How long will you be remembered after you die?

We all leave legacy be good are bad.And if you think you will be remembered for that,you are sadly mistaken.

That is what happens in life.

But once you are dead,do you really care whether any body remembers you at all !

Don’t be shocked to the fact that even your kith and kin forget you over the time.Don’t blame them !

My guess is if you leave a legacy of kindness may be you will be remembered for sometime.

Occasionally children may recollect what their dad or mom told them.

Wife or husband surely miss the other person and cherish the shared bonds from time to time.

What I am trying to tell is,the frequency of thinking of that person will be less and less as time moves on,though memories remain.( Memories can not fade)

Instead

Don’t you think it is a great feeling when people who are associated with you, remember you,when you are alive ?

I conclude…..

To strive to be remembered after death is a vain attempt to achieve immortality

There is quiz too….to know how you will be remembered after you die ! (just for Fun don’t take it seriously.)

how you will be remembered after death

Thank you  Philosophy Through Photography

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Family Quarrel

family quarrel
No family is perfect ! We argue,we fight,we even stop talking to each other at times,but in the end family is family….the love will always be there. quoteslover.com
Definition :To quarrel is to fight — but usually not physically. Quarreling is a fact of life, occurring between the best of friends, in the happiest of marriages, and between parents and their children. vocabulary.com It is a disagreement about something. Why we quarrel in the very first place ? Somewhere I read ( I am not able to recollect the source) what is known as BIG 5 causing friction, leading to argument. 1.Money, 2.sex, 3.raising kids, 4.in-laws and 5.house/office work.Of course one can broaden the BIG 5 into various sub-classes. Disagreement can lead from just anger to outburst of pent-up feelings. The quarrels can stretch from very few initially to increased frequency over the time. The reasons can be from silly to far serious issues. The whole problem is because none is willing to admit their mistakes, continue the arguments,even competing with each other, with ego factor playing an active role. Whenever there is dispute remember,
“Family problems come in all sizes and shapes.Some are short-lived,easily managed,while others are more chronic and difficult to handle” unknown
What I am trying to tell is that it takes time to deal the problems and one must be patient.One must realize that,
“Families and their problems go on and they are not solved….they are dealt with”. Roger Ebert,
When we are friendly with the entire world ( don’t say…. this is because of survival instinct ),why can’t we show same friendliness to our family members? You know the old adage
“You can choose the friends,but you can’t choose the family”
In other words,since blood is thicker than water, all the more you can’t afford to quarrel with your family members.Why don’t you compliment the other for the good things in them How best to avoid family quarrels ? Some tips which I think,can help! ( My 12 commandments ) 1.Stay calm in spite of the urge to respond angrily.Never raise your voice. 2.Be a good listener. 3.Reduce your emotional scale to zero. 4.Let there not be communication gap.Make it clear as to what the other person is saying and meaning. 5.Impress the other person,what actually you meant or intended to do. 6.Never bring the past or unrelated issues. 7.Try to solve the problem and not to win the argument. 8.Put yourself in the others shoes. 9.Don’t stockpile your issues and vent at a stretch irrelevantly. 10.forget & forgive 11.Take it easy. 12.Have faith in the Lord.
“Problems are like washing machines,they twist us,spin us,knock us around but in the end,we come out cleaner,brighter and better than before” – unknown
What are your thoughts ? Thank you.   Philosophy through photography image credits-pixabay, -quoteswiseoldsayings.com

Does your mind wander during prayers ?

grayscale photography of man sitting on grass field
Are you able to concentrate on God and Just God alone and pray without any thoughts interfering the prayers ? 1.Are you the one just doing the lip movements while praying,but wander in a different world  full of one thought jumping over to the next? 2.This split second intrusion of your thoughts (whether negative or positive) during prayers really haunting you ? Is this making you guilty ? If it is so, believe me …..you are not alone. Is it  because our brains have multiple components,each doing different jobs in quick succession, thus making us, difficult to concentrate ? Are these intrusive thoughts, a basic human nature ? ( since we can not stop thoughts from the brain) Can you control your mind when you are already burdened with your ‘Life’? (burden of life is a reality for all of us). Is it possible to override these thoughts ? How to solve this problem ? So many questions…..but I am finding very difficult to get one perfect answer (though plenty of answers are available on the net,which I am not convinced) which helps to really concentrate on God nothing but God . I don’t have an answer.Do you have one ? Please guide me. Some say Meditation helps
“The goal of meditation is not to control your thoughts,it is to stop letting them control you” theageofenlightement
Again I am not sure of Meditation and how it can help control ones’ mind,since mind sprouts the thoughts continuously.Mind won’t keep quite Even during the sleep, we are troubled by the thoughts in the form of Dreams! My guess is just ignore them.And Pray God to put an end to these interfering thoughts.Or  appeal to God for forgiveness and say “I trust you and I surrender”  Once we surrender with sincerity,God will appreciate. Please share your thoughts and any solution ( I mean based on your experience), if at all available.Thank you in advance. Thank you.   Philosophy through photography IS-pixel.com  

My goal for 2019 !

Happy new year
My goal for 2019 is To accomplish the goals of 2018, Which I should have done in 2017, Because I promised them in 2015, And planned them in 2014…….. Jokes apart…. Let us be frank…..Most of us fail to achieve what we plan for the new year ! It’s alright ! Take a deep breath.Relax…. It is said 80% people fail to stick to their new year resolutions longer than six Weeks.Can you believe this ? Yes it’s true. Sometimes failure is a motivation for achieving our task.Don’t get disappointed.I am one among you !
“Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.” Samuel Beckett 
I loved Samuel Beckett’s above quote…Fail better !! 10 reasons why new year’s resolutions fail To all the WP population there, Happy new year ! Thank you.   Philosophy through photography IS-pixabay./merrychristmashappynewyear2017.org/positivityblog.com

‘Why not me God’ instead of ‘Why me God’ ?

Why not me instead why me ?,life

Why not me instead of why me ?

Existence is a strange bargain.Life owes us little;we owe it everything. The only true happiness comes from squandering ourselves for a purpose.’William Cowpe”

Every one has to face some problem or other.

Describing somebody that ‘the fellow is born with silver spoon’ is utter rubbish.

Everybody has to undergo suffering.

Whether the person suffers from cancer or just mild fever,or any other reason doesn’t matter.

Whether the person is rich or poor,doesn’t matter.

Good or bad doesn’t matter.

Whether the person is pious or unholy ,doesn’t matter.

Whether the person is criminal or law-abiding doesn’t matter.

Whether the person is moral or immoral doesn’t matter.

Whether a new-born suffers or a 100+ old person suffers doesn’t matter.

I can go on and on….

The point I am trying to stress is ,there is no escape from suffering once you are born.

The only difference is , some suffer more and some suffer less.

Again I don’t have an answer.

Life is pleasant. Death is peaceful. It’s the transition that’s troublesome. Isaac Asimov

When one suffers,the first question one puts invariable is “Oh God ! why me ?” as if one is pure (at heart on par with Almighty), and rest of the population deserves to suffer.

Remember there are others in this world,whose suffering is more than yours.

Instead,why can’t one boldly say ” why not me ?”,since life owes us nothing.

By saying so, Are we not gaining confidence in ourselves to face the eventuality ?

To be frank, why should one get exemption from suffering in one’s life ?

Is this not God’s way of telling us to be

  • Brave,
  • Develop courage,
  • Search for solutions( inventions,science etc)
  • Improve inner strength,
  • Understand the meaning of life ( philosophy),
  • Know the value of time.

So we are thankful to the Almighty for giving us an opportunity to survive and gain strength from sufferings.

So our thoughts should be

Why not me instead of why me ?

What are your thoughts ?

Do you agree ?

If you do not agree what is the reason ?

Thank you.   Philosophy through photography

Inspiration 

Anamika’s Blog

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Have you ever hugged a troll ??

How to win war on internet trolls?
This article is a 2.5 minute read. This post is in response to my experience with a reader,who is from non-English speaking country, who mistook my English,and became angry.I fully understand this situation in this particular scenario.I even had to take help of fellow readers(English Pundits) But many times we are not that fortunate( I mean language problem) and are abused by trolls. Trolling is done by cowardly people,and they do because,they oppose somebody’s point of view or they derive pleasure by causing mental agony (sadist ), or they hurt the feelings,out of ignorance of the topic being discussed.They troll because they think that nobody knows their identity. Internet troll can become sometimes nasty and the person affected may lose sleep forever. You can call Internet Troll as a polished version of mythical creatures in Scandinavian folklore. If you think trolls are after you…..what to do ? Very simple. Just Image You are hugging them…that’s all…. and move on by ignoring them.Don’t even respond,however strong the urge to react! There are two kinds of Hugs.( my version) 1. Distant Hug-reach out to the person,when the occasion arises and hug in your imagination and you get peace of mind. 2.Physical hug-this you can call it as healing hug. Time to Hug Hugs are one of the reasons God gave us arms.So stretch out your arm to some one today.Reach out to those you love or do not love…it will warm the heart of the giver and give light to the soul of the recipients. ‘unknown’ Healing Hug Hugging is a good medicine.Scientists say that hugging is a form of communication because it can say things you don’t have words for. And the nicest thing about a hug is that you usually can’t give one without getting one ‘Unknown’ We are fortunate in WP since we are surrounded mostly by Gentlemen & Gentlewomen,who either agree or disagree…and there the matter ends ! How do you manage your trolls ?

Did anybody troll you ? Please share your experiences.

Image source © Dr.Sridhar,2018 All Rights Reserved Thank you.   Philosophy through photography

It has always been you and it will always be you….

Loyalty
“When you get married, your loyalty, first and foremost, is to your spouse, and to the family that you create together.”                                                                                                                         – Phil McGraw, quoteambition.co
When you feel that every person in this world has deserted you, You are never truly alone, I am still there for you Take a moment,right here ,right now, and thank them for that No mater how bad your day is, there is always a happy face waiting for you to get home. ‘unknown’ Thank you.   Philosophy through photography

Love is scarce- Really ?

Love is scarce- Really ?

Only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love.

― Henry Miller

Why this happens ?

We all  think that, Love means romance.But it is not so. There are 7 types of love.
  1. Storge- Familial love
  2. Phila-friendship ( shared goodwill)
  3. Eros-Sexual or passionate love
  4. Agape-Universal love ( unconditional love)
  5. Ludus-Playful or uncommitted love
  6. Pragma- Long term love ( married people)
  7. Philautia-self love ( healthy or unhealthy)
source Psychologytoday.com, Quora) My discussion is limited to the married couple.

Think for a second.

Can you tell  the difference between ‘school and life‘ ?
” In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test.   In life,you are given a test,that teaches you the lesson” Tom Bodett
So what I am trying to tell is Life gives an opportunity to learn lessons  from our experience, in this situation….. day-to-day problems faced by the couple,thus giving them an opportunity, making them more accommodating,understanding and helpful to each other. Thus we can become wiser by experiencing these experiences. But here is the hitch. The problem comes in the unknown form of ‘E G O  nullifying all the benefits of life’s lessons,which we learn over the course of time. Why can’t we make an attempt to look into this ? Why can not we prevent this devil before it strikes us ? When we are able to manage life style diseases with sugar-free,fat-free,salt free,gluten-free etc. etc…why can’t we give a try for Ego- free ?

The only way to achieve peace and harmony is becoming ‘EGO LESS’,

and this should be the  ultimate outcome of your life’s lessons,if you are willing to learn.

Another aspect is ,to be able to differentiate, the difference between love & Possession.Don’t think ,just because you love the person…you got right to possess the person.( as if the person is a property) Remember love is selfless,coming from the bottom of the heart with total dedication,sincerity and commitment to lead a supportive life together.

And so…..

We make our life miserable because we never make an attempt to understand the full potential of true love,and thus we make ‘love’ scarce in spite of itabundance. True Love gives you, the real experience of what all you dream and Ego gives you, all the heartache. Thank you.   Philosophy through photography
“A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love”. – Max Muller

You wanna know… who you are to me ?

Do you know ..who you're to me ?
One day you will ask me which is more important? My life or yours? I will say mine and you will walk away not knowing that you are my life. Khalil Gibran

“Never waste your time trying to explain who you are to people who

are committed to misunderstanding you”

Dream Hampton Thank you.   Philosophy through photography Pixabay