The other side of anger

How do you see anger? Do you see it as a positive or negative emotion?

More often than not, we see anger as a negative feeling with nothing positive about it. But that is not true. Anger can destroy; but it can also construct.

This means that anger has a negative side and also a positive side. Let us take a look at a few points on the positive side:

  1. Anger can push people to solve problems which otherwise would have remained unsolved.

An example is an issue in the community that makes people angry. Somebody can be so angered by it that he will decide to fight to solve it. If he succeeds, then anger has brought positive results.

Another example is when your rights are trampled upon and you become angry and put down your feet and have the problem solved.

2. Anger can deter wrongdoing. If you know that your boss will be angry with you and fire you if you come late to work or fail to meet deadlines with office work, you will do everything to be punctual and deliver assignments. Thus a boss can use anger as one of the strategies to institute discipline in his office.

3. Anger can save your marriage. If you never get angry, it will be easy for your spouse to behave just any how and that can jeopardize your marriage. But if your spouse knows that you will become mad at any wrong behaviour, the tendency will be to sit up; which will be good for your marriage.

4. Anger can enable you to have self-insight. When someone is angry with you, that can cause you to examine yourself to see if perhaps you have not actually done something wrong. And you may be angry with somebody and later decide to look at yourself to see if perhaps you are not bias somehow. This self look can lead you to change some of your behaviours.

5. Anger can prevent violence. What we are more used to is seeing anger trigger violence. But in some cases, it prevents violence and destruction. The people’s anger about social problem can cause the authorities concerned to look into it and solve it.

6. Don’t suppress anger. Let it out. Suppressing anger can lead to physical or mental illness. Hence, it is better when you let it out.

Anger is a double edged sword. It can cause harm but at times it also helps. Hence, it is not good to see anger only as a negative emotion. It is both negative and positive. Always work to get the best out of your anger; and every anger.


Stay off anger

Why are you so angry;
I see you carrying
A long face,
Which shows anger;
Is there any reason for that?
You don’t have to let anger
Take hold of you;
Or win your heart,
And transport you to
A foreign land;
That will not help you;
Instead, it will hurt you;
Anger is danger light;
Whenever you see anger,
There is danger ahead;
Anger has caused untold harm
To many people and the world;
If you see brothers
Tearing themselves to pieces,
Look carefully,
You will see the evil hand
Of anger in it;
If you see a country
Going down the valley
of death,
Anger is around in work clothes;
Anger is not a good person
To do business with;
Never forget that;
Yet, he will woo you
To go into business partnership
Without relenting;
Dont give in;
Keep your distance.
Stay clear to be safe.

My feelings as I start 2019

“How do I feel as I start 2019? Describe your feelings in loving detail.”

Dear beloved,

Take that this question has been given to you to answer. Are you ready to answer it? Do you have the courage to share your feelings?

Many people are shy when it comes to sharing how they feel. Such people are not free. They are like prisoners. They are inhibited. I think we should feel free to share our feelings with others if they can help.

I leave that to you to decide. Do you agree with me? Please, let me know. Your opinion counts.

Now, coming to the question, let me answer it. If my answer inspires you, I invite you to share your own feelings. If not, let me know so that we can move on to something else.

How do I feel as I start 2019?

As I start 2019, I feel happy. I am happy that I have seen this new year. Many have not seen it. Many that I know have been called to the next world whereas they would have loved to be here. My staying on is not by my own merit. It’s by God’s grace and love; and so I feel happy and thankful to God for this wonderful gift.

This is not the first time I am having this type of feeling of happiness. I felt this happy a few years back when my daughter had eleven ordinary level papers with four A grades in the General Certificate of Education exam.

My feeling of happiness is so strong it makes me want to cry.

When I imagine that I could have gone like the so many brilliant and good hearted people who have gone, I sincerely thank God for my life.

For God’s wonderful grace to me, I am taking a responsible decision to love him more and to show love to every fellow human being that I come across.

This is my way of expressing gratitude to God.

It is such a big favour that he has kept me in this world while many more worthy people have gone.

I feel happy sharing my feelings with you as we start this 2019.

I look forward to making the year better for some people no matter who they may be, where they may be, or what they may be.

Thank you for reading my thoughts. Kindly let me know what you feel about what I have shared. Has it touched you in any way?

Your comment will be highly valued.

Thanks a million.

I love you.

How do you feel?

How do you feel
When someone
Compliments you?
How do you feel
When I call you
How do you feel
When you win?
How do you feel
When you lose?
How do you feel,
When someone else
And not you
Is praised?
How do you feel
When you are
How do you feel
When you are
Blamed or
Accused of a crime
You have not
Tell me
How you feel;
Look at yourself
And tell me;
You feel angry,
Don’t you?
Sometimes, jealous;
At times, excited;
Happy or worried.
Well, it’s normal
To feel;
To feel is human;
Sometimes, I feel
Like that also.
You are not alone.

What are your feeelings?

What are your feelings
As you start a new week?
What are your feelings,
As you start a new day?
What are your feelings
As you start a new journey?
It matters how you feel;
It can determine how
The week or day or journey
Will turn out to be;
And you have full control
Over your feelings;
Feelings don’t control you;
You control your feelings.
If you want to feel good,
Feel good;
Nothing can stop you;
Not even the dark night;
Or the dark couds in the sky;
If you want to feel on top,
Feel on top;
Who can stop you?
As you start this new journey,
Feel on top of the world;
And get energized to go.



I have a feeling

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I have a feeling
You will make it big today.

I have a feeling
Things will go well for you.

I have a feeling
Your spirits will be high up.

I have a feeling
You will have a breakthrough.

I have a feeling
You will have a turning point.

I have a feeling
You need to begin to thank God.

I have a feeling
God has much in stock for you.

I have a feeling
the best is yet to come.

I have a feeling
You future is in an ivory tower.

I have a feeling
You will reach the mountain top.

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