Complex over dark complexion

Complex over dark complexion

“God doesn’t Judge Dark Skin,He judges Dark Hearts”         Godstillspeaks.com

It’s a 2.8 minute read.

Why would any one wants to change their God given darker shade skin to nothing less than whitest ?

I have no idea about other non white country people,but in India it’s a different thing.

Famously it is said that Indians are fascinated by 3Gs- Ganga ( River Ganges ), Gandhi ( father of the nation ) and Gora ( means fair skinned ).

Fair skin appears to be India’s psyche.Many believe,India getting colonized for centuries by the fair skin invaders is the root cause,resulting in the inferiority complex.

Being born in India with dark complexion is highly disadvantageous more so if you are a girl.

If you come across matrimonial or TV advertisements or Bollywood,company interviews….. as far as selection of the candidate is concerned,preference is given to fair skinned people.Dark complexion kids are bullied with nicknames in the school life.

So to survive the rat race, you must have a whitened skin or white washed skin.

What choices you can have ?

On a lighter note it is said two choices are available..
Either you DIE ( Indian woman kills herself over ‘dark complexion taunts’ A tragic and sad decision) or DYE.

In Dye option. the fairness cream comes to your rescue.

Dark Complexion

No surprise India’s Skin lightening industry is said to be more than half a billion dollar industry.Men too started grooming with these products.

Why Lighter skin is preferred ?

Personally I feel it’s nothing but obsession.
Some of the reasons given by the people.

  • Lighter skin gives you a feeling of higher social class !
  • Fair skin tells the persons worth !
  • Advantage of getting married without hassles !
  • No need to beg for respect !
  • Can get roles easily in movies & advertisements !
  • Better career prospects !
  • Fair skin people are more attractive !
  • More confidence !
  • Cynosure of all eyes !

What is the Psychology of having dark complexion ?

  • Less attractive
  • said to be of low intelligence
  • leads unsuccessful life
  • Perceived as a negative personality
  • Subject of discrimination
  • Negative emotions
  • Judged as unfriendly even of doubtful credentials.

I don’t know from where the hell they get these thoughts.

Are there any side effects of the Skin Fairness products ?

Skin fairness products contain the following ingredients.A kind of toxic cocktail.

1. Hydro quinone. 2.Steroids.3.Mercury.4.Lead.5.Chromium.

These can cause irritation,inflammation,infection,scarring,liver & kidney failures,Skin cancer,Brain damage on prolonged usage.

Please share your thoughts .

Thank you.
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Nothing saddens the heart more than the death of a loved one. But this sting can be overcome. In a beautiful article, Chrystal Ward tells us ways of Overcoming the sting of death. It’s a good read.

Take a look. It can become handy. You can even use the tips to help someone experiencing the sting of death.

Chrystal Ward runs Maybe Crazy Help where she helps “others overcome the darkness within their minds.”

A stop at Maybe Crazy Help would be time well spent.

Raid of the Stagnating Beast

Depression has become a clichéd illness affecting many beings in today’s fast paced world but we ought not take it lightly assuming it to be a very natural phenomenon. I call depression a ‘disease’ for it actually feels devastating going through this phase. Mental energy gets depleted to an extent that performing even basic chores lead to an extreme physical exhaustion. It is said that reaching out to others help but most of the time it is the perception of not being understood that hinders one from talking about it. Moreover especially when one is clueless about it and has drawn a restricting boundary around, it becomes all the more difficult to even express the symptoms. It can be either dissatisfaction with the way life has proceeded or the way life is passing and maybe even future concerns that can land one in depression. Though life seems to hold no meaning and the daily chaos becomes difficult to handle with time, hope needs to be alive for cure and treatment to work. Depression does heal but it takes time and a lot of efforts.
There is also a dearth of good listeners for many are ready to hear but few accept and the most of the symptoms expressed by the sufferers are taken for granted as excuses. Mere advice to enhance focus and the motivational stuff doesn’t work. Depression actually requires contemplative treatment under the supervision of a loved one, counselor or psychiatrist as per the conditions.
Life actually goes through a turbulence when attacked by this stagnating beast and if we want it not to reside within us for days, months and years; we need to share our feelings. And it is absolutely not selfish when you seek love without attachments and it is also okay at times if you ask help even if you cannot reciprocate! So desist not from talking about it….

In the given stanzas, I have tried describing how it feels passing through this dark phase.

When the emotions take rest
And sentiments overflow indifferently,
When mental weariness
Accompany as a best friend;
It is certainly an aimless walk
Along the pathless track.

When brain gets infested by worms
And rust occupies the grey matter,
When fatigue plagues the body
And limbs get paralyzed;
It is not just a malaise
But a vile raid by an invisible foreigner!

When life turns into an illusion
And Mr. Hope seems a counterfeit,
When the hollowness slowly creeps
And continues digging a dark abysmal;
It is not just mere emptiness
But an anonymous fear that haunts!

When there are times that cannot be changed
And some lost battles to be wept over,
When expectations go unfulfilled
And relations get broken,
However unlike always
There need not be a rationale,
For this uninvited guest.

When the talking mind comes to a halt
And heart sinks in a trauma,
When the fog blurs vision
And inner voice becomes inaudible,
It is not just the dampening of inner quest,
But a gradual loss of consciousness and identity.

When sleepless nights and wet pillows
Become a daily ritual,
When the dreadful nights seem better
Than the bright mornings
And sunshine hurts!
It is not just another gloomy day,
But a daily struggle for survival.

When one is bound to move in veil
And put up the pretense of normality,
When ambiguity is all that remains
And clouds that question worthiness
Continue to hover around head;
It is not just a wish to quit deception
But a desire for escape that grows!

When one looks in the mirror
And sees eyes bleeding,
When self-talk doesn’t help
And giving up seems best,
It is not that there aren’t listeners
But only if someone can empathize!

When pain aggravates
And Ascends like a climber
When trap becomes inescapable
And wings become ineffective
It is not that there is no cure
But only if hope persists!

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Suffering from depression?

Are you suffering
From depression?
Or do you know someone
Who is suffering
From depression?
There’s help;
Jessica of Empowered People
’empower’ people, says,
Blogging helps depression.
If you don’t mind it,
Take a look at
What she says.

And if you want to go further,
Help Guide, ‘a trusted guide to mental health and wellness’, has
Coping with depression.
With this, you can adequately cope with depression and sadness.

If you are not suffering
From depression,
But know someone who is,
Why not pass this on?

Battle Depression: Easy Steps to Authentic Self

In the world where social media is a way of life, it is so easy to lose our authentic self to a world of judgment and preconceptions. Inundated with daily notifications on what is happening with other people’s lives either gives us encouragement for self-motivation or disheartenment at times when we feel inadequate of ourselves.

“Be a first rate version of yourself, not a second-rate version of someone else.” – Judy Garland

Steps to Finding Your Authentic Self

Research suggests that authentic people are well-liked, and they benefit from social support and the many other positive outcomes associated with enjoying close relationships with others.

So how to battle depression when negativity starts to creep into our mind? How to be happy with one’s self to feel awesome again?

1. Pay attention. Observe. Sense Your Feelings.

This step may sound simple but is profound. When you take the time to pause and stop, sensing your thoughts and feelings can be scary or challenging.

At times when you feel inadequate, ask yourself what is it that you really feel? Because inadequacy is actually not a feeling. It is a thought and is different from real feelings. Thoughts trap us in the detracting images of other people or the high standards of ourselves.

Meanwhile, a real feeling should free us from the bondage of perfection and help us be in touch with our true authentic self. It is the acknowledgement that as humans, we are imperfect, we are vulnerable and it’s alright to feel sad, fearful, angry, uncomfortable, tired, lonely, worried, anxious, frustrated, impatient, frustrated, weary or despondent.

Identify your real feelings and own it.

“Choosing authenticity means cultivating the courage to be imperfect, to set boundaries, and to allow ourselves to be vulnerable; exercising the compassion that comes from knowing that we are all made of both strength and struggle.” – Brene Brown

Read More: Battle Depression: Easy Steps to Authentic Self

Who Are You Really?

When the mornings black,

When your heroes fall

When there’s no one left to back

That’s when you find out how small

You really are.

 

When the day is bright,

When your name rises,

When there’s love through the night

That’s when you find out how big

You really are.

 

When the dark is surrounding,

When your friends have left,

When the past is always hounding

That’s when you find out who

You really are!