Don’t only show the way

Different types of people,
You will find around.
Some will want to lead;
Some will want to follow;
Some will show the way,
But wait for others to go;
Some will go themselves,
And though will take
The lead,
Will not reach the end;
Some will come from behind,
And get right to the end;
Some are Andrew, the Apostle,
Who always showed the way
But would himself step back;
Some will be like Peter,
Who will get to the tomb last,
But go directly inside;
If you know the way,
And equally know the destination,
Don’t only show it to others;
But get on your way
And also arrive.

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Do you need my advice?

Do you need my advice?
This is my advice!
What ever happens,
Let the search continue;
Let the struggle continue;
Let the fight continue;
Let the knocking continue;
Let the effort continue;
Make it a policy
Always to get to the end.
To persist;
When you start something,
Endeavour to see the end of it,
Whether successful or not,
Get to the end.
Never stop half way;
This means you never quit;
If all the avenues
Have been exhausted,
Then you can understand,
God will have a new door
Opened for you.
I encourage you;
If you need my advice,
This is my advice;
And your key to success.

Spouses, learn to accommodate each other for happiness in marriage

In marriage, you must learn to accommodate each other.

If you as husband and wife do not learn to accommodate each other, it will be difficult for you both.

Each of you has faults. You are bound to have differences. You must learn to get on well despite your differences and each other’s faults. Accept your spouse as he or she is. Bear in mind that it is not easy for an adult to change. Hence thinking that you can use anger or other coercive means to push your spouse to change may only create more trouble and leave both of you bitter and frustrated.

Things I am happy I said to my daughter day 2 Letter no 2

Dear Daughter,

It is a real joy for me to write to you today. How are you doing? I hope you are fine and that you enjoyed our last discussion.

Today, I want to say something about your dream. If you are among the young girls whose dream is to grow into women of integrity and high standing,  I congratulate you. But let me caution that to become a woman of high standing and enjoy respect when you grow up is not easy.  You must start workng for it right away.  Remember the adage which says Rome was not built in one day.

Do not expect to be anything without working for it. If you want anything in this world, work for it. A great life does not come on its own, neither can it be built in one day. No great accomplishment is done in one leap. A great life is built step by step; and every step counts. A step in the wrong direction can be disastrous. It can lead to your doom. Similarly, a step in the right direction can take you to greatness. Make sure you are aware of every step you take; and that it is in the right direction.

Look before you leap. Don’t leap before you look. Do not leap bindly otherwise you may land on slippery or dangerous ground. You know what this means. Do not go where you should not go. Know where you are going before you set out. 

I will continue to pray for you. Pray for yourself always.

I thank you for always listening to me. May God bless you abundantly and take you far.

Expect to hear from me soon.

Your darling Father.

The best thing for you to do with Anger

I have seen him at work
With my own eyes;
I have been his victim myself,
Not once, not twice;
But over and over;
The fellow has gripped me many times;
And almost strangled me;
Do you know who I am talking about?
Anger;
I am talking about the individual
called Anger who has caused,
And causes more trouble than you can imagine;
He has destroyed marriages;
Rocked friendship;
Shattered relationship between colleagues;
Partners;
Allies;
I have learned once and for all
Not to play with him.
When I smell him,
I take my time;
Especially at home,
When it comes to my spouse;
He seems to hate good days;
Or to see you in good relationship
With your spouse;
He will step in forcefully
To brittle it.
If I talk about Anger repeatedly,
It is because I know what harm
Mr. Anger can cause in your life.
Do not give him the least chance
In your life.
Take note of the following things
Which you must not do with Anger.

  1. Do not make friends with Anger.
  2. Do not go into any relationship or alliance with Anger
  3. Do not wine and dine with Anger;
  4. Do not share an apartment with anger;
  5. Do not sleep on the same bed with Anger.
  6. Keep a good distance from Anger.
  7. Master the skills to handle Anger because he must come; and when he shows his ugly head you should know how to crush him.
  8. Never forget that if you don’t crush Anger when he comes knocking, he will crush you.
  9. The best thing to do with Anger is to give him a knock out.

Give to others what you like others to give to you

The golden rule is as valid today as it has always been. Let’s look at it in the realm of marriage. If you want a great wife for your son, bring up your daughter to be a great wife for someone else’s son. Couples need to take note of this. Let someone else’s son not have the type of wife you do not like for your son. If you want a great husband for your daughter, bring up your son to be a great husband for someone else’s daughter. Let someone else’s daughter not have the type of husband You do not like For your daughter. We have to learn to give to others as the golden rule stipulates. What you like from others be sure you are not giving the opposite to others. Since we love our spouses to be good spouses, we must train our children to be good spouses. If we all did this, the world would be an excellent place.

Things I am happy I said to my daughter day 1

I said many things to my daughter when she was young. I am happy I said them. This is what I said to her one day:

“My dear daughter, you are a woman in the making. Today, you are a girl. It wouldn’t be long before you become a woman. What type of a woman do you wish to become when you grow up? Do you wish to become a woman of integrity? Do you wish to become a woman of high standing? Do you wish to be an unknown quantity? Do you wish to command respect when you become a woman?”

She listened to me with keen attention. I went on:

“You shall be respected if you are a woman of integrity; if you respect yourself; if you ind how you behave. You shall be respected if, in addition to being a woman of integrity, you are a woman of high standing. Perhaps, you have not yet given thought to what you want to become in life. Perhaps, you are among the so many girls I this world who just float through life with no clear idea of what they want to become.”

I noticed that she was listening to me with keen attention. That spurred me on to continue:

“Many people do not care what they become. They have no ambition. They have no sense of direction for their lives. Such people almost always end up below what they are capable of becoming. That should not be you.”

This conversation went on with my daughter for many days, weeks, months and years. Today, she is a woman. When I look at her, what she has done, is doing, and I  know she will do, I am happy I talked to her the way I did.

I think it is worthwhile saying what I said to her to other girls. I am confident it will help them, as it helped her, if  not transform their lives. 

But what I will be sharing cannot be limited to girls. True that there will be things only for girls, but it is important for boys to know what parents are telling their girls. There can be no doubt that this knowledge will help them too in many ways.

Thanks for reading! To be continued…



Grasp rudder of marriage ship 2019 don’t leave to caprices of winds

The ship will sink if left loosely afloat untended

What measures do you take to make
Your spouse happy?
Don’t forget your spouse is your spouse;
What is your strategy to keep
That special person peak happy? What did you do to have
An above the ordinary marriage in 2018?
Perhaps, you didn’t care about
The happiness of your spouse;
And the success of your marriage; Perhaps, you left that to the winds;
If you opt for that, take my word for it;
Your spouse will not be happy; Your marriage will sparkle with squabbles;
And turn into a war zone,
Though looking like marriage; Husband and wife will be the warriors;
And the casualties of worries, Anger, frustration and doubt
Will not only assail you;
But may crush you and your marriage.
Take time to build your marriage; Pay good attention to it;
That is your life;
Your spouse is your choice;
Take your responsibility
To uphold your choice.
Do not leave it to the winds
To toss it where they want;
This season with its many challenges.
Can uproot your marriage;
Take the rudder of the ship;
And steer it to the safe shores of A successful and happy marriage Now and all of 2019.

What measures do you take to make
Your spouse happy?
Don’t forget your spouse is your spouse;
What is your strategy to keep
That special person peak happy? What did you do to have
An above the ordinary marriage in 2018?
Perhaps, you didn’t care about
The happiness of your spouse;
And the success of your marriage; Perhaps, you left that to the winds;
If you opt for that, take my word for it;
Your spouse will not be happy; Your marriage will sparkle with squabbles;
And turn into a war zone,
Though looking like marriage; Husband and wife will be the warriors;
And the casualties of worries, Anger, frustration and doubt
Will not only assail you;
But may crush you and your marriage.
Take time to build your marriage; Pay good attention to it;
That is your life;
Your spouse is your choice;
Take your responsibility
To uphold your choice.
Do not leave it to the winds
To toss it where they want;
This season with its many challenges.
Can uproot your marriage;
Take the rudder of the ship;
And steer it to the safe shores of A successful and happy marriage Now and all of 2019.

Wisdom’s way

If you want to travel
Wisdom’s way,
As the wise people do,
Don’t be too anxious;
Anxiety doesn’t hasten
Anything;
Neither does it change
Anything;
It does not give you
What you want,
So why be too anxious;
Be cool
And think well;
With a cool head,
You may find what you
Are looking for.
That is wisdom’s way.

Finding happiness in marriage

Happiness is a hard thing to find In marriage;
But not an impossibility;
If there are people who think They can find happiness
By making their spouses unhappy,
I tell them
They are mistaken;
If there are people who think
They can find happiness
By running down their spouses,
I tell them,
They are mistaken.
If there are people who think
They can find happiness
By hurting their spouses,
I tell them
They are mistaken.
If there are people who think They find happiness
By cheating on their spouses,
I tell them
They are mistaken.
If there are people who think They can find happiness
By neglecting their spouses,
I tell them
They are mistaken.
If there are people who think They can find happiness
By always criticizing their spouses,
I tell them
They are mistaken;
I don’t think you can find happiness
By making your spouse unhappy; Of course, there are people,
Who look for happiness
Through these wrong ways;
You cannot find happiness
By running down your spouse; You cannot find happiness
By hurting your spouse;
You cannot find happiness
By cheating on your spouse; Instead, you may find sorrow;
You cannot find happiness in marriage
By doing wrong to your spouse. You can find happiness
By doing right to your spouse. You can find happiness
By being a loving spouse;
And making your spouse happy.