Wedding day

Wedding day is finally here,
So special a day;
A day not like other days;
And why so?
Because your all life changes
Once for all;
Or should I say forever?
For that is what happens;
From single life
To couple life;
Two are no longer two
But one;
That means two become one.
Sealed together by love!
Until death do you part.
We shall hear and witness
The oath;
As lovers take each other’s hand.

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One Word can….

One word can start a friendship,
One kiss a love affair,
One smile can bring you laughter,
One hug can show you care,
One wave of your hand can say hello,
One tear can make you cry,
One gentle touch can warm a heart,
One dream can make you fly,
One song can bring back memories,
One thought sees brighter days,
One wish can bring colourful rainbows,
One good deed can bring you praise,
One moon can light your darkness,
One star can guide your soul,
One step will start each journey,
One hope to make your goal,
One hand to hold in friendship,
One heart that’s kind and true,
One Love…One friend, is all you need,
It’s really up to you.


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Thank you

Shubham Verma

An ideal couple

If you are married,
Try to be
An ideal couple;
An ideal husband and wife;
An ideal man and woman;
What do you expect
To find in
An ideal married couple?
Love tops the list;
Where there is love,
There is trust;
There’s fidelity;
There’s self giving;
And there’s oneness.
And they can’t have
All these qualities
Unless they are God-loving;
God-fearing;
And prayerful;
God is at the center
Of their marriage;
The binding force;
That cements them together;
To be no longer two,
But one.
An ideal couple,
Is an inspiration
To other couples;
And non couples.
Their love radiates;
And lights up
The whole world around
Them.
An ideal couple
Is a role model.

12 things you don’t do to your spouse and more

12 things you don’t do to your spouse:

  1. Don’t shout at your spouse or scold your spouse as if your spouse were a domestic servant.
  2. Don’t shout orders at your spouse.
  3. Don’t correct your spouse in public.
  4. Don’t belittle your spouse to your friends; to your children or to your spouse’s friends.
  5. Yes, don’t humiliate your spouse.
  6. Don’t gossip about your spouse.
  7. Don’t blame your spouse in public.
  8. Did I say don’t humiliate your spouse?
  9. Yes, don’t disgrace your spouse.
  10. Don’t criticize your spouse when you are with your friends or your spouse’s friends.
  11. Don’t discourage your spouse.
  12. Don’t adopt a negative attitude towards your spouse.

10 things to always do to your spouse:

  1. Appreciate your spouse.
  2. Praise your spouse privately.
  3. Praise your spouse publicly.
  4. Use endearing words to your spouse.
  5. Give your spouse a tender touch regularly.
  6. Bring home gifts to your spouse.
  7. Kiss or hug your spouse often.
  8. Look at your spouse with loving eyes often.
  9. Send love messages to your spouse during the day.
  10. Tell your spouse how much you love her/him.

14 words of endearment to use to address your spouse:

  1. Darling.
  2. Dear.
  3. Sweet heart.
  4. Honey
  5. My love.
  6. Oxygen.
  7. Sweetest.
  8. Sweetie.
  9. Sunshine.
  10. Gold.
  11. Silver.
  12. Pearl.
  13. Hero.
  14. Heroine.

14 ways to spend quality time together.

  1. Go out to dance together.
  2. Go visit friends together.
  3. Go on a picnic together.
  4. Go to a snack together.
  5. Go for a ride together.
  6. Go on a journey together.
  7. Sit out at home together.
  8. Watch television together.
  9. Play a game together.
  10. Sing together.
  11. Cook together.
  12. Do chores together.
  13. Eat together.
  14. Pray together.

8 things to do for your spouse.

  1. Help your spouse with his/her office work or business.
  2. Encourage your spouse.
  3. Pray for your spouse.
  4. Commend your spouse.
  5. Give your spouse financial support if needed.
  6. Protect your spouse.
  7. Defend the interest of your spouse.
  8. Go to places your spouse cannot go to if you can, and do things for him/her.

Love is scarce- Really ?

Love is scarce- Really ?

Only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love.

― Henry Miller

Why this happens ?

We all  think that, Love means romance.But it is not so. There are 7 types of love.
  1. Storge- Familial love
  2. Phila-friendship ( shared goodwill)
  3. Eros-Sexual or passionate love
  4. Agape-Universal love ( unconditional love)
  5. Ludus-Playful or uncommitted love
  6. Pragma- Long term love ( married people)
  7. Philautia-self love ( healthy or unhealthy)
source Psychologytoday.com, Quora) My discussion is limited to the married couple.

Think for a second.

Can you tell  the difference between ‘school and life‘ ?
” In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test.   In life,you are given a test,that teaches you the lesson” Tom Bodett
So what I am trying to tell is Life gives an opportunity to learn lessons  from our experience, in this situation….. day-to-day problems faced by the couple,thus giving them an opportunity, making them more accommodating,understanding and helpful to each other. Thus we can become wiser by experiencing these experiences. But here is the hitch. The problem comes in the unknown form of ‘E G O  nullifying all the benefits of life’s lessons,which we learn over the course of time. Why can’t we make an attempt to look into this ? Why can not we prevent this devil before it strikes us ? When we are able to manage life style diseases with sugar-free,fat-free,salt free,gluten-free etc. etc…why can’t we give a try for Ego- free ?

The only way to achieve peace and harmony is becoming ‘EGO LESS’,

and this should be the  ultimate outcome of your life’s lessons,if you are willing to learn.

Another aspect is ,to be able to differentiate, the difference between love & Possession.Don’t think ,just because you love the person…you got right to possess the person.( as if the person is a property) Remember love is selfless,coming from the bottom of the heart with total dedication,sincerity and commitment to lead a supportive life together.

And so…..

We make our life miserable because we never make an attempt to understand the full potential of true love,and thus we make ‘love’ scarce in spite of itabundance. True Love gives you, the real experience of what all you dream and Ego gives you, all the heartache. Thank you.   Philosophy through photography
“A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love”. – Max Muller

The challenge of every couple

My dear sweet, loving couple,
Are you a source of inspiration
To other couples in
Your community?
Do other couples come to you
Asking to know the secret
Of your success in marriage?
If they do,
There can be no doubt,
You are a source of inspiration,
What a great thing, indeed!
To be a source of inspiration
To another is great;
Not to talk of being
A source of inspiration
To others.
The challenge of every couple:
Live your couple life so well
That you become
A source of inspiration to others.
Who is ready for this challenge?
Are you ready?

The binding force of your marriage

When you wed in Church, God comes into your marriage, making it a tripartite affair of husband, wife and God.

A true Christian marriage is not a union between husband and wife alone but a union of the couple and God.

God is the cement of the Christian marriage. He binds the couple in a way that they become inseparable.

In marriage, the couple is required to work with God as a team. Any matter concerning their marriage is the responsibility of the team: husband, wife and God.

God is permanently available to help them as a couple in what ever they want to do.

But if a couple decides not to make use of him in their marriage, that is their problem. It is left to each couple to seek God’s help and get it. This is done through prayer.

To pray as a couple is to open the door of your marriage to let God in to help you handle whatever marital challenges that you may face.

Those who leave God out of their marriage, face a lot of difficulties without a way out.

You must not leave God out of your marriage. Do not try to do it all by yourself.

If you acknowledge God as the binding force of your marriage, bring him in to play his part, which is a key part to make your marriage successful.

Prayer of husband and wife together

Lord, here we are, in front of you
As  a couple;
We thank you for your goodness;
You have given us many gifts,
Many blessings,
Which give us reason to be happy;
Although life has not been easy,
As we have had many problems,
Including illness, misunderstandings,
Worries, and financial difficulties;
And have many times quarreled,
But you have never abandoned us;
You have stood by us always.
And each time we have turned to you,
You have not let us down.

You have given us courage and wisdom
To manage all our challenges;
You have helped us to overcome anger;
To heal the wounds of hurt;
We cannot thank you enough
For your goodness.
Thank you for the gift of each other.
As we look to the future,
We trust that you will continue
To stand by us;
To help us grow in our love
For each other;
And in our love for you;
Grant us the grace
To be more attentive to each other;
To undestand each other better;
To be more ready to forgive
Each other;
May our marriage be an exmple
For others to emulate;
May our couple relationship shine
And inspire all around us!
Make us proud of each other;
And may all the glory for our love
Come to you!

Amen!

			

Marriage is full of challenges. What do you do?

We have journeyed for a while on the path of marriage; Like every good marriage, a review is worthwhile. It doesn’t suffice to be married; You must be proud of your marriage; and happy to take a good look at it. Every couple faces challenges In their relationship; You are no exception for sure; How you face these challenges Matters; It can mean joy or disaster For your marriage;If you respect God’s plan for Your marriage, you will have A happy marriage. To do this, you must find ways, To equip yourself with tools To help you Reach out to each other; And once you have the tools, Use them to enhance Or fortify your relationship; Each time you find Your marriage loosing steam, Redynamize it. Learn to encourage your spouse. It strengthens relationship. A great challenge is how you handle hurt feelings. One thing you must avoid in your marriage is being too sensitive. Don’t be too sensitive. You must not retort when your spouse says something you don’t like. This can affect your marriage very negatively. Spouses have to learn to help each other succeed. You don’t stand on each other’s way. A big mistake that many couples make is wanting to see their marriage succeed on its own. It doesn’t happen. You must do what it takes. There are reasons many marriages shatter. You need to know them, especially the main ones so as to know how to handle them or stay clear of them.

I would advice that you take time and master the skills of handling conflict in marriage. Since conflict cannot be completely avoided, it is important to know how to handle it when it comes.
One thing you must give priority to is couple power – doing things as a couple. If you cultivate the habit of doing things as a couple, you will garner tremendous power for achievement as a couple.