Quote (daughter and marriage)

“Some women so badly want to see their daughter married they would push her into a wolf’s mouth. Do not be such a mother. That is too selfish.” (Romilia Quotes)


100 letters to my daughter. What I am happy I told her No. 5

My dear daughter,

How are you today? Let me begin this letter with a quote that was in my last letter. Because of its importance I like us to revisit it. Do you remember that quote? It goes thus: “In life, the most successful people are not those who focus on where they are coming from but those who focus on where they are going.” Romilia Quotes
I hope you remember the story of Nchang Belta.

In my last letter I told you the challenges that she faced and how she was able to bravely overvome them and emerge on top in life. What makes me so impressed by Belta’s achievement is the fact that she created her opportunity and made excellent use of it.  Many girls have opportunities but waste them either through carelessness, laziness, or recklessness. We find girls whose parents send them to excellent and expensive schools but who still end up failing in end-of-course examinations and in life. This is a pity.

My advice to you, which I have given to all young people I have met is, learn to use your opportunities. Do not waste them.

I like you to take responsibility for your life. Take responsibility for what you become. Like Nchang Belta, pave your way to where you like to be. Know that you can get to any position, and I mean any position you choose, if you are determined enough and work hard.

Always bear in mind that life is not easy. There is tough competition everywhere. Before you become somebody, you must work very hard. Do not think that you can fold your arms and sit and just become rich, great, or outstanding. Far from it. Nothing worthwhile it is said, comes easily in life. There is no free lunch in this world. You have to gird your loins and work for your success.

As you pave your way through life, take note that there are many obstacles or setbacks to overcome. As you shall be struggling to grow, there will be people who shall try to do everything to put you down or to block you. You must make sure you avoid or skip the pitholes that you shall find on your way. Some of these pitholes will be very obvious; others shall not be. In fact, many will be invisible. Hence, you must be very careful otherwise what you may consider safe ground may be the most slippery ground and when you step on it you will find yourself crashing badly. You will come across people who will love you and help you succeed; and others who will hate you and try to throw banana peelings on your path. You will come across those who will deceive. Know how to go about life.

Do not let jealous and envious fellows stop you from getting to where you want to go. Do not let people with bad intentions block you. Do not listen to people who have nothing but discouraging messages for you. Be wise and smart and know that this world is not for the naive, or sluggish individuals but for wise and courageous ones.

You are still young and your future is ahead of you. You have great chances. Make the most of your opportunities.

It is my prayer that God may continue to take care of you.
I hope to read from you soon.
Until then,
this is your darling father.

100 letters to my daughter. What I am happy I told her No. 4

This is what I am happy I told my daughter in my letter number 4. My dear girl, How are you today? It is a pleasure for me to write to you. I hope you are doing fine. How did you enjoy my last letter? Today, I have a beautiful story for you. Before I come to that, let me remind you of something which you know but which is worth saying over and over because it is important. It is simply to remind you of what I have told you many times; that you can become anything you desire to become. I hope you have not forgotten that. You can become anything you desire to come if you desire it strongly enough and work hard enough for it. You can become outstanding, great, rich, and powerful if you want. By the same token, you can become poor, wretched, or miserable. You can end up as a failure. It is very easy and depends on you. If you are lazy, or irresponsible, you will end as a failure. What you become in this world is what you decide and work hard to become. Hence, in the first place, you must know what you want to become; secondly, you must resolve to become that which you have chosen to become; thirdly, you must draw up a plan to achieve it; and fourth and finally, you must go to work to achieve it. Do not be deceived to think that if you are born in a rich family you will automatically become successful or that if you are born in a poor family, you will automatically become a failure. I know some people hold this belief but it is not true. If you are from a poor family, you are not doomed to fail. You can still succeed brilliantly, same as you can come from a well-to-do family and still fail woefully. If someone comes from a very poor family but is determined and works hard enough they will do marvelous things. The bottom line is no matter who you are, what you are, where you are, or where you come from,you can make a place for your self in the world; you can become an outstanding woman; a shining example for other women to emulate. This means that anyone can rise from rags to riches. Anyone can turn their darkness into sunshine. Now I come to the beautiful story I promised you at the start of this letter. It is about a poor village girl called Nchang Belta. She was born in a poor family. Her father was a nobody; a very irresponsible man who could not even clear farms for his wives or tap wine for a living; a man who lived a hand-to-mouth life. He was unable to send his children to school. To him, no one should talk about school especially for girls. Hence, Belta did not have the opportunity to go to school. Her aunts and uncles were equally poor and so she could not get help from them. Despite this, her desire for an education did not die. Instead, she resolved to do everything to find her way. One day, she got the good news that Mr. and Mrs. Ayankwa we’re interested in taking her to live with them and serve them as a house help. She was happy and accepted to go. She felt convinced that if she did her best, Mr. and Mrs. Ayankwa would be pleased with her and send her to school. That was exactly what happened. She worked very hard. Every day, she was the first to get up and to start working. She worked from morning till night. Impressed by her hard working spirit and brilliance, Mr. and Mrs. Ayankwa decided to send her to evening school. There, she performed extremely well; enrolled for the GCE Ordinary Level Exam and passed with flying colors. Then she went in for the Advanced Level. Her results were equally outstanding. She got to university. Today, she holds a PhD and is Dean of the Faculty of Law in her former University. Belta succeeded because she never allowed anything to stand on her way. Your background should not be an obstacle to you. Do not allow anything to stop you from becoming the person you wish to be. I would like you to take these words: “In life, the most successful people are not those who focus on where they are coming from but those who focus on where they are going.” Romilia Quotes May God continue to bless you! Hope to read from you soon. Your darling Father.

Things I am happy I said to my daughter day 3 Letter no 3

My lovely girl,

How are you today? I hope you are fine as usual. That is my prayer for you always.

I hope you continue to take note of the things I tell you. Millions of young girls who are your age today will grow up into great women in their countries. They will be responsible parents who will bring up their children to be responsible citizens as well. Some of them will be rich and powerful and will enjoy the respect of others around them. What about you? Shall you be one of such  outstanding women?

Many girls who are the same age like you now will be well married tomorrow; will live in comfortable homes and will drive luxurious cars. I see some of them becoming Directors, Ministers, big business women, multi-millionaires. What about you?

I want you to know that all depends on you. In this world, we each determine what we become. You are the one to determine what to become. Do not fold your arms and wait for people to give you the things that you want. Go for them. Go for what you want and make sure you get it.

If you sit and wait for others to give you what you want, you will end last. I can assure you. Those who stand out on top, who get to the top of the ladder are those who go for it. They are the ones who decide what they want, work hard for it and make sure they get it. This is what I like you to do.

There is no doubt that many of your classmates and age-mates will end their lives at the bottom simply because they will not make the necessary effort to emerge victorious in life. Lazy people who refuse to fight hard to win always end at the bottom.

Look around and you will find many of such lazy persons. They are living in poor homes, eating poorly, cannot send their children to good schools, and are even unable to afford money to pay their hospital bills when they are ill.

I encourage you to do everything not to fall into this category of women. Life is meant to be enjoyed. We are not here to suffer, but to enjoy. To enjoy, you must work for it. Work for your future. Be determined. Nothing beats someone who is determined.

I am confident of you and will continue to pray for you. Once again, my best wishes to you this week. Stay well and feel good.

Your loving dad.

My last letter to my daughter.

What has caught your attention 2

Read this letter by a mother to her daughter and tell me if anything has caught your attention.

My dear daughter,
Accept love from your mother. I am delighted to write to you as school starts today. I am far away but with you in spirit.

For two months, you shall be in the hands of your teachers. Their mission is to mold you for an excellent life.

You shall have different kinds of teachers. Some will be very good ; but not all. You may have unscrupulous ones among them who will see nothing wrong in exploiting and destroying you. You must be very careful and vigilant not to fall into their evil trap.

Let you focus be your studies and nothing but your studies. Do not forget your prayers. I am confident that with your sound upbringing you will sail through successfully.

Bye for now!
With lots of love from
Your mother.

Has anything caught your attention in this letter? What is it? What advice would you give to this girl?

Our girl has made us proud

OUR GIRLOur girl has made us proud. Our girl makes us proud all the times;You make us proud, my girl! What of you? Do you make your parents proud? Our girl makes us proud all the times.SAMSUNG CAMERA PICTURES Each time she takes the podium She makes us proud. Strong, clear and confident, she comes on; sure of what she wants; sure of where she’s set to go. krWhen a standing ovation salutes her performance, our hearts will glow with pride. Truly, our girl makes us proud. kr

May God be kind to you!

My wife, Emilia, my daughter, Raina and I set out for home this morning after seeing off our daughter Linda who will be away from us for one year.

Leaving home to another country for a work opportunity is usually considered in my country as a great blessing. Friends and relatives come round to wish the departing one many blessings. This is exactly what happened as our daughter was about to travel.

We cannot thank our friends enough for their prayers and love. May God richly bless them! We thank God most especially for His love to us.

Continue to pray for our daughter.

May God be kind to you as he is to us!