Making The Bed

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This is my bed. It is a black metal futon frame with a Full size mattress on it. The futon came with a typical futon mattress and for over two years I slept on the futon mattress (though I added a foam eggshell mattress topper).

Realized several years ago my mental health is going down the tubes when my kitchen gets to be a mess. The kitchen is the one room in the house I need to have clean. I can have piles of papers and clean and dirty clothes but if there are piles of dishes in the sink and the stove is not wiped off then something is wrong.

More recently I have discovered how much making my bed affects my mental state. My grandmother used to always make her bed. She made mine too, and tried to get me to make my own bed when I was old enough. My grandparent’s bed had a bed skirt and everything. It was a Queen size bed. Box Spring, mattress,  and a wooden headboard.  The Headboard matched the dresser and both were given to my grandparent’s as a gift from some of the parishioners of one of the Churches Grandfather served.

My grandmother had a hand embroidered Quilt Set. It was white with a blue cornflower motif. The bed skirt, top quilt, and several throw pillows made up the set. She would make the bed as most people do.  Fitted sheet, Top sheet, light cover (made for sleeping) and the decorative cornflower top quilt (not made for sleeping). She would finish it off with the decorative pillows.

Yeah, that isn’t me.  I learned from grandfather how to make hospital corners. My first job was a housekeeper at a Days Inn. So I made plenty of beds….not necessarily my own. For a long time even sleeping with any type of sheet on the bed was a hit or miss. I don’t do Top sheets at all. I was staying at friend’s house and her parents had a sleeper sofa. To make it more comfortable her mom had put one of the crushed velveteen blankets under the fitted sheet. Then the Top sheet and the sleeping cover. No need for a decorative quilt on a sleeper sofa. Without the use of my CPAP I run marathons in my sleep. I turn to one side and then the other. One time I did a complete 180 in my bed and woke up where my feet had been when I went to sleep the night before. Anyway, the next day when my friend’s mom went to strip and remake the bed we discovered I had not only bunched up the top sheet under the cover but I had somehow manage to strip the velveteen blanket under the fitted sheet without removing the fitted sheet.

At this point in my life my bedding consist of a fitted sheet, the blanket you see on the bed in the photo and three body pillows–with pillow casings (another non consistent item in my bed making).  I added the only two throw pillows I have left which I care about. The Hello Kitty one I found while touring an empty apartment. It was in a really high cabinet which may or may not have had a rifle in it as well. The realtor agent never told me. The second throw pillow is in the color and has the House Crest of my favorite House in Harry Potter: Slytherin. The pillow was hand embroidered by a friend of mine who loves Harry Potter as much (or even more) than I do.

While my bed is simple to make, the act of making it, and of laundering sheets, pillowcases, and cover one a month or as needed, gives me sense of peace and order; starting my day off on the right note.

My suggestion to anyone who feels out of control or anxiety ridden or in a bad place mentally is to find the “making your bed” thing to help you through, to get you back on track. It might be journaling when you first wake up, or having a cup of coffee, or walking, or it make actually be making your bed. Whatever it is, having one thing which helps all the other things in life move easier through day is invaluable.

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Welcome Day Three of Walking

Some notes about my daily walks. One it is really hard not to take a bunch of pictures and cheat, posting them on days I don’t walk. This would be self defeating. I have set a limit on myself: three to six pictures a day. Two I love where I live. I wave at every car passing me. Today 6 out of 8 drivers waved back. Country/Small Town people are pretty friendly. Lastly, I measure my distance by mailboxes. My phone has the Samsung Health App which measures my actual distance and time. What I do is pick a mailbox up a head and walk until I get to it. Each day I pick a further out mailbox.

So without anymore delay, today’s pictures:

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The Daily Trees to inspire. From this angle they look like they are in line but they are not.
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This is a path into the woods I would like to walk but I am not sure who owns the property.
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First Wooly Warm of Autumn. Anyone know the folklore about the coloration and Winter?
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A turtle cross in the road. This folklore I know, when turtles cross the road it means rain is coming.
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BONUS PIC: My best friend’s two year old not ready to face

Being a Healthy Mother

This is a brief post.  I live with my best friend and her husband and three little girls. Ages 9, 8 and 2. I look over from my spot in the armchair and spot this:

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She has been getting back on a regular exercise program. She has to go to work at 6:30 am. She gets up at 4:30 to workout.

I thought how poetically this is sums up her health-kid balance.

Ye of Little Faith

 

Young Boy Concentrating On His Schoolwork

A little boy sat in the corner with his nose against the wall. He never realized how disruptive he was to other students. The class frowned at him, but he still didn’t understand his misbehavior during the lesson. A bell loudly rang, and kids jumped up from their desks to run to the cafeteria. Yet, a little boy deprived of lunch sat in his confusion of tears.

The story plays reruns today, maybe not so dramatically, but the ramifications still imply the same feelings. Children classified as “learning disabled” acquires resentment early in childhood. They feel shunned, discredited from society, and labeled as another hopeless spirit lying dormant in fortitude. Frustrated parents and teachers have modest educational skills to cope with the disability. The innocence of ADD, ADHD, and dyslexia makes a child’s life incredibly difficult. I know as I, too, walk the path every single day.

Ye of Little Faith small picWe, the stigmatized and labeled children, are stuck in a corner, and the only word we can spell is can’t. We fumble through adolescence, for no college academics ever adheres with those who see things far beyond the scope of today’s lessons. God is our only instructor as He sees into the minds of many people with nil comprehension.

George Washington, Edison, Einstein, Roosevelt, and even Cher are just some learning disabled notables who made significant contributions to our society. But God giveth and God taketh away – His test is for us to gather stamina and strength to prepare our real treasures in heaven. It blesses God in both the giving and the taking away because it is for the sake of our joy though it may not seem fair. He replaces our many shortcomings with abundant blessings.

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So, the next time you have an urge to yell at a problematic child, just remember – they may be our president, a great singer, or an author one day. Can’t is a word no longer in our vocabulary! God watches over the handicapped, allowing us to conquer and explore with great creativity.

Faith is all we have when the odds are stacked against us. God blesses and anoints the imagination of those less fortunate, and condemns those who seek to destroy these special children. Our Lord’s hands know no limits, and the word can’t is just permission to prove ye of little faith wrong!

God bless the less fortunate!

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Parenting !!

An excellent message on Parenting…adapted from a speech !

You will be gone soon but the children will be here; And nobody can manage anybody else’s life; though they are with you,  yet they belong not to you…
You may give them your love but not your thoughts; for they have their own thoughts
You may house their bodies but not their souls,  for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit even in your dreams…
God will take care …
It is none of our business to be too concerned…
Whatsoever we can do, we do, but one should not ponder and think too much  about things going the way one wants …
That is very egoistic

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You have given birth to a child, but once he is out of the womb ; he is free of you
First he depended for his breath on you when he was in the womb
Then he will take his own breath
That moment, You don’t say  – ‘What are you doing?
Are you trying to be free of me? Trying to be independent?’

You feel happy that your child is breathing !!

First he will take milk from you, then one day he will start eating on his own

First he will go on clinging to your apron and then one day he will leave it

You will be happy because the child is growing, becoming mature.

Then finally one day he falls in love with a woman

He has found his woman, so he will go on his own way

Bless them, and whatsoever happens they have to find their own life and their
own meaning to life.

Now you are free.
Just try to find your meaning, your life, your goals, and devote the few days that are left to the search of the ultimate.

Don’t be concerned with ordinary things I have never seen a single parent who is happy about their children.

Nobody is ever happy… Even the father of Buddha was not happy… He was very very annoyed because his son turned out to be a pauper. He became a Monk and the father was hoping he would become an Emperor .. He crushed all his father’s hopes

One thing is certain — that the child is not here to fulfill your expectations

The child is here with his own destiny, and he will unfold his  own destiny. You are trying somehow to direct his destiny and that is going to be frustrated.

Accept it and bless them good.

They have to find their own ways

Who are we to interfere?
And how can we?

Pray for them but leave them on their own.

You just try to grow yourself.

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Excerpts from the discourse of a popular motivational speaker !!

 

“Happy Father’s Day,” Dad

Enjoy the video!

 


I dedicate this day to my father who was a godly man and who only sought the best for his two sons. He weathered his own personal trials and fought the system to protect his dignity. My dad graduated from William & Mary College and served as a Commissioned and Warrant Officer of the US Naval Reserve. He was a test pilot during WWII where he flew solo the first mechanical PBY and later the P-71 Mustang. Pop was larger than life. He was a man of poise, distinction, and honor, and his 6’2” stature grew as I looked up to him in my childhood days. He never needed an introduction.

Pop’s hobbies included boat building, hunting, and most of all, being a father. But things in 1955 went south as he and Mom went their separate ways. There were unaccounted times and many questions left unanswered, but sometimes in life, we just have to come to our own summation. I remember being deprived of visiting him on weekends. I didn’t understand the value of distinction. Only God could prepare my innocence – I needed the endurance later down the road.

My dad passed away after thirteen Father’s Days, so we never had a chance to do much together. Throwing a ball, swinging a bat, and playing catch, as most kids do with their fathers was out of the question. If I saw him, it was rare. Even now, my heart pales at the thought of him and tears fester from the altercation. We both deserved better.

Now, it’s my brother and I, on this Father’s Day, who commemorate the man we tried to be like many times. Life is short at best, and a glimpse is all I remember this day. But we call each other every year, still, and wish Pop well in heaven as his holiday is celebrated with God. So, I guess we’ll each wait our turn to enjoy the moments in life we missed with our father. God bless you, Pop!

To those whose fathers remain here on earth, pick up the phone and say “I love you, Dad,” and wish him the best. After all, it is he who helped bring you into this world. And, God bless the little boys who’ll soon be called “Dad.” The day will come when your sons will exonerate you too!

Happy Father’s Day to all those special fathers!

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SIWO Global News 27th May 2018 #41

Knowledge is Wealth

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“More than 60,000 bolts of lighting strikes parts of England in 24 hours” – Met Office

An experience never seen by anyone, apparently, the Met Office called it “mother of all lightings”.  The Saturday night sky was brightened by the constant lighting  revealing its new and temporary purple colour.  Thunder cracked like a whip lashing the air into waves of storms.  Torrential rainfall came down and the warm muggy temperature was reminisce of a tropical rainstorm.

In some cases, the roofs of houses were hit and caught fire.  In Stansted Airport the refuelling centre was disabled by the lighting therefore no airline could take off.  Passengers were stranded and some gave up and went home but it was a sleepless night for hundreds more.  Parents taking their children on half -term holidays were especially disappointed.

Some streaks of lighting illuminated landmarks such as The Shard and The London Eye. Places in the countryside were also hit as below.

 

The 71st World Health Organisation (WHO) Conference

The WHO conference came to conclusion, having agreed on its new five -year strategic plan. WHO Director-General Dr. Tedros Adhanom Ghebreyesus told the delegates they had now charted a new course for the organisation.  He sai, everything the WHO did from now on would be evaluated in light of the “triple billion targets” within the strategic plan.  This aims to achieve:

  • billion more people benefitting from universal health coverage
  • 1 billion more people better protected from health emergencies
  • 1 billion more people enjoying better health and wellbeing.
Before closing the delegates also agreed two more items, maternal infant and young child nutrition, whereby they work to reduce stunted growth in children, urge more countries and their hospitals to practise baby friendly systems including breast feeding, prevention of anaemia in adolescent girls and preventing childhood obesity through counselling and complimentary feeding.
The other was eradication of wild Poliovirus, as at May 2018 only 9 cases were reported globally, that was from Afghanistan and Pakistan.

  Inspirational Story

A Single Mom’s second job inspired her non- profit organisation

“Amazing Mom” Honoree Jennifer Maddox’s After School activities helps more than 800 children

Jennifer Maddox’s job as a police officer was satisfying but she  needed more financially, in order to take care of her two sons.  Born in Chicago, now at 46 years old, in 2008 she was doing her main job as well as her side hustle/job as a security officer of a housing estate.

While working at the housing projects/estates, she noticed majority of the 1200 children were getting into trouble because of boredom.

“There were no safe spaces or places at all for the kids to be kids, to play ball, jump rope or anything,” Jennifer says. “The lack of resources and lack of community spaces for young people sparked something inside of me.”

She gained the trust of the parents living there and soon convinced the management of the housing company to allow her to organise After-School activities for the children.  She started Future Ties in 2011, providing after-school and summer activities plus a mentorship programme for children who are 18 and under.

Crime has gone down by 70% and many of the children keep coming back to volunteer.  This story caught the attention of co-anchors NBC’s Savannah Guthrie and Hoda Kobt of the ” Amazing Moms Today” aired before Mother’s Day 2018.

#SIWO GNEWS #41

Content from BBC news, Sky news, https://www.who.Int,

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SIWO REPORTER: SUSANNA DZIWORSHIE

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