Happy New Year 2020… Bye Bye 2019

One more year has gone but it has made us strong..
The path was long but we walked with a hope and a song..
There were fears, tears and cheers as we travelled through the year..
We know that God doesn’t require us to “BE the BEST..”
He just wants us to “DO our BEST..”

As The New Year Approaches, Promise Yourself That You Will Make Positive
Changes In Your Life. Write It On Your Heart That Everyday Is Going To Be A Special Day In The New Year 2020…Cheers To The New Year Ahead !!

NEW YEAR is the time to bid farewell to the Old Year, Welcome the coming year, forget past memories that are no longer useful or worth pondering upon.. Let us Forget and forgive..

On this New Year, It is my wish that all of you have a wonderful JANUARY, a lovely FEBRUARY, a Peaceful MARCH, a stress-free APRIL, a fun-filled MAY, and Joy that lasts everyday from JUNE to NOVEMBER, and finally a very happy DECEMBER….

Wishing All of You A Year Full Of Happiness; Success; Peace; Prosperity;
Health & Wealth & Also A Year Full Of Luck, Love, Laughter and blessed with the Happy Memories of 2019 while looking forward to a great Journey ahead in 2020.

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Hierarchy in an Organisation

Hierarchy in an Organisation

A hierarchy is an arrangement of items in which the items are represented as being “above”, “below”, or “at the same level as” one another. Hierarchy is an important concept in a wide variety of fields, such as philosophy, mathematics, computer science, organizational theory, systems theory, and the social sciences

Hierarchy describes a system that organizes or ranks things, often according to power or importance. … Also known as a pecking order or power structure, a hierarchy is a formalized or simply implied understanding of who’s on top or what’s most important.

The three levels of management typically found in an organization are low-level management, middle-level management, and top-level management. The three levels of management typically found in an organization are low-level management, middle-level management, and top-level management.

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Your importance and worth in an Organisation is solely dependant on which hierarchy level you belong; I have practically experienced this in my entire work experience of almost 25 years now.

Example of discrimination by hierarchy…

My daughter was appearing for her board exams, I had accumulated all my leave over the years when she was small so that I could be with her during her crucial academic period; when I approached my Seniors I was ridiculed that children don’t study when parents are around !! Since I belonged to a middle class family with a poor financial background, I couldn’t afford best quality coaching classes for her; she studied what was taught to her in her normal school. I had planned atleast 2 -3 months of leave, but all I could manage was 2 -3 days with her to give moral support. By God’s grace and blessings of my well-wishers she scored very high marks and made us feel very proud. But till today she blames “mummy when I needed you were not with me”..

During this same period, one of my seniors from the management team had her daughter too having board exams; being a Manager she didn’t have to clock in hours in the office, coming at 3pm and leaving at 5pm was permitted to her for 6months since her daughter is studying (our office timings were 8am to 5pm and a minute here or there would entail deduction of salary) but then this rule was only for Non-Managers

Another strong example – when you are on leave

When you are on leave (your eligible leave sanctioned well in advance by your Line Manager), you have planned a small outing with your family – just a 2-3 hours drive from your residence or to your native to attend a family domestic issue (you are not a Manager so cannot afford a foreign tour). In such a situation, you receive a phone call or an urgent email from your office; you are supposed to answer and resolve with the same efficiency as if you were sitting in the office. This is applicable for weekends and after office working hours too (since you are a Non-Manager).

Once I dared to “not” answer such a phone call, it was 2pm on a Sunday– I was having my afternoon nap, so I missed the few so called “urgent” calls, I reverted the calls later around 5pm and even opened my laptop, duly completed the tasks by 7pm… all done I was glad only to discover later that there was a memo in my name, a remark in my performance review that I never pickup calls, I work in silos, I am unfit for team-building and what not…..the person who wrote about this gets promotion as a Manager and I get a life time black mark…. All because I am a Non-Manager !!

One more distinct example – you are sick

When you report sick, you are still supposed to come to office and prove that you are sick, then also someone will poke you and check whether you are acting sick, but a Manager is sick, you are not supposed to disturb them at all..

Another discreet example   – team lunch / dinner

You are Never Invited for any team lunch / dinner because we have a policy of cost-cutting. Indeed, there would be lunch or dinner invites, but then you need to shell out equal contribution (hierarchy is not important here). If you refuse then you are labelled as not supporting team building; so you pay and enjoy.

At the same time, there are quarterly team events of Managers but then they are “paid by the company” because they are Managers !!

I pray to God, in my next re-birth, please make me a Manager directly, so that atleast I will take care of a Non-Manager and their feelings, I would give them some respite so they don’t hate Managers…

Recently there was a competition and I won some Gift vouchers, I was so excited and proud of my own self – out of 13000 participants, 1000 entries were 100% and 21 winners globally, I was the only one from India – isn’t that a remarkable achievement ?? my name appeared in our Global News, my Global Functional Head even sent me a personal congratulations email, BUT none of my Indian Colleagues were happy about it, they didn’t even acknowledge having read the news !!! this made me wonder – if instead of me some Manager would have won the prize, wall posters would have been put up across the organisation…!!!

One day I wore a beautiful dress which for sure I couldnt afford, I had received it as a gift from a relative, I got a remark “ohh you also wear good clothing” I was angered and wanted to retort back “I always wear good clothing but you seem to look only at Managers”, but all I could murmur was a “thank you” and smile and move on………..

I am not interested in the fame but still back of the mind there is feeling I am so small…we work for the company thinking it is our bread-earner, we put our entire life and blood for which we just get a remark “it is your duty / responsibility” ….

When I do something good or outstanding, no one praises, but the moment I refuse to do one thing or be late in completing one task, it would be published world-wide and there would be a permanent black spot on my career…

Why ???

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Do yourself a favor and learn how to walk away. When a connection starts to fade, learn how to let it go. When a person starts to mistreat you, learn how to move on to something and someone better.

Don’t waste your energy trying to force something that isn’t meant to be, because the truth is…for every one person who doesn’t value you – there are tons more waiting to love you better !!

EGO

God is hidden and obstructed by the clouds of egoism. Getting rid of egoism needs to be practised.

Learn a lesson from the tree.

When it is heavy with fruits, it does not raise its head aloft in pride; it bends low and stoops, as if it does not take any credit for its accomplishment and as if it helps you to pluck the fruit.

Learn a lesson from the birds.

They feed those who cannot fly far; the bird relieves the itch of the buffalo by scratching it with its beak; they help and serve each other, with no thought of reward.

How much more alert must a man be then with his superior skills and faculties? Service is the best cure for egoism; so engage in it to relieve pain and grief to the extent that you can. Try to assuage, as far as you can, the distress of others; 

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Ego is the biggest road block.

Ego is the greatest veil, which never allows you to see the truth. It makes you believe that you know everything.

The one who understands and accepts what is lacking in him, where he is going wrong, can very easily go ahead but the one who keeps denying till the very end – nothing can be done for such a person.

Ego

“E” is the most Eminent letter of the English Alphabet.Men or Women don’t exist without “E”.House or Home can’t be made without “E”.Bread or Butter can’t be found without “E”.“E” is the beginning of “existence” and the end of “trouble.”It’s not at all there in ‘war’   ; but appears twice in ‘peace’.It’s once in ‘hell’ but twice in ‘heaven’.“E” is represented in ‘Emotions’    –  Hence,  all Emotional relations like Father, Mother, Brother,  Sister, Love & Friends have ‘e’ in them.“E” also represents ‘Effort’ & ‘Energy’   – Hence to be ‘Better’ from good  where both “e” ‘s are added.Without “e”, we would have no Love, Life, Friends or Hope& ‘see’,  ‘hear’, ‘smell’, or ‘taste’ as well as   ‘eye’,   ‘ear’, ‘nose’ & ‘tongue’ are incomplete without “e”.Hence GO with “E”    but without E-GO.

Blessed to be a Mother

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Before I was a mother … I didn’t know the words to a dozen lullabies  I never thought about immunisations I had never been puked on, pooped on, drooled on, chewed on, or peed on.  I had complete control of my mind, my thoughts, and my life.  I slept all night 

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I never looked into teary eyes and cried  I never got gloriously happy over a simple little grin  I never sat up for hours watching someone sleep … I never felt my heart break into a million pieces when I couldn’t stop the hurt  I never knew that something so small could affect my life so much in a great way . I never knew that I could love someone so much before ever meeting them.

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 Before I was a mother… I didn’t know the feeling of having my heart walking around outside of my body 

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My home is filled with TOYS…..It’s never quiet… My hair is usually a mess, make-up is rare, my sleep is only 4hrs, and I’m mostly on my toes! BUT there is Love and Laughter!

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In the next few years my child won’t remember the house or the hair, but we both will for sure remember the time we spent together and the love that is felt. Your babies only get one childhood so make it a good one! .
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Women Empowerment

A Whole Generation lived to empower women but forgot to teach men how to live with empowered women !!

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A woman is just a human with no gender, no religion and no nationality.

Girls do not need reservation. They are smart and independent. Girls and boys both have the power and strength to compete and achieve their dreams. The problem is that society does not encourage girls to take up some fields and boys other fields. The society fixes some particular roles for both boys and girls and many young people fail to see this cage built around them because people bind their wings since a really small age.

Living Life..

You fall, you rise, you make mistakes, you live, you learn. You’re human, not perfect. You’ve been hurt, but you’re alive…

Think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive—to breathe, to think, to enjoy, and to chase the things you love…

Sometimes there is sadness in our journey, but there is also lots of beauty…

We must keep putting one foot in front of the other even when we hurt, for we will never know what is waiting for us just around the bend….

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Keep walking…living life as it is

Share and spread Light .. Love

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When a lamp is lit from another, there are two where there was just one! 

The first one did not stop shining light. You can light a million lamps from one; yet, the first will not suffer!

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Love too is like this. Share it with a million, it will still be as bright as when it was alone. 

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When each house in the street lights a few lamps and keeps them on the door, parapet wall, gate, porch and so on, what is the effect?

The town is filled with light, residents are happy, children dance in joy and the sky shines in the glow of earthly joy. Light spreads mingling with other sources of light! It has no boundaries, no prejudices, no favourites!

This is the lesson of light and love; share, expand, clasp, spread, give up limits of mine and thine, his and theirs, caste and creed, in one limitless flow of Love. That is the culmination of all spiritual sadhana!

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Character

Character traits are valued aspects of a person’s behavior. Everyone has character traits, both good and bad, including our favorite fictional charactersCharacter traits are often labeled with descriptive adjectives such as patient, unfaithful, or jealous. Often, someone’s character and personality are intertwined.

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Character refers to a set of moral and mental qualities and beliefs, that makes a person different from others. … Personality is the outer appearance and behaviour of a person. At the same time, character indicates the traits of a person which are hidden from sight. The personality of an individual may change with time.

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Perfect character lasts till the end of one’s life, nay end of all ages; it is immortal and is associated with the Atma.

Such immortal qualities of  Character are – compassion, kindness, love, forbearance, integrity and patience.

Habits form only because of the deeds we indulge in. These habits shape the intelligence. All that we weave in our imagination, our aspirations and deeds, leave an indelible imprint on the mind. Due to these, man makes his own perception of the world. Man’s present condition is the result of his past birth. These habits mould man’s character.

Whatever be the nature, just by the process of imagination and practice, it can be modified.

A bad person will not remain so always.

Did not Angulimala, the dacoit, turn into a good person just by the darshan of Buddha?

Did not the thief Ratnakara become Valmiki, the sage?

Man has within him the capacity to change his evil propensities and habits.

Selfless service, renunciation, devotion, prayer, enquiry – these will enable the inculcation of new svabhava – conduct.