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Definition :To quarrel is to fight — but usually not physically.
Quarreling is a fact of life, occurring between the best of friends, in the happiest of marriages, and between parents and their children. vocabulary.com
It is a disagreement about something.
Why we quarrel in the very first place ?
Somewhere I read ( I am not able to recollect the source) what is known as BIG 5 causing friction, leading to argument. 1.Money, 2.sex, 3.raising kids, 4.in-laws and 5.house/office work.Of course one can broaden the BIG 5 into various sub-classes.
Disagreement can lead from just anger to outburst of pent-up feelings.
The quarrels can stretch from very few initially to increased frequency over the time.
The reasons can be from silly to far serious issues.
The whole problem is because none is willing to admit their mistakes, continue the arguments,even competing with each other, with ego factor playing an active role.
Whenever there is dispute remember,
“Family problems come in all sizes and shapes.Some are short-lived,easily managed,while others are more chronic and difficult to handle” unknown
What I am trying to tell is that it takes time to deal the problems and one must be patient.One must realize that,
“Families and their problems go on and they are not solved….they are dealt with”. Roger Ebert,
When we are friendly with the entire world ( don’t say…. this is because of survival instinct ),why can’t we show same friendliness to our family members?
You know the old adage
“You can choose the friends,but you can’t choose the family”
In other words,since blood is thicker than water, all the more you can’t afford to quarrel with your family members.Why don’t you compliment the other for the good things in them
How best to avoid family quarrels ?
Some tips which I think,can help! ( My 12 commandments )
1.Stay calm in spite of the urge to respond angrily.Never raise your voice.
2.Be a good listener.
3.Reduce your emotional scale to zero.
4.Let there not be communication gap.Make it clear as to what the other person is saying and meaning.
5.Impress the other person,what actually you meant or intended to do.
6.Never bring the past or unrelated issues.
7.Try to solve the problem and not to win the argument.
8.Put yourself in the others shoes.
9.Don’t stockpile your issues and vent at a stretch irrelevantly.
10.forget & forgive
11.Take it easy.
12.Have faith in the Lord.
“Problems are like washing machines,they twist us,spin us,knock us around but in the end,we come out cleaner,brighter and better than before” – unknown
Mother’s Healing Hugs ( A short story on Mother’s day)
A Mother is bravest even in her most vulnerable moments too and can use herself as a shield to protect her kid whenever it’s required. She bears everything in silence but keep on trying to do her best for her family. She might be in deep pain herself but her hugs have something magical which can always heal wounds and soothe soul.
Journal—An Ongoing Dialog Between thiaBasilia And Master Yahuwah/Yahushua. …
Saturday, April 14, 2018 at 8:30 am.
Inquiring minds? Forever the question, “What came first? The chicken or the egg?” Who cares?
O my Father! I haven’t got the slightest how to get out of this mood that I am in. To realize one’s deficiencies; one’s inabilities? It’s enough for a bad mood!
What’s the most depressing deficiency that troubles me?
That’s just it! I don’t even know what is it that troubles me, my Father? Perhaps the inability to let go of the insidious self-consciousness always lurking around no matter what I say or do!
No matter how certain I am? I can’t rid myself of the after the fact effect. I can’t get rid of that ‘humanly perfect’ concept. I can’t get rid of that insidious fear of repercussion.
Am I alone in this train of thought?
Perhaps that’s the human trend that humans so cleverly hide. Perhaps I’m opening a can of worms. Those hidden worms eating us up unaware.
Perhaps it’s You, my Father, the One opening that can of squirmy varmints eating me up unaware. Hum! Now I’m getting hot in the finding game, am I not, my Father?
O thiaBasilia—O Child Of My Heart? Indeed! I have separated you to cleanse you with the experience of My written words. For what purpose? That you might be set-apart and faultless. That you might be in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such things at My return.
Father? The Organized Church troubles me.
O my Beloved Father, You compel me to look around all the evil going on. I look around. I see the Organized Church as the greatest stumbling block for a closer relationship with You.
Sunday, April 15, 2018 at 5:28 am.
What now, O my Father? Your plan of restoration consumes my being.
Your Presence within my being compels me in the Oneness with Your Being. Sunning myself on the roof I see luscious gardens. I see happy faces taking care of those garden. I hear sweet loving songs.
The disgusting clutter in the present roofs? The screeching noise that goes by the name of music now? The crying babies. The disturbing angry voices? All gone!
Even now while we are still breathing the polluted air on these earthly grounds?
Even now Your plan of restoration is in effect. You have dried my tears away. You have restored me. In Your Presence You keep me aloof from all evil no matter any and all circumstances of glee or gloom.
Yes, You compel me to look around and be astonished at what goes on in this insanity ridden world.
I look around. I am astonished. Multitude of young people obsessed with the knowledge from the Tree of Good and Evil, but! Not a clue of what they do.
Multitude of parents obsessed with the raising of super knowledgeable children to rule the future in this world.
Behold the Great Fallen Away!
Right now as I look around all that goes on with young and old? I am astonished! The written words are coming to pass exactly as those are written, but!
What is it that troubles me with what I see? All this NOT so new thing with positive thinking and success, success, success.
Goodness sake! I am a member of Success Inspirers World Organization, and? Am I against SUCCESS? How that figures, O my Father? How that figures?
It figures in My written words, My child. I have planted you in this organization of My most selected children for you to herald those written words to them, why?
To prevent My most elected children from the great fallen away. You see, My child, your enemy is as shrew beyond your wildest imagination.
The enemy is no longer working on injecting doubt into your heart as to My intentions to forbid you to eat from that tree. No. That has already taken place.
So what is the enemy’s agenda now? To make of you a super human—full to the brim with the knowledge of ‘good’ and ‘evil’ quite capable to be your own ‘god’.
What for is there a need to depend on Me if you can depend on your own self, but! That is something not quite visible because of the camouflage of good and beautiful.
The New Age movement of positive thinking with all its branches? Is nothing else but tinsels instead of gold.
Even so, the GOLD of My Presence is now shinning forth from the heart of My selected witnesses. The experience of My written words?
That’s My work in the heart of My witnesses. That’s what makes My Presence shine forth as pure GOLD from the hearts of my selected vessels.
Furthermore? My selected vessels are not called to ‘teach’ or to ‘minister’ or to ‘police’ and apply those words as they see fit to do so. NAY!
My selected vessels only task is to refrain from doing any of that by the power of their mind. The written words CANNOT be taught by the power of the human mind.
It’s My Spirit Who gives LIFE to those words, but! The human mind is set to interpret and misconstrue My written words.
Therefore? My reason to empower you to give up the dependence in the human mind and heart both yours as well as any other human’s mind and heart.
My reason for planting you in the midst of My children in this institution? You are to share the experience of the words I have made alive in your heart.
Yahushua, Founder and Perfecter of Our Faith
THEREFORE THEN, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses [who have borne testimony to the Truth], let us strip off and throw aside every encumbrance (unnecessary weight) and that sin which so readily (deftly and cleverly) clings to and entangles us, and let us run with patient endurance and steady and active persistence the appointed course of the race that is set before us,
Looking away [from all that will distract] to Yahushua, Who is the Leader and the Source of our faith [giving the first incentive for our belief] and is also its Finisher [bringing it to maturity and perfection]. He, for the joy [of obtaining the prize] that was set before Him, endured the cross, despising and ignoring the shame, and is now seated at the right hand of the throne of the Almighty.
What is the sin which so readily (deftly and cleverly) clings to and entangles us? The sin of unbelief. We all brag about our beliefs, about our faith, but!
In real life? The Universities. The Doctors. The ‘Holy Ones’. The Worldly Famous. The Work of our hands? That’s the gist of our beliefs. That’s what we live by. That’s what is preached!
No kidding. I know the drill only too well, but! The power and wisdom from our Loving Father/Creator. He sent me a WITNESS. He turned me around, and? I saw!
What did I see?
The same thing the Father/Creator is now showing to all who has ears to hear and eyes to see. He showed me the utter arrogance of MY KNOWLEDGE!
I thought I knew Him when? I knew nothing period. Nothing about Him at all. Nothing about life. I was an educated fool!
O well? That’s my two cents to make the point of this writing. What am I to do right now?
Whether is liked or not? I am to proclaim to SIWO and the whole world, the TRUTH of the evil of what the world has programmed us to do on this SUCCESS thing. It’s written,
I CHARGE [you] in the presence of the Almighty and of Messiah Yahushua, Who is to judge the living and the dead, and by (in the light of) His coming and His kingdom:
Herald and preach the Word! Keep your sense of urgency [stand by, be at hand and ready], whether the opportunity seems to be favorable or unfavorable. [Whether it is convenient or inconvenient, whether it is welcome or unwelcome, you as preacher of the Word are to show people in what way their lives are wrong.] And convince them, rebuking and correcting, warning and urging and encouraging them, being unflagging and inexhaustible in patience and teaching.
For the time is coming when [people] will not tolerate (endure) sound and wholesome instruction, but, having ears itching [for something pleasing and gratifying], they will gather to themselves one teacher after another to a considerable number, chosen to satisfy their own liking and to foster the errors they hold,
And will turn aside from hearing the truth and wander off into myths and man-made fictions.
Dear Reader, none of us wish to hear such strong words. We are at the point that we only want to hear compliments and words of encouragement, but!
It’s imperative that we take these words, bitter as they are, in the same way we would take the most distasteful medication to heal our bodies.
NO! I am not against SUCCESS. I am for SUCCESS in hearing and understanding the intent of our Creator for creating us. He created us for 3 reasons:
To love Him.
To be loved by Him.
Your Cherish Family O Mighty One? Forever To be!
Heavenly ointment to heal our wounded souls
To that end? We work day and night to accomplish His plan of restoration to the original intent for our creation.
Those words are the heavenly ointment to heal our wounded souls. Wounded by the lack of Knowledge of His loving ways.
Meantime and until the next post? His love in my heart for you and for all stays there to stay for eternity, thiaBasilia. 🙂