Entitlement

Today’s society is bombarded with many slogans that portray us to be “deserving” of something. Such self-focused messages are:

            “You deserve a break today…” used by McDonald’s

            “You owe it to yourself…” used by cruise lines

            “Treat yourself to take the break you deserve” used by Hilton HHonors

In the dynamics of families and relationships, how many times have you graciously gave a gift and never received a “thank you” of any kind? How often have you heard the stories of parents passing away, and the children fought over the estate and money? If a sibling or parent is near their deathbed, do they deserve to be treated with respect if they never reciprocated love to family members in a state of healthiness? What if a husband and wife purchase a home with their hard-earned money – should their children feel entitled to the parent’s assets?

Within the business world, employees arrive late and perform their duties with little ambition. They demand pay raises and better benefits. Are they really deserving of it? Or, a parent scrapes and works hard to grow a business, and their grown children now believe they’re entitled to run it when the parent is deceased.

Churches also run into the same dilemmas when the congregation feels entitled to receive answers from their pastors or to hold positions within the house of worship. And, while I walk down the path of religious connotations, many believers feel deserving of God’s blessings. Speaking of this, do you know why much of humanity walks away from God and stops believing in Him? They prayed for an answer they wanted to hear and didn’t receive it. He was a means to get what they felt entitled to in life! Ironically, I believe our church leaders are responsible for this incorrect train of thought. They stand on the pulpit and preach God will meet all our needs and give them their desires if they pledge their soul to Jesus. The fact is our sin separates us from the Lord.

Entitlement is a dangerous walk in life – it’s Godlessness. Let me be frank here – God, parents, and employers owe us nothing. God blesses us with things because He wants to – an unconditional love of grace. A selfish demand for His generosity will reap no benefits. It’s that simple!

Jesus’ ministry spoke of loving others with a grateful heart. This includes treating each other with respect, even amidst our differences. The well-being of gratitude promotes healthy relationships, both in our walk with the Lord and relationships with others.

In the subject of parenting, fewer children today respect their elders. They ignore the recognition parents deserve for years of hard work and dedication to their families because they live in the “gimme, gimme” world. These generations are gifted with their heart’s desires, and they expect it from the parents. Thus, the slogans I mentioned at the beginning of the message above, come into play. As the children grow older, they feel entitled to life. Little do we know, it promotes laziness, ungratefulness, and the subject of this blog – entitlement. What are we teaching our children and others?

So, how can we live a life feeling less entitled to things and people?

•          Humbly give thanks to God for all we receive. “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18

•          Remember the grace of God, for Jesus died on the cross for our sins. We do not deserve to be treated with graciousness for our sinful attitudes, but the Lord’s love and grace reaches out to us, anyway. “At one time we too were foolish, disobedient, deceived and enslaved by all kinds of passions and pleasures. We lived in malice and envy, being hated and hating one another. But when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy.” Titus 3:3-5

•          Set your mind on eternity with the Lord and not on this world. Money and physical possessions mean nothing, for they cannot be taken with you to heaven. “But, as it is written, what no eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the heart of man imagined, what God has prepared for those who love him…” 1 Corinthians 2:9

•          Continuously pray for discernment of entitlement. Why do I feel entitled, and how can I change this train of thought?

In summary of today’s message, expect little, receive with a grateful heart, and always give thanks. Give God the glory for your unexpected blessings!

Written by Anne Bicks, Editor and Marketing of Bicks Books LLC


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I’ll Light a Candle

What a beautiful winter morning! A gentle breeze is just enough to keep the fire I started lit this morning. I gathered sticks from the woods – the memories of life which once lived on the trees. Now they lie dead beneath the autumn foliage. It’s a somber reminder life is so precious and short for God’s creations.

I feel so incredibly blessed this holiday season. It’s just around the corner, and God’s fulfillment of promises fill the air. But a thought haunts my mind… all the children who are less fortunate than I at Christmastime. My childhood was full of unexpected events, too, such as divorce and death. So, when I was asked to write this blog, I gladly accepted the challenge.

Many children have no say of their ill-fated direction in life. They become victims of yet another divorce and single parenting. Even worse is the loss of a parent during the holiday season. Once upon a time, I had a classmate who faced this exact scenario.

Christmas trimmings lined the streets, and window displays were in full swing with animated characters warming the hearts of little children. An older brother told this young girl the cause of her parent’s separation “was all her fault.” At five years old, such a cruel statement was a bit much to bear for her little shoulders.

On Christmas, her mother suddenly passed away. Many questions went unanswered… this precious child only knew her mommy went to heaven.  Instead of anticipating the thrill of a Christmas morning, the little girl faced the world with a broken heart and fear of her future. Dare I say, as an adult, Christmas is a difficult time for her; fifty years later, the callous statement still lingers in the back of her mind.

There are seventy-four million children in the United States, and the divorce rate is 40-50 percent amongst marriages. So, the bigger question is, how do we help the afflicted youngsters during the holidays, carrying the burden of their parents’ selfishness? A family life of morals used to be respected, a flourishing way of life. What happened to these generations? Children, who never witness the truth about a love between parents, suffer voids in their little hearts.

Regardless of the circumstances, kids should have a Christmas. This joyful day is a celebration of our Savior’s arrival to earth. But, amidst the hustle and bustle, we should encourage the children to grieve – it’s ok! Support their thoughts and questions to ease their anxiety. Encourage simple ceremonies, such as lighting a Christmas candle near the parent’s photo, or placing a picture inside a bulb to hang on the tree. Wrap up a special gift for the child with a photograph of their parent. Create a special “memory” tree with ornaments that reflect the loved one’s life, or make a donation in their memory to a favorite charity.

Many organizations and charities assist children during the Christmas holidays. Some top names include Toys for Tots, Operation Christmas Child, Make-A-Wish Foundation, Angel Tree, the Salvation Army, and the Christmas Spirit Foundation. The Lord gives us instructions to help those in need.

Years pass like dust left upon a shelf, and grief leaves an imprint on the heart.  Begotten memories, entombed in the body of a child, are reminders of Christmases tainted by disaster and hurt. Let us teach the suffering children that God is our only hope in life. His strength will help us endure the pain and strife of a world destroyed by sinners.

Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their opponents in court. — Psalm 127:3-5

As for the little girl whom I wrote about today, she joined her siblings and grew up in a blended family. But, just as her life settled into normalcy, her father quietly slipped away, too. Behold, an angel came to the rescue – her “stepmother.” Retrieving all the broken branches which laid in pieces on the ground, this special woman raised my friend to the beautiful lady and fellow author she is today. She was one of the lucky survivors! This is proof our Father’s power can conquer the hearts of the unknowing and replenish the trees.

Today, with Christmas just three days away, will you consider supporting a child’s organization or adopting a child for Christmas? Spend time with a mourning child and make the holiday one they will always remember, away from pain.

I’ll light a candle this Christmas in memory of all the innocent little children who are missing a parent. God bless you all, but especially… God bless my sweet friend!

Have a very Merry Christmas!


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Life without mother?
Can you?
Can anyone?
Who can?
I cannot imagine
Life without mother;
In the family;
Mother is everything;
The rock of my life;
My nurse;
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The Evil Insanity of Gender Identity, Part One: Transgenderism and Child Sacrifice [Video]

Transgenderism, children

The recent case of one James Younger has once again brought critical attention to the so-called ‘transgender rights’ movement madness which has gripped society with astonishing speed. Perhaps some of you haven’t heard about James, a 7-year-old boy embroiled existentially against his will in a divorce settlement with some very unusual details.

This case takes place in Dallas, Texas with James’ biological father, Jeffrey Younger who is trying to keep his soon-to-be ex-wife from forcing young James to “transition” to becoming a “girl.” In a Dallas family court, it was ruled by a jury on October 21, 2019, that sole custody of James should go to the wife, Dr. Anne Georgulas, which would make her the sole authority over medical decisions for her son.

The following video gives the father’s reaction to that jury verdict.

Fortunately, the judge in the case, Kim Cooks ruled on October 24, that both parents would have joint custody including both having a say in medical decisions. However, there were some other ‘requirements’ of the jury decision placed upon Mr. Younger and it is unclear whether any or all of these have been removed.

Court Mandated Madness

The reason some other legal restrictions may or may not remain in place against Mr. Younger is that Judge Cooks also placed a gag order on all the parties involved so that no information is disclosed to the press until after the proceedings have concluded. However, there are some details of the original jury decision from October 21 which are known.

Buck Sexton, who read the original court order, said during his podcast of October 22, 2019,

The court has enjoined this father, Jeffery Younger, that he is not allowed to dress his son in boys’ clothing… that he’s not allowed to try and convince his son that he is, in fact, a boy and will be a normal boy… not allowed to have the son around anybody…friend or family member who might [do the same]. [He also] has to use female or gender-neutral pronouns in public [and] is not allowed to call him James, he has to call him ‘Luna.’

Transgenderism, insanity“Luna” is the name James’ mother branded him as when she decided that James was indeed a ‘transgender’ person years ago. Dr. Georgulas made this life-changing decision based on a then 3-year-old infatuation with a female Disney character.

The process of ‘transitioning’ would begin with James receiving puberty-blocking drugs as early as 10 years old. These would be followed by administering cross-sex hormones, testosterone for women and estrogen for men.

Little is known about the effects of such a regimen on children. What is known is not good news for the child.

This is far from benign, since taking puberty blockers at age 12 or younger, followed by cross- sex hormones, sterilizes a child.

What studies there are have necessarily focused on the side effects of cross-sex hormones on adults who have ‘transitioned.’ Children’s bodies are less stable than adults, and these and other harmful effects are likely to be magnified greatly with the application of such ‘treatments.’

From studies of adults we know that the risks of cross-sex hormones include, but are not limited to, cardiac disease, high blood pressure, blood clots, strokes, diabetes, and cancers.

Once the hormone therapies have been applied the next step is surgery. Girls who persist in insisting they are really boys would undergo a double-mastectomy as early as 16 years of age, followed later by altering their female “bottom parts” to appear as male parts.

Boys would wait a year or two longer, by current practices, before having their genitals sliced off and beginning the process of altering the appearance of that area to resemble female genitalia.

These new physical accouterments will not function as they would if that person was naturally male or female. In other words, men ‘transitioning to women’ do not menstruate, even after surgery, regardless of the political correctness of a particular sanitary napkin retailer, or social media outlets’ insistence otherwise.

Transgenderism, child abuseThis is what the child of seven, James Younger, still may have to look forward to in the near future. His hormone ‘treatments’ aren’t supposed to start until he’s about 10, and who knows what may happen in the courts before then.

The Younger case is but one of a multitude of attacks against biological reality by advocates of a fantasy world where delusional nightmares are promoted as normal expressions of family life. Moreover, James Younger is not the only or even the youngest victim of disturbed adults who seemingly look forward to poisoning and mutilating their toddlers and teens.

Dr. Michelle Cretella, executive director of the American College of Pediatricians. …“…first began hearing from distraught parents in this situation in 2016 and in 2017, I heard from seven families in as many different states in this situation. In all but one case the child was a 15 year-old girl who never had any sexual identity confusion prior to her parent’s divorce,” Cretella said. “The other case involved 4-year-old triplet boys whose mother desperately wanted a girl. The mother was a psychologist herself and had cross-dressed one of the boys for two years, insisting that it was his idea. In each of the seven cases the guardian ad litems and judges removed the right to medical consent and/or custody from the parent who objected to transition with puberty blockers and hormones.”

Child Sacrifice to Satisfy Insanity 

There is a very disturbing factor lurking within this increasing trend to subject very young children to a tortuous ‘transitioning’ process. It is the strong tendency, if not 100% fact, that whenever these incidents of pushing the youngsters into transgenderism and likely physical harm, we also see that one or both of the parents are either ‘trans’ themselves or ‘trans-rights’ activists.

These ‘parents’ have the right to their own notions of how they act out their bogus assertions of gender for themselves. They are adults living in a mostly free society, and in America, everyone has the right to their own opinion.

TransgenderismHowever, that right also comes with a bucketload of responsibilities crucial for any free society to exist. Prime among them is the obligation any person has to consider whether or not their exercise of a particular right can damage another person’s individual rights.

It is obvious that the parents have little regard for the physical and psychological damage they are doing to the child when they advocate ‘transitioning’ to the opposite gender. The immediate question is “Why?”

There are three basic answers to that question. One: They don’t know or understand the dangers of ‘transitioning treatment,’ to the child.

That answer would be a bit disingenuous since the methods of such treatment are well-known in the ‘trans rights’ community. Two: The parents are deluded into denial of these hazards and believe they are helping the child.

This response indicates that the parent(s) are mentally disturbed themselves, and unfit to make such serious decisions for their child. Three: They are aware of the dangers yet insist on putting their child at risk believing the ‘benefits’ for the child are worth it.

That possibility is perhaps the most disturbing of all because, in reality, the mental health benefits are basically zero, and the physical damage is truly incalculable. It indicates a personality so desperate for self-affirmation that it demands the child be not simply in agreement with their ‘gender identity’ parent(s), but the child must be biologically transformed to the same physical state as the disturbed adults around him or her.

The child’s health is every area is thus sacrificed for the uses of the ones who should be their protectors. Thus the little boy or girl has their childhood and future destroyed on the altar of transgenderism.

The fruits of this evil insanity are also manifested beyond the individual sacrifice of children. In part two of this series the impact on wider society with the rapid growth of the ‘trans rights’ movement in recent years.

As Jesus Himself notes,

But from the beginning of creation ‘God made them male and female’  Mark 10:6 ESV

That is the only ordering of creation that is right and proper and blessed by God. America, yea even the world, attempts to change that fact at our own peril.

D.T. Osborn

Sources: The Holy Bible, English Standard Version, Crossway Bibles, 2001

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Originally published in TIL Journal

 

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