Why do we need an alternate perception of ourselves. You know what I mean? Don’t you?
May be since our childhood everyone has talked about that one person – in the center of the story – the Hero. What about others? Can hero do everything that he wants without others’ help? Is his role more significant than those living around him? And is he an ultimate destination of individual traits?
More importantly, does everyone want to be like him and leave their own characteristics, responsibilities, roles and aspirations behind just to attain a ‘portrayed-perfection’ of social and interpersonal qualities?
In every social setup Hero is more like a godly-figure; for everything he does is correct and if not, he still is worshiped for his casualness.
But wait, aren’t there more people who would complete this story – other characters? I believe those ‘other characters’ are individual heroes of their individual spaces and quests, for none can replace you and do the what you were doing with same intent, intensity and good-faith as you.
It makes me wonder – why don’t we explore the hero within ourselves? In us, lies a spark which is so powerful that can make everything else look lame, but we never ‘go-inside’ and look for it. In fact, we hold the ground we belong and there is no match to our capabilities that some ‘Hero’ can replace. Let me ask you this: can your kids be loved by a different father the same way you do? Or can your girlfriend be more cared for by a different man?
Everyone is hero of their own story. Difference is, how you want to run the show? It is your story; your charm and your decision which would matter in the end as to where would your next scene propagate. Will it be a happy moment, a tensed situation or a let-it-go sigh of loss?
We spend most of the time in our lives trying to portray someone we are not. Interestingly, people mostly never get convinced of what you have been trying to get them convinced for for years! They know, somehow, the truth… the real you. So why not stop being something that you are not?
This situation has been the same for centuries or may be even before that and it continues.
In every era, whichever has passed by, the social setup has made sure that they project someone as an ideal of individual traits which would make everything else look so lame that people not abiding to the ‘desired’ characteristics are either considered unsuccessful or, worse, evil.
The evolution of concept of hero is of course not new. In almost every epic, lore, book or artifacts from history we have seen, read and interpreted a character leading others. In each of these the motion is lead by some individual towards fulfillment of a greater-goal which apparently satisfies a noble cause and brings value to the society at large. Now if you look closely, there are actions involved which lead to a mass development of a certain kind of change, and however small the impact might be, when we talk about society, of course we are considering individuals, most of whom might be convinced by the idea of this ‘revolution’ but there may be someone who has a different perception of the situation and whom idea, if considered, can be of greater benefits, for all. And of course, there may be some others – who are reluctant to any change whatsoever as they are not convinced with this idea of change.
Similarly, however small or large the context may be there are perceptions involved which make it a larger movement or a small change in the lives of people in that domain. For instance, electrification of a distant village may not be a new task for administration but the same is beginning of hope for brighter future to the villagers.
Perception of, and setup of, a society defines the kind of hero they need to drive their interests.
Per our inherited characters, and aspirations, we tend to follow our own heroes. People may choose a renowned actor, a local leader, or a successful businessperson as their role model and follow them blindly, forgetting their own qualities, capabilities and interests. But, you can be more than what you think of yourself. For your whole life you try to be more like your perceived character, or rather, ‘alternate ideal-self‘. Your aspirations are driven and in fact mislead in some situations due to this attitude. Such attitude is not only a problem for you but also for others who are dependent on you. You might feel inferior to what you want to be, but think this: what if you already are excel and trying to cut yourself down-size just to fit in someone else’s shoes! All of us need a little introspection of ourselves for we are the heroes of our stories. No one else can be so perfect than us to suit the role, fit-in and be that leader who can bring the change that you want.
However small your world may be, however scattered your aspirations may get and whatever job you are in, it is you who can do this; you are the individual who’s action will define the future of your family and self. For no one else is the hero of this story but you.
Originally posted at Sanjeev Kumar Pandey's Blog