SUCCESS is getting what you want…HAPPINESS is wanting what you get… ❤
“The things that makes your heart beat faster and your eyes glow when you do it or talk about it, no matter if it’s hiking, yoga, gardening, painting, meditation, love, photography, going for walks, helping others – do that. Do it as often as you can. Because that’s what life is about. Creating as many passionate, happy moments as possible. Don’t let anyone stop you from doing the things you love – not even yourself.”
When someone is taking two-three months leave from his/her office, colleagues remember him/her till the time colleagues are dependent on him/her for the office works. When there is no dependancy for work, colleagues forget him/her. When you continue your writing, commenting on other’s blogs, you have interaction with other bloggers. As soon as you will stop writing and stop commenting, other bloggers will forget you.….
No one is born heartless....
It’s just that some lose it too early to the world...
Don’t look at yourself,
Look for yourself...!
Where are you... is the spot only within you,
where stands some peace under the shower of hope.
How are you all doing? I am sure you are reading and learning something new every day.
Recently, I was reading the “Rich Dad’s Guide to Investing” by Robert T. Kiyosaki. I had been meaning to read the “Rich Dad Poor Dad” for a very long time but finally got around to reading this book of his. Just few pages into the book and I read something that I felt was relevant for me.
One of the lines that caught my attention was “If you want to see a person’s past, present and future, just listen to his or her words.”
This line is not to judge anybody. If we apply this to our life, we definitely see a connection between our choice of words and who we have become. This also means that if we don’t like who we have become, it can be changed by changing our choice of words.
In my case, I used to be a very negative person. If anything happened in my life, good or bad, my first thought would always be negative. Now, how was that possible? For example, if something bad happened then it was easy to be negative but if something good happened (suppose I scored very good marks) then I would be scared that it would go away (what if next time I did not do well?).
I still do have a little bit of negativity in me but there has been a considerable improvement in how I see myself now. There are days when I feel low and I use demotivating words, but now I am conscious about them and try to come out of them as soon as possible.
Another powerful line from the book:
“Words form thoughts, thoughts form realities and realities become life. The primary difference between a rich person and a poor person is the words he or she uses. If you want to change a person’s external reality, you need to first change that person’s internal reality. That is done through changing, improving or updating the words he or she uses.”
So to be a happy person, I need to use happy and positive words which will raise my vibrations and take me into a positive zone. That is why gratitude is considered to be the first step in becoming a positive person. It helps us see our blessings, whatever maybe our situation, and this in turn sets momentum for more blessings to come into our lives.
To bring about a change in our present reality, we have to change ourselves internally and first thing that can be done is use of positive or constructive words. These words will start giving shape to our thoughts and before we know we will start seeing the positive changes in our lives.
It is very important for us to have more positive words in our vocabulary. Just think whether you speak more positive words or negative words. We are so used to talking about the problems happening around us, that at times we have long conversations just discussing problems – our life, the society, the nation, the world at large. Increasing the vocabulary of positive words will keep us in a positive frame of mind eventually making us happy persons.
I had read a similar thing in “The Power of Positive Thinking” by Norman Vincent Peale where he gave a method to come out of a negative state of mind. He said to become positive , one exercise to do was to make a list of all positive words that we could think off till we became positive. So once when I was not in a good mood, I started typing all the positive words that I knew and by the time I wrote some fifteen words, my mood had changed. Now I know more positive words than I have ever known.
Positive affirmations are another powerful tool to stay positive and believe that things are working out in the best possible manner for us. Affirmations are positive words put together but they become powerful when we believe in them and then let go.
So what can you do about it? How can you change your use of negative words into positive? Here are few things that you can do.
When you feel negative, first accept it and don’t fight it. The more you fight it, the more intense it becomes. Take slow steps to convert it.
Think about a positive word, look at its meaning and then use it in a sentence. By the time you do the same exercise for 2-3 words, your mood will begin to change; or just like me start making a list of all the positive words you know, you can even google and find new words.
Then, start writing gratitude for at-least 5 things that you remember at that moment. This will make you feel good about what you currently have.
Then dance, hear music, go for a walk, meet friends etc. Do whatever you feel like doing. (I used to crochet because it used to divert my mind from negative thoughts into positive and happy thoughts. I now hear songs that motivate me and uplift me.)
By this time you will be in a very happy state and to further enhance it start saying some powerful affirmations for health, career, relationships etc. Repeat them again and again till they feel real to you and then let go.
All these steps together won’t take a lot of time and before you know you will be in a positive mind frame.
Gradually, you will start noticing a shift in your overall thought process as well. The negative thoughts will be replaced by more positive ones. If anything bad happens, you will be calm and you will try to look for something good in it. Also, if you do get negative thoughts, you will immediately realize it and automatically take steps to change your thoughts instead of worrying about them.
Words have great power. So let us use them carefully and positively for our own good and for the world at large. Let us pray for peace and harmony rather than discussing wars.
Yesterday in my post I wrote about the Psychological Concept of Synchronicity as explained by Carl Jung.
Synchronicity does not have fundamental empirical evidence to support it as a “force.” This was pointed out on by reader of the post in a well written comment. However, my post was not about proving the existence of Synchronicity. Both the primer post and this post are to explain the concept and why I believe it is a “force”–at least in my life–despite the lack of empirical evidence.
Having laid out the bare basics of the theory my personal experience is next.
Let me start by backing up.
I apologize. This is my third guest post on Success Inspirers’ World site. I failed to give an introduction as I am a new writer to the site. Given this opportunity to introduce myself I also can wrap in the context and background of where my belief in Synchronicity developed.
When I first started my WordPress Blog, acliddle.blog, I talked about my Spiritual Path in a two part post. The overall theme of my site is to share the journey of how I became a writer and how my characters’ stories continue to develop, how I continue to develop as a writer. I have been writing stories since I was in first grade. I have had a love of reading since long before grade school. My grandfather read me nursery rhymes at bed time. Each year at Christmas time, until I was ten years old, I was coaxed into the retelling of the story of the Nativity, which I did from memory for the first time when I was three years old. The need, the drive, the passion to be a storyteller, a writer, is in my soul.
I believe in messages. Not necessarily from an outside presence. One way these messages manifest to me is through Synchronicity. Most of the my experiences of Synchronicity are positive and good fortune coming into my life. However, there have times which were negative, karma if one chooses the label, showing me my choice of not cursing or wishing ill on someone who had harmed me was the right choice.
The best example of karma in motion was when I was unexpectedly terminated from my position as Administrative Assistant for a Church. The pastor who was my boss had graduated from seminary and was going through the Ordination Process to be Ordained Full Clergy in June of that year. The Church only does Ordination once a year and usually the person passes the first time. When I was terminated I was not given a reason for my termination.
Fortunately for me I have an amazing support system and was able to bounce back.
In the first six months after my departure the pastor did not pass her Ordination, had a fender bender which was bad enough the insurance opted to total her car, and broke her ankle in same accident. I wished no ill. Prayed no vengeance against my boss. I genuinely felt bad for her when I found out these things happened. She has since gone on to be ordained, gotten married and has children. Yet, at the time she wronged me, the Universe balanced the books.
For many years I believed in Serendipity instead of Synchronicity. Happy accidents. Luck. Those times were mainly during my teens. As I matured, studied Buddhism and became more conscious of my thoughts and actions Synchronicity started to make more sense.
The Secret and The Circle touch on a version of Synchronicity. Since the 1970’s, if not earlier, the idea of Positive Thinking has become a large, almost mainstream movement. Some mock the idea, some are fanatic about it, most do whatever they can to make money off of it.
People who are fanatical, as those who are vehement critics, both miss the mark. As a believer of a Middle Way and everything in moderation, taking the principle ideas of Synchronicity, The Secret, The Circle, and other teachings and using them to adapt my worldview is the best practice I have found. I do not go to the extreme of shunning every sick person or sitting on my butt day in and day out without activity toward making my wish a reality. At the same time I don’t dismiss the ideas as whimsical or vapid. Instead, I use the knowledge gained to guide my activity, making conscious choices in my actions, thoughts, and speech.
The most recent Synchronistic events happened in the last couple of weeks. Since I am currently unemployed I have been focusing my attention back on the *Bear and Hunter* book series I co-author. Though we are nowhere near being able to afford the making of an audiobook I like to do my research ahead of time. So I have been looking into what it takes and how much it would cost to record and distribute. One day I happened to catch a friend of mine at his home. We have not been able to get together and really talk for several months. He happened to be off and his house is on the main drag of the town. I drove by after going to the store and was on my way home. So I got to talk to him. At the same time I have started therapy online. I talk to a counselor over the phone. I have had three sessions at this point.
When I was a little girl my grandmother, as part of her ministry, would take me around to nursing homes and make me sing for old people. Fortunately for her I am a Leo so I wasn’t too traumatized by these memories. As I grew older I continued to show fearlessness in front of an audience. By high school I was doing vocal lessons and in band, choir and Speech and Drama. Quite by accident (a story for a later time) I discovered I was good at public speaking and people liked the sound of my speaking voice as well as my singing voice.
Keeping all of this in mind, earlier this week on Wednesday, I was talking to my therapist. She knows I am not working but my unemployment is not the issue I am currently tackling. As a completely unrelated tangent (again this was only the third time we had spoken on the phone) she asked me if I had thought about doing voice over work, i.e. recording for audio books. She says I have a pleasant voice which she would pay to listen to me read one of her favorite authors so I should give it a shot.
I was looking to find someone to be the voice of our book, not the other way around. Yet, this was an intriguing possibility my therapist had suggested. It has potential. The friend who I finally reconnected with the other day happens to do DJ work and has equipment and software to record and edit.
As I am writing this post, my friend is editing a sample of my recordings to post on ACX. In the span of a little over a week I had the thought of creating an audiobook, had it suggested I record audiobooks, and reconnected with a friend who has the resources to record my voice.
While this is the not the neon-lit eureka moment story to convince die hard skeptics of Synchronicity it is for me the latest example of how being conscious of the moment, of keeping a positive outlook, and of going with “gut-feeling” or “little voice” can lead to a new and good things in life.