Guest Post from Carol Evenson
Our Teen’s Unique Needs for Love
Teenagers require a unique form of love from their families and their friends. Their needs in many instances can present challenges for many parents.
Sometimes it seems that their children rely on them one day, but then they want nothing to do with them the following day.
Teens need a parents’ love, even though it may seem that they reject love when it’s given to them freely. They want your attention, but troubled teens often do not make good decisions when trying to do so. So what is it that they really want?
Teenagers are transitioning from childhood into adulthood and their own feelings are often jumbled and messy. What they need might not be clear to them, but it’s clear to you.
Teens Require Love That Allows them to Make Mistakes.
Your teen needs you to let them makes mistakes. It is never easy to sit back and watch your teen make mistakes.
As his or her parent your immediate reaction is to jump in and solve their problems for them so they avoid hurt and upset.
Your teen always needs to know you’re there for him or her when challenges happen, but they need to learn for themselves.
You are showing your love for your teen by allowing him or her to experience something that teaches life skills they can put to use throughout life. Although it may seem difficult as a parent, teenagers will learn and grow from the mistakes they make and their challenging experiences.
Teens Need Love Through Parenting Rather Than Friendship.
If there is one thing that people need to be careful of with their kids, it’s their own desire to be a child’s best friend.
There is a proper time for this. Your child will eventually become your best friend when they grow into an adult, but being only a best friend while forgetting to be a parent when they are children can pose problems.
They need guiding mentors and loving role models to teach them important lessons and principles.
Although this will cause you to implement more discipline, they will still need to feel your love for them.
Teens Need You to Recognize Their Abilities.
Some kids are exceptional athletes, and some kids are studious and book smart. Others are creative minds who are neither particularly athletic or interested in education, but their creative abilities are off the charts.
Your teen needs you to recognize his or her natural abilities rather than attempting to force him or her to be good at something they’re not or something they simply don’t enjoy.
Your recognition of natural abilities is a bold statement to your teen that you’re proud of who they are as a person. That’s the kind of love, support, and praise they need.
Teens Need Actions On Top of Words.
You can tell your teen all day long you love him or her, but you can’t say it if you’re not showing it.
If your actions aren’t speaking louder than your words, your child is not getting what he or she needs from you.
Be sure you’re able to back up your love with appropriate action so teens see and feel the truth in your words.
You can say you love them all the time, and you shouldn’t stop there; you should also show it.
This can be as simple as listening intently when they talk, spending quality time with them, and really being there for them whether you’re going through treatment from drug addiction or a divorce, your kids need proof of your love through your actions.
Teens seem so complicated and difficult at times, and they really are. At the end of the day, however, teens are just people who are no longer children but not yet adults who need your love and affection. This is the time in their lives they discover who they are and who they want to be.
It’s their choice, but it’s a more positive choice when they have the love and support of their parents backing them up with every breath.
Let your teens know you love them, but do it in a way they will understand and motivate them to grow.
About the author
The author, Carol Evenson, is an entrepreneur and professional consultant specializing in C-level training and business growth. She currently works with organizations across the globe assisting CEOs with their expansion strategies. Carol also works as a real estate agent when she has the time.
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