7 Lies by which society misguides you !!

Society lies

“Society has become so fake that, the truth actually bothers people” Unknown     Image by jacqueline macou from Pixabay

It’s 4.5 minute read.

Why why all succumb to the society, having its own views on everything & anything under the the Sun ?

Society never tires you with its time tested comments ,since you are addicted to the concept of society’s benchmarks,right from your birth to till the day you die.

In other words society wants you to play by its rule book.

Do you remember the famous personality Joseph Goebbels and his quote…

“If you tell a lie big enough and keep repeating it, people will eventually come to believe it.”

By now I know that You are wondering which society I am talking about ? And where is that society located ?

My friend,this society is nothing but your so called

  • Ourselves
  • well-wishers (including your parents,sorry if I am brutal),
  • uncles,aunties
  • your neighbors
  • your teachers
  • your friends
  • your community
  • your daily news papers,TVs,movies
  • Regular advertisements
  • Your favorite movie stars
  • Your social media
  • Your political discussions,tastes and narratives

you name it….you have it!

Society in other word is a set  of people around you all the time, trying to manipulate you to their advantage.

1.Unconditional Love exists

A rubbish,and a lie uttered time immemorial.To be frank ,there is no such thing in the relationships.

Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not. So each is inevitably disappointed. Albert Eisenstein

Our love is directly proportional to how our partners,relatives,friends etc make us feel.

Simply put…. any body gets hurt if their expectation is not fulfilled.This is human nature and there is no escape from it.

Don’t hurt yourself by dreaming/expecting ‘unconditional Love’. Also you can never give unconditional love.Mark my statement.

2.Marriages are made in Heaven

Hmm…If it is so….just answer me why there are so many divorces ?

Marriage is like a cage; one sees the birds outside desperate to get in, and those inside equally desperate to get out. Michel de Montaigne

Is it true,some say marriage is a life long torture !

Marriage: A legal or religious ceremony by which two persons of the opposite sex solemnly agree to harass and spy on each other for ninety-nine years, or until death do them join. Edbert Hubbard

Wife & Husband-why can’t they be best friends for life ?

3.Your life is a meaningful minimum journey to be enjoyed to the maximum

Another thrash. And in spite, all the modern Gurus encourage us to lead a meaningful life.( self defeating )

What made Gautama Buddha get enlightenment ? It’s because of human suffering.Do we have similar God’s grace to get enlightened ?

Life is full of misery, and you are intelligent enough to accept that it’s painful to lead the life and death is the only permanent solution.Since we can’t die….at least let us accept the truth.

Happiness in your life is only for the time being that too in bits, and rest of the times you are busy whining.

“It’s a misery to be born,a pain to live,a trouble to die” St.Bernard of Clairvaux

Still, temporary happiness can come from minor things like,you playing with toys in your childhood, your first Kiss,sex now & then,massage,hot bath, friendship,a short travel,one night stand,A champagne,Receiving a lovely gift or a comforting hug etc.etc.. Drugs can take you to another level.

4.It’s better if you know your life partner before your marriage

Really?………another Utter lie.

No partner in love relationship..should feel that he has to give up an essential part of himself to make it viable May Sarton

Each individual is unique.Only sustained friendship in the form of total understanding between the life partners endures the marriage.

Life partners too expect personal space though they know each other so long !

Even if you knew your partner before,it’s not a guarantee for a successful marriage.

When you can’t understand the people, though you spend your whole life with them,(example parents vs children,children vs parents,siblings vs siblings),then why should you give importance to knowing your partner before?.

Understanding becomes easier after the marriage once you both know your limitations and your strengths mutually over the time.

5.Money won’t make you happy

Ha ha ….Without money you cease to exist.

My dear friend, money is everything.It brings you, both happiness and pleasure.

“Lack of money is the root of all evil”      George Bernard Shah

We work / study for what ? is this not to earn money and live happily ?

People with more money are satisfied with their life style and are in a position to help others too.

He who marries for love without money has GOOD NIGHTS & SORRY DAYS   unknown

6. Boys’ won’t cry

Virtually a child conditioning !!

“People cry not because they are weak,because they’ve been too strong for a long time” unknown

Boys too have feelings ,emotions, excitements and stages of sadness.

Otherwise why will Dr.Sivan,ISRO( The Indian Space Research Organisation ) chairman became teary eyed,when the Chandrayan mission was not successful ?There are many famous men like Andre Agassi and Obama too had teary eyes.

7.Blood is thicker than water

Unfortunately blood relatives are not interested in you,since they are struggling with their own problems and you have to fend yourself.

you can’t blame them.

‘Blood is always thicker than water,but some family members at times are on blood thinners’ unknown

Many times friends come to your rescue.The understanding with the friends anytime better than the blood relatives.

Ego and Jealousy play spoilsport in blood relationships.Don’t play victim card here !!

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Kindred spirits

Kindred Spirits

“The most intriguing people you will encounter in this life are the people who had insights about you, that you didn’t know about yourself.” Shannon L. Alder

It’s 3.1 minute read.

“Oh God ,I just met you ,but I feel I know you so much already”

A kindred spirit is someone whose energy resonates at the same frequency as yours.
They are the FEEL GOOD FACTORS

This can happen when you meet some one in person or online !

Definition of Kindred Spirit

According to Free Dictionary, Kindred spirit is defined as

“A person who shares several or many fundamental beliefs,ideas,convictions,sentiments,attitudes and/or interests with oneself”.

Kindred Spirits

It’s shared way of experiencing the world.

Simply put, a kindred spirit is someone who you share a mutual meaningful connection with.

Kindred spirit is the person who understands you so well and you too feel ,you understand this person equally well at the very first meeting between you both.
Both are very comfortable with each other at any given point .

It’s about innate connection.

The kindred spirit can enter your life for a moment, for a short period or be with you life long .

We meet many people in our lives.With some we feel the disconnect as if there is a wall in between but with some you feel they are magnetic and you both get attracted to each other !

Kindred Spirits

To discover a kindred spirit is to find your heart ,in the heart of a friend. Ann Parrish

Kindred spirits can be with anybody,be a known or unknown person.

What is the basis of Kindred Spirits ?

  • You both share common interests.
    you can talk hours together and surprisingly outsiders can’t understand you.
  • You both understand each other so well and there is never an argument.
    You both enjoy each others humour
    You both feel as if you are a long-lost friends.
    You are comfortable with each other .
    You don’t hesitate to tell the most personal stuff
  • Though you might have met the person physically or online for a brief period, you have some sixth sense telling you that you can trust this person.
  • You are available all the time supporting each other both in Times of happiness and sadness.
  • You both are always in sync.You both understand your limitations.And there is some unexplainable cosmic flow between the two.The relationship is always positive and supportive.

Don’t confuse Kindred Spirits with soul mates or Twin flames.That is another discussion on some other day.

Have you at any time come across Kindred Spirit ?

Please share your thoughts on this subject.

Thank you.
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Setting the example

Setting the example

If you set the right example for your children during their formative years,those bonds of love and respect will be unbreakable. And your children will grow into adults,whom you can be proud of.

Are you grateful to your parents ?

Thank you

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The gift Of Friendship

The gift of friendship

It’s 3.3 minute read.

Don’t you agree with me that True friendship is difficult since finding a true friend is the hardest.

” A friend is some one who understands your past,believe in your future….accepts you to-day the way you are “. Unknown

We may not realize the value of friendship until the time it is given when it is badly needed,so we have to cultivate and cherish the friendship .

Make aware to your friends how much they mean to you and how well they contribute to your happiness from your routine boring life.

Don’t ask me how to pick up a true friend or how to know,that the other person can be a good and even a true friend.

This is a difficult subject and can be discussed on another day.

The following quote is my feeling ,whenever I interact with my true friends.

Friendship is a treasured gift,and every time I talk with you I feel as if I’m getting richer and richer “. Unknown

Friends can even become Besties.

True friendship is ‘Magical’ !!

“Friendship is not about whom you have known the longest,it’s about who walked into your life and said “I’m here for you” and proved it.  Unknown

The true friend helps me being a counselor in times of distress ,

Can be my confidant when the situation demands,most importantly gives all the strength I need when I am the weakest at some point of time of my life.

Now you will ask me…What is the secret of sustaining this friendship ??

Certain things come to my mind,which can further the bond.

1. Be frank.Accept the drawbacks or short fall either of you may possess.
No body is perfect in this world and everybody has some story to tell and as a true friend you are willing to listen.Provide the much-needed leaning shoulder.Respect the individuality.Even if situation demands call spade a spade and explain the realities.Never thrust your opinions.When you tell the truth let the other person accept this rather than doubting and vice versa.

2. Develop the principle of ‘forget and forgive’ since we know we are never free of committing the mistakes and it’s human to do mistakes.

3.Try to recollect the fun moments or joyous moments you both had while spending time together or enjoying the jokes during your chat times.

4.Share the happiness together.

The happiness ,one can feel only when one is able to share with the other.

Remember you can never enjoy happiness all alone.

Thank you my friends for patiently reading.

Now please share your personal experience on ‘Gift of Friendship’ be on-line or off-line.

Thank you

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Opposites Attract, But Similarities Bind

This blog post is inspired by a comment on my previous post “The Law Of Attraction – You Attract What You Are”. In the comment, it is mentioned that “opposites attract more than what you are or what is similar to you.”

Now, I’m a strong believer in the Law of Attraction, but I can’t deny that opposites can attract as well. However, for a relationship to stand strong through time, I do believe that people form friendships or relationships with people who hold the same core values, especially when it comes to relationships.

We date a wide variation of people in order to find the ideal partner, which can be both easy and difficult depending on the set of core values people have, such as integrity, family, or success. And often, we have unforgettable memories of people who are the exact opposite of us due to challenges we come to face. Eventually, it may prove to be unmanageable over the long-term, however, what makes these memories persistent is because of all the emotional and educational choices we made in attempting to keep a relationship going.

But why do we choose to fall in love with someone who can drive us completely insane as well as make us feel like we are in heaven?

Why Opposites Seem To Attract In Relationships

There are many benefits when you’re with someone who is similar to you. Also, the same can be true when being with someone different because they can help you grow in unexpected significant ways. You might have observed this in your own or your friends’ relationships. However, does the idea behind attraction suggest that opposites do attract, or is this a wrong idea that we relate to romance?

Here are three reasons to think we may:

1. Reflect On Each Other’s Values

We go through different life stages and as we go through them, we develop a set of core values that become the foundation of our beliefs and how we live our lives.

Imagine you’re with someone who’s similar to you, then you live a comfortable life in which you don’t or hardly reflect on these values because there’s simply no need for it. But if someone comes into your life who is your opposite and you respect this person’s intellect and decision, chances are you re-think the values that you previously perceived as the truth.

Be aware that such confrontations can make it hard to decide how to live with one another. However, if both can manage to talk through this and understand each other’s values, you may develop more self-knowledge and an updated set of values that better represents who you are.

2. There’s More To Discover For Both

When you’re with someone who’s similar to you, there’s less need for compromise because you can enjoy lots of the same interests. However, there are shortcomings regarding repetitive habits and interests which can reach a level of boredom and stop growth.  

On the other hand, the opposite people can often introduce each other to new habits and activities. This will require you to be open-minded. When you do, you’ll come to discover there’s more within you than you have initially thought.

Also, when seeking help or advice, it’s likely that you often reach out to people who intuitively understand you. So, many of these people will also be similar to you in certain ways. Though they know what you want and be able to shift into your perspective easily, they can’t offer you that much beyond your own thinking.

Seeking the advice of someone who differs from you affords you a chance to think completely differently, which is especially useful when you have used all your usual strategies and solutions. Having a partner different from you means direct access to someone who looks at your situation in a completely new way, offering thoughts and ideas that simply wouldn’t occur to you given the way you usually think and vice versa.

3. You Complement Each Other

Last but not least, let’s not forget the benefit of dating your opposite has the potential for complementary qualities. It can help you to create a sense of balance, for example, one might be shy and serious while the other is outgoing and funny. In this case, it’s easy to see how both partners view the other as ideal as in one’s strengths balancing out the other’s weaknesses.

Additionally, complementary qualities go even further. If you’re an optimist and your partner is a pessimist, you can make more accurate assessments and potential choices by putting both minds together. And let’s not leave out the possibility of having complementary skill sets.

It has been said that the happiest couples never have the same qualities, they just have the best understanding of their differences.

Are You Sure That Opposites Attract?

Unfortunately, there’s no research showing that differences in personality, interests, education, upbringing, or other traits lead to greater attraction.

On the contrary, researchers found in one study that college students preferred descriptions of mates whose written bios were similar to themselves or their ideal self over those described as complementing themselves.

Besides that, there’s evidence that small differences between spouses can become larger over time. Psychologists Andrew Christensen, Brian Doss and Neil Jacobson describe in their self-help book “Reconcilable Differences” how partners move into roles that are complementary over time.

Here’s an example you might be familiar with: When one member of a couple is slightly more humorous than the other, the couple may settle in which one claims the role of “the funny one” while the other settles into the role of “the serious one.” Research has demonstrated that partners grow more complementary over time. They may begin as quite similar, they find ways to differentiate themselves by degree.

In the end, people persist in thinking opposites attract, when in reality, relatively similar partners just become a bit more complementary as time goes by.

Originally published at ye-chen.com

  • What do you think of opposites attract?
  • What are your experiences with it?
  • Do you have more insights to share with us?

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How long online friendship lasts ?

How long online friendship lasts ?

One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood. Lucius Annaeus Seneca

It’s a 4.5 minute read,if you have patience proceed..

Before we proceed further let us understand ‘friendship’.

“Friendship is a best ship which can lead you on world tour”   unknown

It takes roughly 200 hours to become best friends with someone,    according to science. Can you sustain it afterwards ?

Say 6 months ? 1 yr…..3 yrs…..7 yrs…. Or till one of them decides to knock the Heavens door ?

Don’t you think… friendship is a complicated relationship among people ?

It can last from one day to…. life long !

“Friendship isn’t about whom you have known the longest…it’s about who came, and never left your side” unknown.

It is said that true friendship is possible,having similar wavelengths,and  the two sharing their true feelings, whether a happy or sad situation in an honest way,at the same time maintaining the confidentiality,helpful to each other whenever possible and not interfering unnecessarily into their personal matters.

with the invention of internet and followed by online chat facilities…..both distant & near friendship became ONLINE

What is online friendship ?( Unknown to each other initially )

It is communication between two unknown friends exclusively via internet.With the advent of social media,video chats etc,it became easier, simpler and importantly faster to develop online friendship.

What is great about online friendship ?

1.You can develop confidence in yourself.  2. Get support in times of depression (morally). 3.Emotional bond.  4.Can add value to your life.

Is it necessary for online friends to interact face to face  ?

Depends on the parties concerned. It is said that for friendship to be real,better they have face to face interaction and be honest with each other.

Can one trust online friendship ?

How sure are you that the other side person is true to what he or she,as they describe themselves ?

But remember,It is not all that easy to find right kind of person and probably you should think twiceand must be lucky !

Initially it may be touch and go ,but make sure you listen to your sixth sense.Suspicions apart,I think if both of them are on the same wavelengths,the friendship can boost and lasts longer.

Can online friendship between man and woman possible ?

If the friends happens to be man and woman,it all the more imperative that they know their limits and keep things cool.We also come across many examples of people falling in love and taking the friendship to next level and break up later.Ultimately it is up to them to decide how to maintain the relationship to be long-lasting.

If both parties intend to have fun ( online ),share the moments,having jokes,exchanging the ideas,making recommendations,suggestions, even helping each other’s in difficult situations,(need not be financial),and may or may not be serious in taking the friendship to next level…..it can still be a lot of fun!

What about age factor?

I  am not sure.For teenagers the relationship is obvious. For Middle aged people it can be different meaning.For older people they are in need of affection & some body to talk to.

What if friends happen to be young & aged?

It is up to the individuals concerned to continue or stop depending upon the individual feelings and priorities.I am not able to guess really and internet search giving different opinions.

And the secret of lasting online friendship ?

In order to achieve lasting friendship,I think a continuous communication is important.I feel it should be on a daily basis at regular intervals.

The beauty of online friendship is that you don’t know the other person, personally and your imaginations run wild !( if you are not into video mode the fun is much greater)You are in your own virtual world,enjoying every minute ! The discussion can even be a deep personal conversation !

My take…long-lasting online friendship is possible, provided

1.If the parties develop mutual TRUST and be HONEST (not exploiting).Don’t overdo  chats or get addicted.

2.Be frank and have an open communication.Have a regular chat schedule  ( timing is important,both the parties must allot mutually convenient time) and keep in touch,know each other even better.

3. Be a good listener and appreciate the other party when the person deserves the same.

4.Give importance to the common bond.

5.Don’t be possessive.Tune down your ego to ZERO

6.If possible turn online friend into a real life True friend.

What is your experience with unknown online friends ?

Would you like to add any more suggestions ? please go ahead.

Thank you . Philosophy Through Photography

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