It Takes More than Flying a Flag (My 4th of July Poem)

There is a different between boundaries

And not respecting someone

The balance isn’t always easily done

 

Our country is now so divided

With the 4th upon us

But unity has me excited

 

I honor you

But not always your choices

There is a difference

 

This 4th let’s celebrate

A new age dawning

We decide the future, not fate

 

Other countries can have intense discussions

Why can we?

Start a chain reaction of American liberty!

 

I know it isn’t always easy

This cost of freedom

It takes more than flying a flag!

 

(C) Carly Wiggins 2018

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Between 55 and death.

Between 55 and death.
It’s time to use the money you saved up. Use it and enjoy it. Don’t just keep it for those who may have no notion of the sacrifices you made to get it. Remember there is nothing more dangerous than a son or daughter-in-law with big ideas for your hard-earned capital.

Warning: This is also a bad time for investments, even if it seems wonderful or fool-proof. They only bring problems and worries. This is a time for you to enjoy some peace and quiet.

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Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children and grandchildren, and don’t feel bad spending your money on yourself. You’ve taken care of them for many years, and you’ve taught them what you could. You gave them an education, food, shelter and support. The responsibility is now theirs to earn their own money.

Keep a healthy life, without great physical effort. Do moderate exercise (like walking every day), eat well and get your sleep. It’s easy to become sick, and it gets harder to remain healthy. That is why you need to keep yourself in good shape and be aware of your medical and physical needs. Keep in touch with your doctor, do tests even when you’re feeling well. Stay informed.

Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other. The key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner. One day one of you will miss the other, and the money will not provide any comfort then, enjoy it together.

Don’t stress over the little things. You’ve already overcome so much in your life. You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present. Don’t let the past drag you down and don’t let the future frighten you. Feel good in the now. Small issues will soon be forgotten.

Regardless of age, always keep love alive. Love your partner, love life, love your family, love your neighbor and remember: “A man is not old as long as he has intelligence and affection.”

Be proud, both inside and out. Don’t stop going to your hair salon or barber, do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist, keep your perfumes and creams well stocked. When you are well-maintained on the outside, it seeps in, making you feel proud and strong, from the inside.

Don’t lose sight of fashion trends for your age, but keep your own sense of style. There’s nothing worse than an older person trying to wear the current fashion among youngsters. You’ve developed your own sense of what looks good on you – keep it and be proud of it. It’s part of who you are.

ALWAYS stay up-to-date. Read newspapers, watch the news. Go online and read what people are saying. Make sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those social networks. You’ll be surprised what old friends have to say when you will meet.

Respect the younger generation and their opinions. They may not have the same ideals as you, but they are the future, and will take the world in their direction. Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them that yesterday’s wisdom still applies today.

Never use the phrase: “In my time.” Your time is now. As long as you’re alive, you are part of this time.

Some people embrace their golden years, while others become bitter and surly. Life is too short to waste your days on the latter. Spend your time with positive, cheerful people, it’ll rub off on you and your days will seem that much better. Spending your time with bitter people will make you feel older and harder to be around.

Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that is). Sure, being surrounded by family sounds great, but we all need our privacy. They need theirs and you need yours. Even then, do so only if you feel you really need the help or do not want to live by yourself

Don’t abandon your hobbies. If you don’t have any, make new ones. You can travel, hike, cook, read, dance. You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a kitchen garden, play cards, checkers, chess, dominoes, golf.

Try to go. Get out of the house, meet people you haven’t seen in a while, experience something new (or something old). The important thing is to leave the house from time to time. Go to museums, go walk through a park. Get out there.

Speak in courteous tones and try not to complain or criticize too much unless you really need to. Try to accept situations as they are.

Pain and discomfort go hand in hand with getting older. Try not to dwell on them but accept them as a part of the life.

If you’ve been offended by someone – forgive them. If you’ve offended someone – apologize. Don’t drag around resentment with you. It only serves to make you sad and bitter. It doesn’t matter who was right. Someone once said: “Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Don’t take that poison. Forgive, forget and move on with your life.

Laugh a lot…. Laugh away your worries Remember, you are one of the lucky ones. You managed to have a life, a long one. …Many never get to this age, never get to experience a full life… So Enjoy Life !!

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Parenting !!

An excellent message on Parenting…adapted from a speech !

You will be gone soon but the children will be here; And nobody can manage anybody else’s life; though they are with you,  yet they belong not to you…
You may give them your love but not your thoughts; for they have their own thoughts
You may house their bodies but not their souls,  for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit even in your dreams…
God will take care …
It is none of our business to be too concerned…
Whatsoever we can do, we do, but one should not ponder and think too much  about things going the way one wants …
That is very egoistic

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You have given birth to a child, but once he is out of the womb ; he is free of you
First he depended for his breath on you when he was in the womb
Then he will take his own breath
That moment, You don’t say  – ‘What are you doing?
Are you trying to be free of me? Trying to be independent?’

You feel happy that your child is breathing !!

First he will take milk from you, then one day he will start eating on his own

First he will go on clinging to your apron and then one day he will leave it

You will be happy because the child is growing, becoming mature.

Then finally one day he falls in love with a woman

He has found his woman, so he will go on his own way

Bless them, and whatsoever happens they have to find their own life and their
own meaning to life.

Now you are free.
Just try to find your meaning, your life, your goals, and devote the few days that are left to the search of the ultimate.

Don’t be concerned with ordinary things I have never seen a single parent who is happy about their children.

Nobody is ever happy… Even the father of Buddha was not happy… He was very very annoyed because his son turned out to be a pauper. He became a Monk and the father was hoping he would become an Emperor .. He crushed all his father’s hopes

One thing is certain — that the child is not here to fulfill your expectations

The child is here with his own destiny, and he will unfold his  own destiny. You are trying somehow to direct his destiny and that is going to be frustrated.

Accept it and bless them good.

They have to find their own ways

Who are we to interfere?
And how can we?

Pray for them but leave them on their own.

You just try to grow yourself.

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Excerpts from the discourse of a popular motivational speaker !!

 

Golden Sentences to implement in Life

Nice collection!! Please read and implement in your life the following golden sentences :

  • Heavy rains remind us of challenges in life. Never ask for a lighter rain, just pray for a better umbrella. That is Attitude.
  • When flood comes, fish eats ants and when flood recedes, ants eat fish. Only time matters. Just hold on. God gives opportunity to every one.
  • In a theatre when drama plays, you opt for front seats. When film is screened, you opt for rear seats. Your position in life is only relative. Not absolute.
  • For making soap, oil is required. But to clean oil, soap is required. This is the irony of life.
  • Life is not about finding the right person. But creating the right relationship.
  •  It’s not how we care in the beginning. But how much we care till the end.
  •  Every problem has (N+1) solutions: where N is the number of solutions that you have tried and 1 is that you have not tried.
  • When you are in problem, don’t think it’s the End. It is only a Bend in life.
  •  Difference between Man and God is God gives, gives and forgives. Man gets, gets and forgets.
  • Only two category of people are happy in life-The Mad and the Child. Be Mad to achieve a goal. Be a Child to enjoy what you achieved.
  • Never play with the feelings of others. You may win. But lose the person for lifetime.
  • There is NO Escalator to success. ONLY STEPS!!!
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Advice to 40 years old and older…

Excerpts from the discourse of a great philosopher : ADVICE TO 40-YEARS OLD & OLDER

Because none of us have many years to live, and we can’t take along anything when we go, so we don’t have to be too thrifty.

Spend the money that should be spent, enjoy what should be enjoyed, donate what you are able to donate

DON’T WORRY about what will happen after we are gone, because when we return to dust, we will feel nothing about praises or criticisms. The time to enjoy the worldly life and your hard earned wealth will be over!

DON’T WORRY too much about your children, for children will have their own destiny and should find their own way. Care for them, love them, give them gifts but also enjoy your money or what is left of it, while you can. Life should have more to it than working from the cradle to the grave!!

40-year olds, don’t trade in – your health for wealth, by working yourself to an early grave anymore. Because your money may not be able to buy your health.

When to stop making money, and how much is enough

Out of thousand hectares of good farm land, you can consume only three quarts (of rice) daily; out of a thousand mansions, you only need eight square meters of space to rest at night.

So, as long as you have enough food and enough money to spend, that is good enough. You should live happily. Every family has its own problems.

Just DO NOT COMPARE with others for fame and social status and see whose children are doing better etc., but challenge others for happiness, health, enjoyment, quality of life and longevity.

DON’T WORRY about things that you can’t change because it doesn’t help and it may spoil your health.

You have to create your own well-being and find your own place of happiness. As long as you are in good mood and good health, think about happy things, do happy things daily and have fun in doing, then you will pass your time happily every day.

One day passes WITHOUT happiness, you will lose one day.

One day passes WITH happiness and then you gain one day.

In good spirit, sickness will cure;

In a happy spirit, sickness will cure faster;

in high and happy spirits, sickness will never come.

With good mood, exercise, sun, variety of foods, good amount of vitamin and mineral intake, hopefully you will live another 30 or 40 years of healthy life

ABOVE ALL –

Learn to cherish the goodness around… like your lover, spouse and FRIENDS..They all make you feel young and “wanted”… without them you are surely to feel lost !!

Wishing you all the best for the more memorable years to come.

Heart Love

 

Our Real Strengths…

A young girl and her father were walking along a forest path…. At one point, they came across a large tree branch on the ground in front of them.

The girl asked her father:     If I try, do you think I could move that branch?

Her father replied:  I am sure you can, if you use all your strength.

The girl tried her best to lift or push the branch, but she was not strong enough and she couldn’t move it.

She said with disappointment: You were wrong, Dad. I can’t move it.

“Try again with all your strength,” replied her father.

Again, the girl tried hard to push the branch. She struggled but it did not move.

“Dad, I cannot do it,” said the girl.

Finally her father said, “Young lady, I advised you to use ‘all your strength’….  You didn’t ask for my help.”

Moral :

  • Our real strength lies not in independence, but in interdependence…
  • No individual person has all the strengths, all the resources and all the stamina required for the complete blossoming of their vision…
  • To ask for help and support when we need, is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of wisdom.