Quote (girls and life)

“I have been examining the challenges that young girls face as they grow up. What I have found is many of them run into trouble with boys and men to a point where their lives are ruined. This is because a lot of bad people disguise themselves and pass for good people. In their naivety, young girls in particular fall into their dragnet before their eyes open. Our girls have to be cautioned to be very vigilant and prudent.” (Romilia Quotes)

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A letter that is hitting girls around the world

Drawing courtesy Prachi Meena
Drawing courtesy Prachi Meena

Girls around the world face enormous challenges. Many of them end with broken hearts. Some boys end with broken hearts also but girls suffer the most. I can’t sit and watch my lovely girls end with shattered hearts. Hence this advice from a father who cares.

My dear girls,
This is a loving letter to you from someone who cares. You will see how much I love you as you read along. I am writing to you from the bottom of my heart and I am happy you are willing to listen to advice from an old man.

I am an old man and I know what I am talking about. I am writing to you because I know the challenges you face as girls. I know what many of you are going through. I have been interacting with young people since 1981. This has enabled me to have a very good understanding of the problems you face.

I do not like any of you, who are reading this, to go through what I see many girls going through.  I want nothing but the best for you. If you follow my advise, I am confident you will have the best.

I believe there are many parents, who, like me, want only the best for their girls. They are worried about what may happen to them if they should fall into the hands of unkind boys. Such boys might break their hearts. I don’t want your heart broken.

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My dear girls, you might have already faced many challenges.  As you read this, there are millions of girls like you around the world with broken hearts. There are others whose hearts are being broken at this very moment; and others whose hearts will be broken tomorrow. It wouldn’t surprise me if you tell me you are one of them. I do not want you to be one of them. That is why I am talking to you through this medium. Many girls like you will have broken hearts by the end of today. I write to tell you that this should not be so. Do not give room to anyone to break your heart. Do you want a broken heart? If you do, tell me not to worry myself.

What must you do? This is the big question. The temptations that will come your way are many; the traps are uncountable; and into any of them, you can easily fall.

It is important for you to know to whom you are giving your heart; or who you must open the door of your heart to.

This is the crux of the matter. If you give your heart to the wrong person, be sure he will break it to pieces. If you give the keys of your heart to the wrong person, he will be happy to open the door, come in freely, move about freely, and live there freely;  but before he leaves he will shatter your heart and leave without a word; without caring what he has done. Am I saying something?

In this world, you will come across many kinds of people. There are those who will be indifferent to you. To them, your life is your business and not their concern. Whatever happens to you is your problem.

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You will meet those who will give you the impression that they care about you and want the best for you; but in fact, that will not be true. All they will want will be to satisfy their selfish interest; their greed. At the least opportunity, they will break your heart.

In the third place, you will have those who will genuinely care about you; who  will value you so much that they will want to see you safe and happy always. These are the ones who will go to any length to shower you with what your heart needs the most; and that is love.

Who of these three people should you give your heart to? The choice you make here is most important. If you make a mistake, the result will be tragic.

Anyone who does not value your heart is not worthy of your heart. Would you give free access into your home to someone who will bring in a bomb and shatter it? Not at all. Same should go for your heart.

Anyone who does not value your heart should not have a place in it. To give a place in your heart to such a person would be like planting a virus in you computer.  Just like a virus will end up destroying your computer, such a person will end up breaking your heart.

Someone has very wisely said, “Don’t waste your time on people who don’t care about you, on relationships that don’t make you happy.”
Give your heart only to those who value it; who will nourish it; who will care for it, who will nurture it; water it, and make it bloom.

Stay clear of the mistake of judging a gift from its cover. A gift of no value may be so well packaged that it will  look precious. You cannot say a book is good just because its cover is beautiful. Do not judge from appearances. It is the content that matters not the container. Unfortunately, many girls judge boys from their looks and the content of their pockets.

Go for value. Go for a noble, honest, caring heart. A person with such a heart is better than someone with a handsome look or a star that shines and glitters but is of questionable character..

Experience has shown that when a young man desires you, he will say and do whatever he can to get you. He will promise you heaven and earth. But do not let his passion deceive you. Do not be too believing. Look deeper inside the container to see what is there before you buy it. His desire for you is not necessarily love for you.

Know that love is always stronger before marriage  than after marriage. If you have to run after the man who will marry you to get him to love you, do not expect this to change once you are married.

If you think you will marry someone and bend him to suit your taste, you are in for a disappointment. If he is not what you want, do not expect him to become that after you get married. He will not. If you accept him. accept him as he is. If you want a change, only love can do that for you. Love him to change.

I see many hearts shattered because the young man has put the girl he got married to in the middle of the sea and disappeared. You need to learn to swim before you marry, so that in the middle of any sea, you will swim out instead of allowing yourself to drown. If you do,  you will be the loser.

Know that life is not a bed of roses. There will be hard moments in your relationship. There are always such nmoments. There is no relarionship that is perfect. Hence, do not run away because you are having some problems.

It’s not everything that your heart desires that is good for you. Many of the things that your heart will desire will be your enemies. If you go for them, they will undo you; destroy you. Can’t you think of them? I allow that to you; but to mention however, that in the same way, it is not because your desire for a certain boy is strong that you must think you should have him for yourself at all cost. In fact, that desire could be a temptation to destroy you.

Know how temptation works. It starts with desire. if you pay just a little attention to it it will  grow bigger. The more attention you pay to it, the bigger it will grow; and eventually, if you are not smart enough to put your heart off it, it will grow out of proportion.

Always test your gold before you buy it. Fake gold is often hard to know. It may look more attractive than real gold.

Do not pin your happiness or success on a relationship. Do not pretend to be what you are not just because you want to please your man and protect your relationship. If you find that you are the only one giving to keep your relationship going while the other person is only at the receiving end, that is not the right relationship for you. Step out of it.

Be strong. Life calls for strength not weakness.Take these wise words: “Follow your heart, but take your brain with you.” As Taylor Lynn puts it, If someone is making you their second place, they’re not worth your first place.”

Many voices in society will tell you “a woman should not waste her time in school; a woman should get a husband and start making children and taking care of them.” Give a deaf ear to such sterile voices. Such thinking is of the past. They know not what they say. Rather listen to people who know what they say.

Your education is important. Michelle Obama, the first lady of the United States for eight years wants you to be “hungry to get your education. It is going to be the key to your future.”

People will tell you a woman cannot do this; a woman cannot do that. I want to tell you loudly and strongly a woman can do whatever she wants to do if she wants to do it enough, is determined enough, and goes for it enough.

“There is no force equal to that of a determined woman.”

A woman can become the President of her country. A woman can rise to the highest position in the world. A woman has been to the moon and back. Women have won the Nobel Prize. Women are pilots, scientists, engineers, generals in the army; women are star; and the list can continue.

Michelle Obama has more sound advice for you: “Compete with the boys, beat the boys, because you all are capable.” I believe when she says, “You are already mentors because there are girls in your community looking up to you.”

Talking about the American First Lady, and her “incredible life advice” to 1000 school girls, Julie Zeilinger says, “learning that she was worthy at a young age made all the difference in her ability to pursue her dreams.”

This outstanding woman advises you not to worry about who likes you when it is not the right time for it. “If I worried about who liked me and who thought I was cute at your age, I wouldn’t be married to the President of the United States.”

Undoubtedly, in those young days, many adored her and desired her; but she was strong enough not to be carried away this; but to say no; to wait; to remain focused; to pursue her education.

Learn to push aside anyone who wants to push you down. If the one who says he loves you allows himself to be snatched from you by another woman, allow them to fly to the moon if they can. As someone has so brilliantly said, “Real men can’t be stolen.”

My dear gilrs, if the relationship is not working, do not force it. Drop it; and if it’s over, it’s over. Let it go. Don’t hang on it. Take this advice: “Do not pine after a long-gone relationships and do not be vindictive and mean when a relationship ends.”

I could go on and on but what I’ve said is enough. I really hope it helps you to stay clear of trouble.

Things I am happy I said to my daughter day 1

I said many things to my daughter when she was young. I am happy I said them. This is what I said to her one day:

“My dear daughter, you are a woman in the making. Today, you are a girl. It wouldn’t be long before you become a woman. What type of a woman do you wish to become when you grow up? Do you wish to become a woman of integrity? Do you wish to become a woman of high standing? Do you wish to be an unknown quantity? Do you wish to command respect when you become a woman?”

She listened to me with keen attention. I went on:

“You shall be respected if you are a woman of integrity; if you respect yourself; if you ind how you behave. You shall be respected if, in addition to being a woman of integrity, you are a woman of high standing. Perhaps, you have not yet given thought to what you want to become in life. Perhaps, you are among the so many girls I this world who just float through life with no clear idea of what they want to become.”

I noticed that she was listening to me with keen attention. That spurred me on to continue:

“Many people do not care what they become. They have no ambition. They have no sense of direction for their lives. Such people almost always end up below what they are capable of becoming. That should not be you.”

This conversation went on with my daughter for many days, weeks, months and years. Today, she is a woman. When I look at her, what she has done, is doing, and I  know she will do, I am happy I talked to her the way I did.

I think it is worthwhile saying what I said to her to other girls. I am confident it will help them, as it helped her, if  not transform their lives. 

But what I will be sharing cannot be limited to girls. True that there will be things only for girls, but it is important for boys to know what parents are telling their girls. There can be no doubt that this knowledge will help them too in many ways.

Thanks for reading! To be continued…



Does being a girl or a woman make you a slave or a house help in your home?




 Listen to this conversation and answer this question: Does being a girl or a woman qualify someone to play the role of the slave of the family? Or the house help? 

TABA: Who sweeps the floor in your house?
MAMA: My girl or I.
TABA: What of your boy and your husband?
MAMA: They pocket their hands and do nothing.
TABA: Who dry-cleans and mobs the floor?
MAMA: I do it or my girl does it.
TABA: What about your husband and your boy?
MAMA: They do nothing
TABA: Who does the cooking in your house?
MAMA: I do it or my girl does it.
TABA: What about your boy and your husband?MAMA: They do nothing.TABA: Who fetches firewood from the forest? MAMA: If I don’t , my girl does it.TABA: What about your boy and your husband?MAMA: They do nothing.TABA: Who fetches water from the well?MAMA: My girl does it or I do it.TABA: What about your boy and your husband?MAMA: They do nothing.TABA: Who bathes and dresses the baby in your house?MAMA: My girl does it or I do it.TABA: What about your boy and your husband?MAMA: They do nothing.TABA: Who feeds the baby?MAMA: I do it or my girl does it.TABA: What about your boy and your husband?MAMA: They don’t do anything.TABA: Who carries the baby on the back?MAMA: I do it or my girl does it.TABA: What about your boy or your husband?MAMA: They don’t do anything.TABA: Who cajoles the baby to sleep?MAMA: I do it or my girl does it.TABA: What about your boy and your husband?MAMA: They do nothing.TABA: Who runs the risk of not going to school in your house?
MAMA: My daughter.
TABA: What about your boy?
MAMA: He is a man. We will do everything for him to go to school.TABA: Who is likely to be forced to marry at an early age?MAMA: My girlTABA: What about your boy?MAMA: He is a man. He will marry when he likes.TABA: Who is likely to drop out of school for one reason or the other?MAMA: My girl.TABA: What about your boy?MAMA:  We do everything to make sure he goes to school.
TABA: Who goes to  the farm to till or harvest food?MAMA: My girl and I.TABA: What about your boy and your husband?
MAMA: They don’t do such dirty work. It is for us women.TABA: Who goes to the kitchen to cook?MAMA: My girl and I.TABA: What about your boy and your husband?MAMA: They are too important to go into the kitchen to cook.TABA:  That is not fair. You and your girl do all the work in your house.MAMA: Yes.TABA: What about the men?MAMA: They relax. Watch television or browse.TABA: Do you find that normal? Is it just?MAMA: That is the way it is in my country. The women do all the work. The men relax.TABA: But that is unacceptable. It is discrimination and social injustice. Things must change.MAMA:  Hahahah! We are used to. We like it.TABA: The work must be shared. You women must  do some; and the men must do some.Women cannot continue to be victims of such discrimination.  It is a shame! Women are not slaves. To be a woman is not equal to being a slave.

Did you find what is wrong with the young lady?

Were you able to come up with what is wrong with the lady? This is what Witty Thoughts says: ” She might be from those people who are afraid to be in relationship and to fall in love with”.

I don’t know what you think? This might be true; but I can’t say. There are those who think the boys fear her because of her high qualification. Actually, she is highly qualified. Can anyone say something about this? She also comes from a well-to-do family. I hope that is not another reason.

I really expected you to react to this. There are many young ladies who are suffering like this woman and would like to know what is wrong with them. They like to know if the fault is theirs or it is destiny. Maybe you can say a thing which will help her.

If you do not have an opinion, I would like you to tell me if you think what we aredoing is worthwile. Do you think it can help?

Drawing ‘Innocence’

Drawing titled ‘Innocence’ by Michel Montecrossa

Description: ‘Innocence’, ink on cardboard, 29,7 x 42 cm

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Drawing ‘Two Girls Embracing During Fullmoon’

Drawing titled ‘Two Girls Embracing During Fullmoon’ by Michel Montecrossa

’Two Girls embracing During Fullmoon’, Mirapuri, 21st January 2016, pen on Hahnemühle FineArt textured paper, 33 x 48 cm - drawing by Michel Montecrossa

 

Description: ’Two Girls embracing During Fullmoon’, Mirapuri, 21st January 2016, pen on Hahnemühle FineArt textured paper, 33 x 48 cm

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All Michel Montecrossa Paintings and Drawings are available as High Resolution Digital Art Prints on canvas, either in standard-size A1 (59,4 cm x 84,1 cm) for 1000 €uro each plus shipping or on demand in other formats. See here previews of all paintings & drawings:
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Send your order to: Filmaur Multimedia, Danziger Str. 1, 82131 Gauting near Munich, t: +49 (0)89-8508555,
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To know more about and plan your visit to Michel Montecrossa’s ongoing ‘The Energy Of Art’ Exhibition (Mirapuri New Art Gallery, Italy) and the ‘Deep Brain Art’ Exhibition at the New Art Gallery in Germany (Filmaur Multimedia House, Gauting near Munich) please visit these links:

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What is your take? 3

What is your take on the quotes that follow? Do you agree or disagree? Do you like or hate it?

“Violence against women is perhaps the most shameful human right’s violation. As long as it continues, we cannot claim to be making real progress towards equality, development and peace.” Koffi Annan when he was Secretary-General of the United Nations.”

According to Mr. Annan, “each of us must accept responsibility for stamping out gender based violence.”

He writes: “Ultimately,it is up to all of us – in our homes, our communities, our nations, our global community – to create a world that is safe for women and girls in which all women have full enjoyment of all human rights.”

What do these words of Mr. Annan mean to you?

The danger of blind rocking

“Blind rocking is bad for any young person. I have lived long enough to say this with confidence following what I have seen over the years. Out of 100% of the young people (boys and girls alike), who go in for blind rocking, 60% stumble and fall and break their necks. 20% dig their graves, make their coffins, and are buried in humiliation. Therefore, why go in for blind rocking? My advice to young people is no blind rocking.”
Ngobesing Suh Romanus, Girls and Life.