Wedding day is finally here, So special a day; A day not like other days; And why so? Because your all life changes Once for all; Or should I say forever? For that is what happens; From single life To couple life; Two are no longer two But one; That means two become one. Sealed together by love! Until death do you part. We shall hear and witness The oath; As lovers take each other’s hand.
One word can start a friendship, One kiss a love affair, One smile can bring you laughter, One hug can show you care, One wave of your hand can say hello, One tear can make you cry, One gentle touch can warm a heart, One dream can make you fly, One song can bring back memories, One thought sees brighter days, One wish can bring colourful rainbows, One good deed can bring you praise, One moon can light your darkness, One star can guide your soul, One step will start each journey, One hope to make your goal, One hand to hold in friendship, One heart that’s kind and true, One Love…One friend, is all you need, It’s really up to you.
If you are married,
Try to be
An ideal couple;
An ideal husband and wife;
An ideal man and woman;
What do you expect
To find in
An ideal married couple?
Love tops the list;
Where there is love,
There is trust;
There’s self giving;
And there’s oneness.
And they can’t have
All these qualities
Unless they are God-loving;
God is at the center
Of their marriage;
The binding force;
That cements them together;
To be no longer two,
An ideal couple,
Is an inspiration
To other couples;
And non couples.
Their love radiates;
And lights up
The whole world around
An ideal couple
Is a role model.
Only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love.
― Henry Miller
Why this happens ?
We all think that, Love means romance.But it is not so.
There are 7 types of love.
Storge- Familial love
Phila-friendship ( shared goodwill)
Eros-Sexual or passionate love
Agape-Universal love ( unconditional love)
Ludus-Playful or uncommitted love
Pragma- Long term love ( married people)
Philautia-self love ( healthy or unhealthy)
( source Psychologytoday.com, Quora)
My discussion is limited to the married couple.
Think for a second.
Can you tell the difference between ‘school and life‘ ?
” In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test. In life,you are given a test,that teaches you the lesson”Tom Bodett
So what I am trying to tell is Life gives an opportunity to learn lessons from our experience, in this situation….. day-to-day problems faced by the couple,thus giving them an opportunity, making them more accommodating,understanding and helpful to each other.
Thus we can become wiser by experiencing these experiences.
But here is the hitch.
The problem comes in the unknown form of ‘E G O‘ nullifying all the benefits of life’s lessons,which we learn over the course of time.
Why can’t we make an attempt to look into this ? Why can not we prevent this devil before it strikes us ?
When we are able to manage life style diseases with sugar-free,fat-free,salt free,gluten-free etc. etc…why can’t we give a try for Ego- free ?
The only way to achieve peace and harmony is becoming ‘EGO LESS’,
and this should be the ultimate outcome of your life’s lessons,if you are willing to learn.
Another aspect is ,to be able to differentiate, the difference between love & Possession.Don’t think ,just because you love the person…you got right to possess the person.( as if the person is a property)
Remember love is selfless,coming from the bottom of the heart with total dedication,sincerity and commitment to lead a supportive life together.
We make our life miserable because we never make an attempt to understand the full potential of true love,and thus we make ‘love’ scarce in spite of its abundance.True Love gives you, the real experience of what all you dream and
Ego gives you, all the heartache.
Thank you. Philosophy through photography
“A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love”. – Max Muller
My dear sweet, loving couple,
Are you a source of inspiration
To other couples in
Do other couples come to you
Asking to know the secret
Of your success in marriage?
If they do,
There can be no doubt,
You are a source of inspiration,
What a great thing, indeed!
To be a source of inspiration
To another is great;
Not to talk of being
A source of inspiration
The challenge of every couple:
Live your couple life so well
That you become
A source of inspiration to others.
Who is ready for this challenge?
Are you ready?
Lord, here we are, in front of you As a couple; We thank you for your goodness; You have given us many gifts, Many blessings, Which give us reason to be happy; Although life has not been easy, As we have had many problems, Including illness, misunderstandings, Worries, and financial difficulties; And have many times quarreled, But you have never abandoned us; You have stood by us always. And each time we have turned to you,
You have not let us down.
You have given us courage and wisdom To manage all our challenges; You have helped us to overcome anger; To heal the wounds of hurt; We cannot thank you enough For your goodness. Thank you for the gift of each other. As we look to the future, We trust that you will continue To stand by us; To help us grow in our love For each other; And in our love for you; Grant us the grace To be more attentive to each other; To undestand each other better; To be more ready to forgive Each other; May our marriage be an exmple For others to emulate; May our couple relationship shine And inspire all around us! Make us proud of each other; And may all the glory for our love
We have journeyed for a while on the path of marriage;
Like every good marriage, a review is worthwhile.
It doesn’t suffice to be married;
You must be proud of your marriage; and happy to take a good look at it.
Every couple faces challenges
In their relationship;
You are no exception for sure;
How you face these challenges
It can mean joy or disaster
For your marriage;If you respect God’s plan for
Your marriage, you will have
A happy marriage.
To do this, you must find ways,
To equip yourself with tools
To help you
Reach out to each other;
And once you have the tools,
Use them to enhance
Or fortify your relationship;
Each time you find
Your marriage loosing steam,
Learn to encourage your spouse.
It strengthens relationship.
A great challenge is how you handle hurt feelings.
One thing you must avoid in your marriage is being too sensitive. Don’t be too sensitive. You must not retort when your spouse says something you don’t like. This can affect your marriage very negatively.
Spouses have to learn to help each other succeed. You don’t stand on each other’s way.
A big mistake that many couples make is wanting to see their marriage succeed on its own. It doesn’t happen. You must do what it takes.
There are reasons many marriages shatter. You need to know them, especially the main ones so as to know how to handle them or stay clear of them.
I would advice that you take time and master the skills of handling conflict in marriage. Since conflict cannot be completely avoided, it is important to know how to handle it when it comes.
One thing you must give priority to is couple power – doing things as a couple. If you cultivate the habit of doing things as a couple, you will garner tremendous power for achievement as a couple.