s psyche.Many believe,India getting colonized for centuries by the fair skin invaders is the root cause,resulting in the inferiority complex.

Being born in India with dark complexion is highly disadvantageous more so if you are a girl.

If you come across matrimonial or TV advertisements or Bollywood,company interviews….. as far as selection of the candidate is concerned,preference is given to fair skinned people.Dark complexion kids are bullied with nicknames in the school life.

So to survive the rat race, you must have a whitened skin or white washed skin.

What choices you can have ?

On a lighter note it is said two choices are available..
Either you DIE ( Indian woman kills herself over ‘dark complexion taunts’ A tragic and sad decision) or DYE.

In Dye option. the fairness cream comes to your rescue.

Dark Complexion

No surprise India’s Skin lightening industry is said to be more than half a billion dollar industry.Men too started grooming with these products.

Why Lighter skin is preferred ?

Personally I feel it’s nothing but obsession.
Some of the reasons given by the people.

  • Lighter skin gives you a feeling of higher social class !
  • Fair skin tells the persons worth !
  • Advantage of getting married without hassles !
  • No need to beg for respect !
  • Can get roles easily in movies & advertisements !
  • Better career prospects !
  • Fair skin people are more attractive !
  • More confidence !
  • Cynosure of all eyes !

What is the Psychology of having dark complexion ?

  • Less attractive
  • said to be of low intelligence
  • leads unsuccessful life
  • Perceived as a negative personality
  • Subject of discrimination
  • Negative emotions
  • Judged as unfriendly even of doubtful credentials.

I don’t know from where the hell they get these thoughts.

Are there any side effects of the Skin Fairness products ?

Skin fairness products contain the following ingredients.A kind of toxic cocktail.

1. Hydro quinone. 2.Steroids.3.Mercury.4.Lead.5.Chromium.

These can cause irritation,inflammation,infection,scarring,liver & kidney failures,Skin cancer,Brain damage on prolonged usage.

Please share your thoughts .

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“Best friends forever”(BFF) Do you believe this ?

Best friends forever-Do you believe this

Lovers come and go.Friends remain forever……that is the saying.Is this true ? or a myth ?

Is it not true that we have the concept of besties ?

What is happening now ?

Virtual world in the form of Facebook,twitter or whats up have takeover. And people chat hours together.That means BFF can still exists.

But still,is it not for a purpose ?

Majority of the friendships likely to be based on some expectation,which you and I know.

Remember every one likely to have a goal.In these situations once the goal achieved,excuses start pouring !

Best friends forever-Do you believe this

BFFs take secrets to the grave

The philosophy of BFF depends on both of you,whether you want to make it a truth or myth.

My feeling is to make BFF a reality, there should be a sincere effort,dedication,total understanding,making time available for the constant interaction and most importantly the mutual trust.

” Wishing to be friend is a quick work,but friendship is a slow ripening fruit ” Aristotle

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What hurts the most ?

What hurts the most ?

I am not talking about your disappointments because of your assumptions,presumptions or expectations going wrong and you getting upset.

I am also not talking about failures,injustice,betrayal or loneliness

The list can be never ending as per you !

But I have just one answer and that is ‘Words’

Why ?

Because, Words’ are powerful !

Words hurt more than action.

‘Words’ can cause lot of emotional pain.

“Stick & Stones may break my bones,but words will break my soul”   unknown

Intensity of the emotional pain becomes much more if these ‘words’ come from someone,who means everything to us.

Seriously do ‘words’ hurt ?

Words per se don’t hurt.It is the subjective meaning of each of us give importance to them,that alone hurts.

Strangely we can never forget the ‘Hurtful words’,though one is in mood to forgive.Check this link.
One can forgive,but can one erase the bitterness ?

” Dogs bite sometimes,people bite all the time,with their hurtful words ” Mehmuet Murat Ildan

Finally

Do you know the funny part of the ways of human beings ?

“some people hurt you and then act like you hurt them”    unknown

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Another wasted day & part of your life!

According to me ( based on present day life style ) you are wasting part of your life if you are doing these things.

  1. You are always on phone,texting or browsing while at dinner or in the rest room,even during meetings.
  2. 90% of the day you are always complaining,be your job,love affair,family,friends and my list can be never ending.
  3. You believe in ‘Fairy tales’,which exists in movies and stories.
  4. You are stuck with past.You continue to regret your past and forget to move on and look for change in your life pattern
  5. You give least importance to maintaining your health,be food habits or exercises.
  6. You do not plan.
  7. You watch tv or pornography or play video games all the time.
  8. you have addictions like alcohol,drugs or smoking.
  9. You go on grumbling about your hurt feelings.
  10. you are busy gossiping and lying almost all the time.
  11. You are judging all the time someones way of life. ( Irony here !….this includes me here because I am making a list based on my thinking that you are wasting your day and life ! )

“A great chunk of our lives is wasted on thoughts that bring nothing. We all think about something but, in the end, we only close the day thinking a lot and doing nothing but little.”
Ernest Agyemang Yeboah

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Is growing old,a count down or count up ?

Growing old

Don’t regret growing old.It’s a privilege denied to many

Is it not a fact that we dread getting old ?

Why people in general have a defeatist attitude towards aging process ?

Is it not a bias against aged people ?

How is the way you want to be addressed as you are growing old ?

Elderly person,senior citizen,oldy,senile or old-timer,learned man/woman ?

General feeling is aged people lose their capacity to discharge their responsibilities,resulting in majority going into depression.

And ‘forgetfulness’ is blamed because of aging.

Old age said to be the seat of illness,reduced reflexes,loss of memory etc.I do agree.But all is not lost.

To all the senior citizens in the world, hey,stop sulking and remember the saying of Robert Browning, ” Grow old with me ,the best is yet to be “

When does old age begin ?

Old age is said to start after 45.

Scientists define any age after 60.

Researchers have discovered many advantages of aging.

And how do you summarize aging process in a positive way ?

On a humorous note

” The best thing about growing older is that one is not yet dead !”

1.Knowledge and maturity of old people is extremely beneficial.

2.Wisdom of aged people at its best, and all the times.No surprise the proverb ‘ Old is Gold’ is popular.

3.Old people don’t care what others think about them and can take independent decisions.

4. Lack of stress since bringing up the family is a finished chapter.No worries.

5.Spending time with Grand children.

6.Ability to spend more time with loved ones.

7. Old people rarely make foolish mistakes.

8. Old people are better connected and this is helpful in times of distress.

9. Senior citizen benefits,priorities at airport etc.

10.No taking craps from the idiots.

11. You have nothing to lose.

12. Emotional maturity at its best.

“Youth is a gift of nature,but age is a work of art ” Stanislaw Jerzy Lec

“wrinkles mean you laughed,Grey hair means you cared,and scars mean you lived” unknown

Wishing senior citizens a wonderful time.

Dear readers feel free to write about your thoughts on old age and the advantages it can bring to the society.

Thank you.
Philosophy Through Photography

Overthinking

Overthinking

“We are dying from over thinking. We are slowly killing ourselves by thinking about everything. Think. Think. Think. You can never trust the human mind anyway. It’s a death” Anthony Hopkins

Over thinking is exactly what it means,thinking too much.

11 quotes to remember when you over think:

1. You will never be free until you free yourself from the prison of your own false thoughts.

2. Before you talk, listen. Before you react, think. Before you criticize, wait. Before you pray, forgive. Before you quit, try!

3. Stop worrying about what can go wrong, and get excited about what can go right.

4. Overthinking – the art of creating problems that weren’t even there.

5. There is nothing in this world that can trouble you as much as your own thoughts.

6. Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but it doesn’t get you anywhere.

7. Stop overthinking. You can’t control everything, just let it be.

8. Dear mind, please stop thinking so much at night. I need sleep.

9. Overthinking is the biggest cause of unhappiness.

10.Don’t ruin a new day by thinking about yesterday. Let it go.

11.A quiet mind is able to hear intuition over fear.

Can you escape from overthinking ?

My feeling is that you can not escape from overthinking.but you can bring down the stress level by having a positive attitude,trying to recollect the above 11 quotes.

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Does Age difference matter in Friendship ?

does age matters in friendship ?

‘We need old friends to help us grow old and new friends help us stay young”Letty Cottin Pogrebin

It’s true that peers share common interest because they are in the same age group,but still you can share interests with people who are younger or older than you.In fact you can learn a lot from different kinds of conversations.

Personally I feel there is no age limit.

Age becomes just a number on many occasions,and friendship is no different.

Remember Friendship just happens.

Never judge people by the age.

As long as you share mutual interest,comfortable with each other,and even supportive in situations that demand your attention difference in age makes no difference.

The joy that the friendship gives irrespective of the age difference can not be explained by these two friends concerned.

Friendship vibes are a wonderful feelings as long as

  • you don’t cross the limits or
  • Become possessive or
  • Have High expectations or
  • Develop emotional dependency.

Doesn’t everybody deserve a Best Friend Forever ?

Follow your heart but carry your mind too.

” One of the best things about Friendship is that age doesn’t matter ”  Anonymous

What are your thoughts on this subject ?

Please share your views

Thanking you ,

Philosophy Through Photography

Life is a beautiful lie and death is a painful truth. Do you believe this ??

Life is a beautiful lie and death is a painful truth

It’s 2.7 minute read.

Life is a beautiful lie:

I can give many examples but a few suffice.

1. Lies are loved and truths are hated.

2. Ugly looking person suffers at every stage.

3. God is remembered only when problems are faced.

4. Every one has a dark secret.

5. Men look at women in ‘sex angle’ irrespective of age or relation.younger the woman better.

6.Money overtakes health,family,friendship and ultimately happiness.

7. Remember people only like you for what you have ,and not for what you are.The more rich you are,greater respect you command.

8. It’s impossible for you to meet your soulmate.twin flame or kindred spirit.All humbug.Each soul is unique,The theories are good for reading and for some one to enact.

9. Appetite grows with wealth.Regarding the nature of appetite ….I leave it to you.

10. Nobody cares for anything until it happens to them.

11. Menstrual cycle ( bleeding ) every month for almost 40 yrs is truly harsh.

12. Life is unfair right from birth,some are born disabled,some born rich,some born poor.

13. You have to live with the constant judgement by others of you .

14.The world is a cruel place.

15. Social media killing people.

16. The person you love most, hurts you a lot.

17. You can’t make every one happy.

18. All good things have to end.

19. People change.Friendship changes.Nothing is permanent.

20. You get what you get ,not what you deserve.

21. Life hurts a lot more than death.

22. Humans are amazing in that their sex is not limited to the same species.

23. The one certainty in life is uncertainty,

24. You only live once, so enjoy the life is rubbish and not possible.

25. Life is fundamentally sad,but with tinges of happiness.

Death is a painful truth:

Life is a beautiful lie and death is a painful truth

1Whether people be of high or low birth,rich or poor,old or young ,enlightened or confused,they are all alike in that the will one day die. Yamamoto Tsunetomo

2. No body cares to remember you forever after you die.

3. Death is the last intimate thing we ever do. Laurel K Hamilton

4. You can’t prevent death.

5. Death is not painful.But fear of death is painful.

Remember Woody Allen’s famous quote ?

“I am not afraid of death. I just don’t want to be there when it happens.”

Thank you.

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Do you worry about how to stop worrying ?

Do you worry about how to stop worrying ?

“So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.”
Matthew 6:25-34

I am not here not to give the million reasons why we worry, I am here to stress the point that we worry forever.

Worry is the main cause of worry.

We worry because we think a lot.

We think a lot because we imagine a lot.

We imagine a lot because we think a lot.

So the vicious cycle formed.And there in no stop to it.

Is it because we lack faith in ourselves ? I don’t know.

Cambridge Dictionary defines worry as

“To think about problems or unpleasant things that might happen in a way that makes you feel unhappy and frightened”.

I can tell the  three broad reasons why we worry.

1.We worry because we foresee our unknown future with millions of possibilities,majority with negative thoughts.

2. We worry because of our assumptions.

3. We worry about the past that happened,we worry about the present in real-time happenings and we worry about future because of uncertainty.

My point here is it is impossible to stop worrying……… however much saints bombard you with saintly advice regarding dos and don’ts.

Again I reiterate ” Life without worry is not possible” Remember you worry till the end of your life.I am brutally frank .In other words……

If you worry …you are breathing.

If you are not worrying …you are dead.

So don’t make any attempts to stop worrying otherwise  you are the loser at every attempt.

Don’t worry ,be happy ……….. is just not practical !!

“Worry is misuse of imagination”  Dan Zadra

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