Even if we have to live with pain, we don’t have to live in pain
To live with pain means that pain is present within our consciousness; to live in pain means that pain dominates our consciousness, infecting our whole life with emotional negativity.
Suppose we have chronic back-pain that oscillates between acute and mild. While it is mild, if we still dwell on it, resenting its past occurrences or dreading its future recurrences, we end up living in pain. How can we avoid dwelling on the pain? By focusing on a purpose bigger than the pain.
If our life’s purpose is bodily enjoyment, bodily pain becomes unbearable. But if we have a higher purpose, that purpose makes the pain bearable. While lifting weights during a workout, we may feel some pain, but we persevere through it. How? By focusing on the purpose of improving our health.
The Religious Books indicates that the world’s cause-effect mechanisms determine external events; but how we experience those events – joyful or painful or in between – is determined by where our consciousness is focused. And that focus is determined by our purpose.
The Religious books’ wisdom reveals life’s highest purpose based on our deepest identity. It explains that at our core, we are souls. We are eternal parts of the supreme spiritual reality, the Lord. Our highest purpose is to love and serve him, and to therein relish unending joy. Our body is a tool for his service – even if it limits us in some ways, we can still serve him through our intention expressed within those limitations. When we make his service our life’s defining and driving purpose, then that service attitude itself becomes our steady connection with him.
When we thus center our consciousness on the Lord, it becomes bigger than any pains we may face, thereby enabling us to live with pain without living in pain.
Think it over:
What is the difference between living with pain and living in pain?
How does the Reglious wisdom help us to live with pain instead of living in pain?
Can you think of some area of life where you can rise from living in pain to living with pain?
Between 55 and death.
It’s time to use the money you saved up. Use it and enjoy it. Don’t just keep it for those who may have no notion of the sacrifices you made to get it. Remember there is nothing more dangerous than a son or daughter-in-law with big ideas for your hard-earned capital.
Warning: This is also a bad time for investments, even if it seems wonderful or fool-proof. They only bring problems and worries. This is a time for you to enjoy some peace and quiet.
Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children and grandchildren, and don’t feel bad spending your money on yourself. You’ve taken care of them for many years, and you’ve taught them what you could. You gave them an education, food, shelter and support. The responsibility is now theirs to earn their own money.
Keep a healthy life, without great physical effort. Do moderate exercise (like walking every day), eat well and get your sleep. It’s easy to become sick, and it gets harder to remain healthy. That is why you need to keep yourself in good shape and be aware of your medical and physical needs. Keep in touch with your doctor, do tests even when you’re feeling well. Stay informed.
Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other. The key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner. One day one of you will miss the other, and the money will not provide any comfort then, enjoy it together.
Don’t stress over the little things. You’ve already overcome so much in your life. You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present. Don’t let the past drag you down and don’t let the future frighten you. Feel good in the now. Small issues will soon be forgotten.
Regardless of age, always keep love alive. Love your partner, love life, love your family, love your neighbor and remember: “A man is not old as long as he has intelligence and affection.”
Be proud, both inside and out. Don’t stop going to your hair salon or barber, do your nails, go to the dermatologist and the dentist, keep your perfumes and creams well stocked. When you are well-maintained on the outside, it seeps in, making you feel proud and strong, from the inside.
Don’t lose sight of fashion trends for your age, but keep your own sense of style. There’s nothing worse than an older person trying to wear the current fashion among youngsters. You’ve developed your own sense of what looks good on you – keep it and be proud of it. It’s part of who you are.
ALWAYS stay up-to-date. Read newspapers, watch the news. Go online and read what people are saying. Make sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those social networks. You’ll be surprised what old friends have to say when you will meet.
Respect the younger generation and their opinions. They may not have the same ideals as you, but they are the future, and will take the world in their direction. Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them that yesterday’s wisdom still applies today.
Never use the phrase: “In my time.” Your time is now. As long as you’re alive, you are part of this time.
Some people embrace their golden years, while others become bitter and surly. Life is too short to waste your days on the latter. Spend your time with positive, cheerful people, it’ll rub off on you and your days will seem that much better. Spending your time with bitter people will make you feel older and harder to be around.
Do not surrender to the temptation of living with your children or grandchildren (if you have a financial choice, that is). Sure, being surrounded by family sounds great, but we all need our privacy. They need theirs and you need yours. Even then, do so only if you feel you really need the help or do not want to live by yourself
Don’t abandon your hobbies. If you don’t have any, make new ones. You can travel, hike, cook, read, dance. You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a kitchen garden, play cards, checkers, chess, dominoes, golf.
Try to go. Get out of the house, meet people you haven’t seen in a while, experience something new (or something old). The important thing is to leave the house from time to time. Go to museums, go walk through a park. Get out there.
Speak in courteous tones and try not to complain or criticize too much unless you really need to. Try to accept situations as they are.
Pain and discomfort go hand in hand with getting older. Try not to dwell on them but accept them as a part of the life.
If you’ve been offended by someone – forgive them. If you’ve offended someone – apologize. Don’t drag around resentment with you. It only serves to make you sad and bitter. It doesn’t matter who was right. Someone once said: “Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Don’t take that poison. Forgive, forget and move on with your life.
Laugh a lot…. Laugh away your worries Remember, you are one of the lucky ones. You managed to have a life, a long one. …Many never get to this age, never get to experience a full life… So Enjoy Life !!
An excellent message on Parenting…adapted from a speech !
You will be gone soon but the children will be here; And nobody can manage anybody else’s life; though they are with you, yet they belong not to you…
You may give them your love but not your thoughts; for they have their own thoughts
You may house their bodies but not their souls, for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit even in your dreams…
God will take care …
It is none of our business to be too concerned…
Whatsoever we can do, we do, but one should not ponder and think too much about things going the way one wants …
That is very egoistic
You have given birth to a child, but once he is out of the womb ; he is free of you
First he depended for his breath on you when he was in the womb
Then he will take his own breath
That moment, You don’t say – ‘What are you doing?
Are you trying to be free of me? Trying to be independent?’
You feel happy that your child is breathing !!
First he will take milk from you, then one day he will start eating on his own
First he will go on clinging to your apron and then one day he will leave it
You will be happy because the child is growing, becoming mature.
Then finally one day he falls in love with a woman
He has found his woman, so he will go on his own way
Bless them, and whatsoever happens they have to find their own life and their
own meaning to life.
Now you are free.
Just try to find your meaning, your life, your goals, and devote the few days that are left to the search of the ultimate.
Don’t be concerned with ordinary things I have never seen a single parent who is happy about their children.
Nobody is ever happy… Even the father of Buddha was not happy… He was very very annoyed because his son turned out to be a pauper. He became a Monk and the father was hoping he would become an Emperor .. He crushed all his father’s hopes
One thing is certain — that the child is not here to fulfill your expectations
The child is here with his own destiny, and he will unfold his own destiny. You are trying somehow to direct his destiny and that is going to be frustrated.
Accept it and bless them good.
They have to find their own ways
Who are we to interfere?
And how can we?
Pray for them but leave them on their own.
You just try to grow yourself.
Excerpts from the discourse of a popular motivational speaker !!
Excerpts from the discourse of a great philosopher : ADVICE TO 40-YEARS OLD & OLDER
Because none of us have many years to live, and we can’t take along anything when we go, so we don’t have to be too thrifty.
Spend the money that should be spent, enjoy what should be enjoyed, donate what you are able to donate
DON’T WORRY about what will happen after we are gone, because when we return to dust, we will feel nothing about praises or criticisms. The time to enjoy the worldly life and your hard earned wealth will be over!
DON’T WORRY too much about your children, for children will have their own destiny and should find their own way. Care for them, love them, give them gifts but also enjoy your money or what is left of it, while you can. Life should have more to it than working from the cradle to the grave!!
40-year olds, don’t trade in – your health for wealth, by working yourself to an early grave anymore. Because your money may not be able to buy your health.
When to stop making money, and how much is enough
Out of thousand hectares of good farm land, you can consume only three quarts (of rice) daily; out of a thousand mansions, you only need eight square meters of space to rest at night.
So, as long as you have enough food and enough money to spend, that is good enough. You should live happily. Every family has its own problems.
Just DO NOT COMPARE with others for fame and social status and see whose children are doing better etc., but challenge others for happiness, health, enjoyment, quality of life and longevity.
DON’T WORRY about things that you can’t change because it doesn’t help and it may spoil your health.
You have to create your own well-being and find your own place of happiness. As long as you are in good mood and good health, think about happy things, do happy things daily and have fun in doing, then you will pass your time happily every day.
One day passes WITHOUT happiness, you will lose one day.
One day passes WITH happiness and then you gain one day.
In good spirit, sickness will cure;
In a happy spirit, sickness will cure faster;
in high and happy spirits, sickness will never come.
With good mood, exercise, sun, variety of foods, good amount of vitamin and mineral intake, hopefully you will live another 30 or 40 years of healthy life
ABOVE ALL –
Learn to cherish the goodness around… like your lover, spouse and FRIENDS..They all make you feel young and “wanted”… without them you are surely to feel lost !!
Wishing you all the best for the more memorable years to come.
Your life is your own. Don’t waste it trying to be what others expect you to be. Don’t sacrifice your happiness to make everybody happy. Don’t give up on your dreams to build other people’s dreams…
YOUR LIFE IS YOUR OWN BE WHO YOU WANT TO BE….
You’ll know you’ve made the right decision when there is peace in your Heart..
Start listening to your own heart… There are only a few people in this world who will stay completely true to you, and YOU should be one of them… Listen to your own voice, your own soul… Deep inside, you know what you want, let no one decide that for you…