Do you remember the period of romance when, as a young person, you just met the one who, today, is your spouse?
How was it like? I mean when you just fell in love.
Can you remember how your heart used to beat with love?
Was what you loved most at the time not for both of you to be together?
I can bet that when you first met the one who is your spouse today and that small voice inside you said, “This is the one you must spend the rest of your life with,” you felt different. You must have felt happier than if you had hit a gold mine.
When you find someone your heart goes for, things become different for you. There is no natural force I know as strong as love.
The period before marriage is usually full of romance; a very thrilling time for many people.
When you just get married, it is the same. Your love is at its peak.
Sadly, this does not last for long. Soon, challenges emerge; differences begin to surface; the excitement starts to dissipate. The heat or steam that you had for each other drops and eventually becomes history. Then you begin to yearn for a come-back.
Unfortunately, it is not easy to bring it back, which makes you angry, disappointed, and frustrated; and this could give birth to the idea of divorce in your mind. This clearly shows that if something is not done, your marriage might hit a rock.
The good news is many people manage to find a way to sail through this stormy ocean.
I know for some couples, attending a Marriage Encounter Week end has been the magic wand for them.
At a Marriage Encounter Weekend, you reexperience the pre-marital thrill of your relationship.
Yet, after the week end, if you are not careful, it will vamoose again; and will be hard to return.
You don’t have to let the heat go off your marriage. Keep it hot. There are things you can do to keep that fire of love between you and your spouse burning.
If you let that fire quench, that may be the end of your marriage. Your marriage might hit bottom and never get up.
If you know the tools to keep love hot in your marriage, use them. There is no use having tools and allowing them to lie wasted. If you use them rightly, your marriage will shine like light and radiate and touch others around you.
Those who attend marriage courses, to enrich their marriages, are usually given some tools to use to attain this objective.
I know the tools given at the Marriage Encounter week end because I attended one; and was so thrilled that I felt I should go to town and start announcing to everybody that there was something called a Marriage Encounter Week End that everybody should attend.
Many couples who attend this weekend have the same experience. But does this thrill continue for ever after the week end?
It doesn’t. It goes for a while for many and the the world around them swallows them. But a few keep it and so stand out conspicuously in their communities as ideal couples.
It is important to know why some couples fall back and why some shine on.
The couples who fall back are the ones who fail to implement what they learned at the week end. During the week end many concepts are taught. The couples open up to each other (husband to wife and vice versa) as they had never done before. Each couple focuses on itself. Husband knows himself and his wife better. Wife knows herself and her husband better. This leads to more understanding and love is generated at a high rate.
If a couple lives the concepts that they take home from the week end, they will continue to have a thrilling marriage experience.
If you have never attended a marriage Encounter week end or any marriage course, of course, with good help, you can still have thrill in your marriage.
We are committed to helping couples get the most from their marriage. Marriage is meant to be enjoyed not to be endured. Remember how you felt about your spouse when you started. It may be you thought you would die if you did not get married to each other. But now, where is the love that gripped you like fever? It’s no longer there.
Why? Is it because your spouse has changed? Is it because your spouse was hiding their true colors before marriage and only brought them out when you were married?
Not so. It is that you are not using the tools that a couple needs to use to have a successful marriage. And you may not be using them because you don’t know them, or you may know them but are too lazy or not motivated enough to use them.
Even some couples who are encountered and so well equipped still are unable to generate that feeling that they had during their romance and which they relived during their Original Weekend.
We know how to help you regenerate that heat. We will equip those who are not equipped, and motivate you if you are not motivated so that you do what is necessary to do for your marriage to shine and light up the world around you.
You can be a role model in marriage. Why not? We need role models in the area of marriage to inspire other couples and especially young people as they look forward to getting into this very important institution.
Make sure you journey with us. Follow up and make sure you do not miss any of our publications. We give you this for free because we believe in marriage. We got help along the way from our Marriage Encounter Week End, and also the inspiration which many couples lack to dig deep into the weekend concepts. That is why we enjoy our marriage as we do; and wish to share our blessing. You can be like us and even better. Wear the armour of humility and close the door if pride comes knocking. You will be proud you did.
To God be the glory!