What Love Looks Like

I remember my pop would get dressed on Sunday morning, perk a pot of coffee, and slip on his gardening shoes. He’d find his car keys, then drive to the local country store to buy a paper. I guess it was more a habit to get a newspaper than to turn on a TV channel. Sundays were always quiet.

As he flipped through the news, I played on the flagstone porch floor whose mortar joints I used as roads. For hours I built and constructed a world all of my own. It was a painting better described as Norman Rockwell… a father’s face buried between the worldly events and sports, and a child at his feet building miles of dreams in his head. This is what love looked like to me at home.

“Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”

Romans 12:10

The serene scenery of swans swimming across the waters of the Tred Avon River lent itself to the ducks which lined the dock in search of food. It was a different world in those days. The infrastructure and landscape were ever changing. It would not be long before we could drive over the waters of the Chesapeake, instead of taking a ferryboat.

This morning I flipped from Google to Yahoo news and read the commentaries of discernment. The world is full of hatred – an opposite ingredient of what love looks like with God in your world. I don’t know about you, but I refuse to live in a place without the condiments of love! We are God’s prodigies who live in a society of recreational love with very little significance to the word.

The Bible has over one hundred scriptures directly related to the fundamentals of love. I can find what love looks like everywhere in my world. It’s from my sweet wife giving me a cold glass of iced tea on a hot summer afternoon; my cockatoo who comes to me in his time of need; hanging up a fresh towel for my wife on a hook near the shower; turning down her corner of the bed at night. Love isn’t just an expression of “I do’s,” but a state of mind.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word.”

Ephesians 5:25-26

What love looks like outside marriage may involve the special squeezes or a smile from our grandchildren; a neighbor getting the mail for a someone housebound; baking a dish for the less fortunate; donations or volunteering to help others. Giving of yourself, even if it’s inconvenient, means more than all the money in the world. A lesson on the definition of loving one’s neighbor is in the Parable of the Good Samaritan (Luke 10:25-37). We are to have compassion and love towards each other, irrespective of the parameters which divide us.

So, what does love look like to you? Have you searched your heart, or is the wallet more important? Love is a verb meaning affection based on admiration. It begins when selfishness ends.

“The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”

Mark 12:31

It’s another perfect morning, and I give God the glory and love. My gorgeous bride prepares breakfast for her hubby. I think about the many wasted years I wish I could do over, for we missed so much living separate lives. How can I ever show her how much I love her? It’s easy, you know…  I stand beside her, and God is our center. I never want to let go of the immense feelings of love I have for her!

Dana and Anne’s Wedding Celebration


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Satan’s Shining Sin

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It’s another Sunday morning of crowd seekers searching for forgiveness as they rush through the eye of the needles around the world. I, too, came to find my eternal gateway to a place called heaven’s home. I walked across the side street onto the freshly paved parking area extended for convenience. The air reeked of an odor as Satan’s evil sin blew in the breeze. Little elderly women held on to their nicely brushed hairdo as they dashed in front of cars while others ran to find their pew. I reached the entrance of the church and could smell the difference between Satan’s musty humidity and the fragrance of Christ living inside the vestibule.

I wondered when the dress codes at church changed because men used to don three-piece suits with cuffed trousers and tacked ties. They held the doors for those feminine dressed ladies in their finest ensembles. After the church service, everyone mingled with each other to share the week’s news over a cup of coffee and pastries. Those were better times when men talked about the drought and ladies conversed about canning tomatoes. It’s another world away now as I vaguely remember my own childhood days.

The church was clearly a refreshing place to sit in the comfort of Jesus Christ. I wondered if it was just me or did the rest of the congregation feel the Holy Spirit? Was their only intention of attending church to just rush in with the hope of forgiveness handed to them? Satan’s shining sin glows everywhere, you know, but he’s so exposed in God’s house.

Our world of sin is never so obvious nor blatantly displayed as it is today. I will push the envelope by saying schemes and gimmickry have run to the forefront. It’s like running for the presidency. Subliminal ice cubes in a glass spelling “SEX” in bold letters was an impressive way to relay the message to the public. Most movies flaunt “R” and “X” ratings which have become the norm in this distorted society. We catch up with friends on social media only to be subjected to jokes and articles about the male and female anatomy. What happened to sex and our bodies being personal and sacred?

1 Corinthians 6:12-13

12 “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but I will not be mastered by anything. 13 You say, “Food for the stomach and the stomach for food, and God will destroy them both.” The body, however, is not meant for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.

But as far back as the Roman Empire, sexual exploitation was Satan’s key denominator. John the Baptist contested, in public, King Herod’s lack of discipline for he replaced his wife with her sister, who was a younger, more vivacious aristocrat. John was beheaded, consequently, as requested by Herod’s daughter. Sex was the ultimate sin which began the betrayal of God’s words. Kings and Queens fell like dominoes in the world’s wake of Satan’s shining sin. Sodom and Gomorrah suffered God’s divine judgment because of prolific prostitution and homosexuality.

No measurable degree of accountability exists in sin by exploiting sex outside of God’s marriage. Adulterated sex is a gateway to Satan’s castle. If one relishes breaking the laws of God, I must ask, “Where will it end?” When you break one of God’s cherished laws, the rest will seem obsolete. More men and women today need to hold to God’s commitments because Satan, without a doubt, has made sex a sport – a game with damning results.

Satan uses his power of persuasion to convince us it’s all right to sin against God. Whether you have a lack of willpower, insecurity, or mental illness, sex outside of marriage is Satan’s invitation to give you a life of perversion, long-lasting guilt, and recordable sin. It changes personal values and corrupts the mind where cleanliness and innocence once prevailed.

1 Peter 5:8-9

“Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world.”

In the beginning of this blog, I spoke of dress codes. A lack of proper attire invites Satan into the mind. His shining sin, sex, makes it appear acceptable though, doesn’t it? As history repeats itself, God seized empires because of this sin, and improper sex was the root of their evil.

Be alert and be informed for God knows our thoughts before we act on them. Satan lurks on every page of life. He is in the movies and programs we watch, and the commercials impeding clothes. Sex sells! The satanic air you breathe, whether in church, at home, or in public lures the perfumes from afar, tempting the spirits within your soul.

I pray this world, one day, will wake and beg for forgiveness from such absurd things. Straying from God is like being dropped in an ocean of sin – you will eventually drown! Your life will be forever changed when you find Christ. Pray to fill your spirit with hope and God’s true love!

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Marriage Blues

Marriage Blues

Marriage is give and take. You’d better give it to her or she’ll take it anyway. Joey Adams

1.They lived happily until they got married

2.I asked my wife what she wanted for Christmas.She said to me “nothing would make her happier than a diamond necklace “So I bought her nothing.

3.Marriage is like a public toilet.Those waiting outside are desperate to get in.Those inside are desperate to get out. Stephanie Robinson

4.A good wife always forgives her husband when she’s wrong. Milton Berle

5.Women marry because they believe that he will change one day. Men marry because they believe she’ll never change. Both are mistaken.

6.The best way to remember your wife’s birthday is to forget it once.

7.You should argue with your wife only when she’s not around.

8.A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband. A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.

9.Love is blind, only marriage opens your eyes.

10.There are 2 times when a man doesn’t understand a woman – before marriage and after marriage.

11.A little boy asked his father, “Daddy, how much does it cost to get married?” Father replied, “I don’t know son, I’m still paying.”

12.The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret.
Henny Youngman

13.Marriage is the main reason for divorce.

Ok my friends,the point I would like to ask is, why most of  these humor are one sided ?

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Stop fighting with your spouse!

Stop fighting with your spouse;
If you beat your wife again,
I will no longer be your friend;
And madam, stop provoking him;
You don’t it to your husbandj;
In marriage, no one must hit
Or speak rudely to the other;
Love and respect are Paramount;
Without the two in marriage,
It cannot last.
Work hard for your marriage;
You don’t leave it to chance.
Fight fair as we say,
Meaning you do your best to make
Your marriage succeed.
Are you going to do that?

What is marriage?

Marriage is a two-in-one
Arrangement;
When two merge into one;
Not physically,
But in mine and heart;
To journey together
On the plains of love;
Up the hills,
And down the valleys
of joys and sorrows;
Many are the spoilers
Along the way:
Anger, suspicion
Jealousy, arguments,
And quarrels;
Many stumbling blocks
Spread out also:
Money, friends, intruders;
And what have you?
You have to fill
Your traveling bag
With lots of love,
Tolerance, positive attitude
And patience,
Else you hit hard the rocks
Of disaster before you know.
Though some sail through
To silver, bronze, gold
And diamond;
The light of others
Quenches just at take-off.
Marriage, though hard
Is indispensable
For continuity of life.
Follow the blue print
And enjoy your marriage.
Don’t, disaster kisses you.

What can you say?

If you have been following my poems to my sweetheart, you certainly would have seen I have posted poem number 100.

So many poems to one person aren’t they? Well, not too many to my sweetheart and those of you who enjoyed them.

Did you enjoy them?

I really enjoyed writing those poems; just as I enjoy my sweetheart. But don’t get me wrong. It isn’t all milk and honey with my sweetheart and I. Nowhere in the wide world is it that.

It was sweet, no doubt, but only at times. Bitter moments took their turn, though I wouldn’t say abounded.

What is paramount is knowing how to overcome them; and overcome them, we did. We sailed through to where we are. Good enough, the ship didn’t sink.
I hope you got some inspiration from them. That is one reason they were written.
To inspire you to grow.

We can always learn from others. That can be a great way to grow in relationship.

If you enjoyed those poems, why not let us know? And if you did not, you can always drop a note.

May God’s richest blessings never stop pouring on you!

Fill the Empty Hole

It was February 2017 when I laid eyes on him for the first time in thirty-two years. Though we both aged gracefully, it didn’t stop the thumping of my heart for the beautiful man I dearly loved, Dana Bicks. A smile that lights up the camera lens and a sense of humor so witty it’s absurd, but oh… what a man of God!

I spent most of my adult life in and out of dysfunctional relationships, so I never really learned the concept of “loving” a man the godly way. In fact, I’d sworn off marriage. Many times I prayed the Lord would lead me to a job where I could serve Him. So, I pursued mission work in Africa and even signed up for the Peace Corps (which I decided against), but still, a great emptiness lingered in my soul. Something or someone was missing in my life. Help me, God, to fill the empty hole.

And, along came Dana…

Dana and I had many missing years to catch up on, so we left very few moments without speaking a word. But, when I discovered he was a struggling Christian author, I knew God had a reason for reuniting us. Dana had hundreds of narratives written on paper and in his cellphone, and an unpublished book poorly edited by Tate Publishing. I had several years’ experience of working for a publishing company. OK, Lord, you have a funny sense of humor! You put this man back in my life to fill my empty hole – both professionally and on a personal basis.

It is rare, indeed, to find a man who loves as deeply as Christ loved His church, but this is the story of Dana. He is a profound and humble man, chosen by the Lord to be His representative to the world; he never takes God’s messages for granted. Deeply devoted to serving, Dana is a blessing to all who come in contact with his healing words, and I can only stand back in awe.

I reminisce on the day we eloped on a beach in Destin, Florida. Just as we were pronounced ‘man and wife,’ doves flew out of the tall grasses. A sign from God? Perhaps, but better still was a rainbow which appeared over our heads in some pictures we snapped of each other. We glanced behind us to observe its pretty colors and no rainbow was in the sky! Yes, our dear Lord blessed this marriage.

In recent weeks, we learned our faith and love will be put to the test. A doctor diagnosed me with heart failure and other serious problems – a devastating blow to newlyweds whose lives just hit the top of the barrel. With many more inspirational books to write and other deeds to do for God, Dana continues to wake each morning shining in hope. Each night he gently touches the skin over my heart and prays for healing and answers. He is a husband and a father with so much love for God and man, and I cannot thank him enough for just being him.

On this Father’s Day, I want to thank God, my Father, for blessing me with the special husband who filled the empty hole. Regardless of my outcome, I know the Lord will let Dana soar above the clouds, for he is truly gifted. However much time I have left to love him, I am honored to be a small part of Dana Bicks’ world. My time with him has been filled with compassion, respect, and love of life. Better yet, he allowed me the opportunity to serve the Lord as I so desired for many years.

God bless you, my sweet baby – I dearly love you! Happy Father’s Day!

Written by Anne Bicks

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When will you marry?

This is for those who are not married?
I want to know
What you are waiting for;
When will you marry?
Are you waiting for Miss Right?
Or Mr. Right?
If you are looking for Perfect,
Let me assure you
That particular individual
Is still a long way off;
Mr. Right and Miss Right
Are hard to find.
You will grow white hair
Waiting for Mr./Miss Right.
And why should you?
How right are you?
Why do you want right
When you are not right?
If you are not married,
Make up your mind and get in.
Stop looking for what
You will never find.
There is no Miss Perfect;
And no Mr. Perfect anywhere
In the world.
No Mr. Right, no Miss Right.

Wedding day

Wedding day is finally here,
So special a day;
A day not like other days;
And why so?
Because your all life changes
Once for all;
Or should I say forever?
For that is what happens;
From single life
To couple life;
Two are no longer two
But one;
That means two become one.
Sealed together by love!
Until death do you part.
We shall hear and witness
The oath;
As lovers take each other’s hand.

A Man Called Christian

My windows were wide open, but tears resonating from the house next door  hampered the refreshing molecules. I wondered… what kind of man makes a wife cry? The sobbing was an every night occurrence. He arrived home again and again, in the wee hours. She told me he worked late, but I doubted it.

He opened the door and kissed the kids goodnight while they stood at the mirror, brushing their teeth. Without a kiss for her, he told his wife he was going out back to work in the shop. “It relaxes me after a hard day’s work,” he claimed. She made dinner, so he grabbed the plate of food and headed to his hideout. The pain sharpened as a dagger twisted, once again, by his careless appearance. The back door slammed again and silence.

He locked himself away safely in the shed and pulled out a knife to snap off the top of a bottle buried in the chest. Whittling his world away, he hid his sorrows in the bottom of a longneck bottle. His state of mind included carving the names of his exes in the bottom of his soles so he could save himself from sin. Several hours later, he staggered to bed and slammed the door shut again. So, the screaming begun behind the blinds. It’s a horrible life for a wife to witness and endure, and only God could save the innocent from the terror of his conscience.

What kind of Christian man puts his family on a bus Sunday morning and stumbles to the shed for his own benediction? He opened another bottle for his personal communion. As he stared at the ground, he chuckled at the buried empties; meanwhile, a poor twenty-something mother of three, put on a face and filed into the aisle of a sanctuary. She has no money for the offering plate and seeks only the strength to make it home.

I ask God in heaven for His mercy. My heart is wrenched by a man named Christian who carves his past in the bottom of his boots. His days are numbered… he will soon discover if God doesn’t show His wrath first, then the bottle will. His wife bears a name she hates so much, and her three little ones will have to endure the legacy of their father’s misfortune. Are there prayers in heaven for a man who calls himself Christian? I wonder… 

The day will come when the blood he bled will be no more. Three little children will have to fend for themselves while their mother struggles to support their mere existence. Her sacrifice is to put on an apron and do her best every single day. The kids now sit on the porch and carve their past into the treads of their own little world. I watch and pray God will bless this mess – the man called Christian, now left beneath his unmarked tombstone. A coward at best, he carved his memory into his children, and his reputation branded them for life.

I have changed the names in this story. I ask God, in the name of Jesus, to save this family. God bless the innocent, abused wife who slaves her life away and waits for Christ’s return. She prays for the forgiveness of the hatred boiling inside her for a man she thought she knew named Christian.

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Allow me to ask you Christian women and men, does this resonate in your heart? Or does it familiar? Please use these verses to enlighten your soul and know you are not alone:

“Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.” Colossians 3:19

“A man shall eat well by the fruit of his mouth, but the soul of the unfaithful feeds on violence” Proverbs 13:2

“Do not envy a violent man or choose any of his ways.” Proverbs 3:31

“Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, ‘Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,’ says the Lord.” Romans 12:19

“When you lie down, you will not be afraid; Yes, you will lie down and your sleep will be sweet. Do not be afraid of sudden terror, nor of trouble from the wicked when it comes; for the LORD will be your confidence, and will keep your foot from being caught” Proverbs 3:24-26

“The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon Me, because the LORD has anointed Me to preach good tidings to the poor; He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to those who are bound” Isaiah 61:1

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