13 must-do habits and activities for you

Here are 13 important habits and activities which are a must for everyone:

  1. Eat well
  2. Smile often
  3. Sleep enough
  4. study
  5. Relax
  6. Socialize
  7. Exercise
  8. Bathe daily
  9. Brush your teeth
  10. Pray
  11. Read your Bible
  12. Think positively
  13. Share your blessings

Habits for a good society.

Hi friends,

How are you all doing? I just finished my annual holidays with family and friends and now I am getting back into my routines.

Sometime back, I was having some discussion with my husband about certain habits that come naturally to us. After that discussion, I decided to talk to you all about such habits that will serve the society in the future.

For the present and future generations

But before I do that, let me give you some examples.

  • The other day, I was sitting and talking with my parents. Then, we decided to go out and as we got up to get ready and go, I turned off the fans and lights of the room before going into the other room to change.
  • On one other occasion, my husband got into the bathroom. He was shaving and he realised that he had not taken the towel. He asked me to bring one and keep it on the hook inside. I hung it there, came out, closed the door and turned off the lights. I forgot he was inside. 
  • Once I was walking in the park and found some empty snacks packets on the path. I picked them up and put them in the bin nearby.
  • If I eat something or drink tea or water from paper cups, I won’t throw it away unless I find a bin.  Likewise, I don’t throw bits of paper like tissues or chocolate wraps on the road. Rather, I look for the bin.
  • When I brush my teeth in the morning or when I wash the dishes, I never leave the water turned on. Likewise, if I hear drops of water leaking from a tap, it irritates me till the time it gets repaired.
  • If somebody does something for me, I immediately thank the person. Likewise, if I hurt somebody or say something wrong, I immediately apologize.

Now, you may think why am I listing all these here. No, I am not trying to highlight my good qualities. I am just trying to show something different here.

Everything I do in the above examples is the result of some good habits instilled in me right from my childhood.

How many times have we heard our parents say that we should not keep the lights and fans on if not in use so as to save electricity? I remember, when we were kids, my father used to constantly ask us to turn off lights to save electricity or not to keep the water- tap on if not in use.  I used to get irritated back then, but over the years I have come to realize the importance of these habits.  It just helps me to do my bit for the future generations.

Certain habits are a must in every individual for the benefit of not just the person but for the society as a whole. These habits have to be developed since childhood so that they become their second nature.

However rich a person is, these qualities are very important in him. Just think, how your opinion about a person changes when they litter around or they are impolite to people serving them or they indulge in pure wastage. No, we are not judging them but such habits create a certain impression about the person.

We need to teach the value of water, electricity, cleanliness, politeness and similar things to children because they are the future. Only when trained from the childhood, the child (the future adult) will learn to value all the facilities (water, electricity, cleanliness etc.) and will learn to be grateful for them. Who knows what the situation will be 20 years down the line! So we need to teach them to value everything that they have…

These habits can be developed by grown-ups as well.  They just need to be more conscious of their actions and put in efforts to build these habits in them. They need to let go of their old habits and replace them with these new habits.

Let us develop good habits in ourselves and our children so that we and our future generations don’t suffer. Let us build a responsible society.

What do you think? I would love to hear your comments on the same.

Love,

Rashmi

Leave behind these 20 practices, habits or behaviors and 2019 will be great

There are 20 practices, behaviors or habits you must leave behind as you move on in 2019 if you are guilty of them and haven’t left them already. Let’s go:

 

  1. Negative thinking

  2. Fear

  3. Doubt

  4. Worry;

  5. Procrastination;

  6. Day dreaming;

  7. Aimlessness;

  8. Idleness;

  9. Laziness;

  10. Gossiping;

  11. Blaming;

  12. Destructive criticism:

  13. Excessive drinking;

  14. Sexual promiscuity;

  15. Infidelity;

  16. Exploitation of others.

  17. Wickedness;

  18. Greed;

  19. Vaulting ambition;

  20. Jealousy.

 

Habits

You are what your habits
Make you;
You have good habits;
And you have bad habits;
Bad habits
Are easy to cultivate
Good habits
Are hard to cultivate;
Bad habits find a way
To sneak in;
Good habits are mostly
Forced in;
But whether good
Or bad habits,
Once they are rooted,
It’s not easy
To uproot.
Mind the habits you let
Take root in your life;
You are what your habits
Make you.
Bad habits make you bad;
Good habits make you good;
Bad habits make you fail;
Good habits make you succeed.

Wisdom; me.

Wisdom comes in unexpected ways. Thanks to a lot of books, I’d read, I knew this fact far earlier than I understood its true meaning.

What might be counted as mistakes, I managed to convince myself as being so obvious learning curve. So here I stand, today, not knowing if I am overlaid layers of lies on my behavior that now all I can do is a mistake again and yet not realize I have done one.

It’s time I heard it from someone I least expected from. Surprisingly it wasn’t surprising because I knew I can expect wisdom from any source, thanks to the books.

Outside my office there is a smoking zone. A vendor sells cigarettes, Gutkha and other such consumables at a far end of this side. One might refer to this place as a relaxation lounge, but open and without any seating arrangements. People come to smoke-off their stress and ‘unload’ (read talk) off-the-record.

On one fine day, it seemed like it’d rain. FitBit showed five in the evening. The combination of pleasant weather and evening time invited me to go outside and take a walk.

A colleague was with me. After a few minutes of walk we sat on the side walk itself. A cab driver in uniform was standing nearby who happen to know this colleague of mine. They started chatting. I was all ears. There followed a discussion on Central Govt. and demonetization and later state Govt. policies. Driver seemed a well-read and informed man. In our social setup one may not expect such deep understanding of these matters from a man such as himself. But this is not what made me write this matter. That happened later.

Incidentally, a group of people who were smoking nearby left cigarette stubs on the ground and started to walk away when our driver friend broke the conversation, and to everyone’s surprise, approached this group and asked them to pick the stubs and throw in the bin put along the sidewalk.

That came unexpectedly but added to the beauty of the evening; people picked what they were leaving behind and threw in dustbin with a ‘thank you’ to the driver. Evening was not lame anymore, suddenly everyone around became so attentive to what we were talking.

He returned to us with a smile; I asked him if he had done something like this before and if he had hesitated (not that I noticed any) before approaching people to correct their mistakes for some may not receive that well, especially if questioner is not what you place equal in social hierarchy (a sad truth in India). He replied, ‘Initially, people wouldn’t appreciate a driver approaching them and asking to correct their actions. I realized, after some incidents where they completely ignored me or even asked me to mind my own business or sometimes even to do their bit myself, that I had been somewhat hesitant myself since I subconsciously acknowledged that I am placed lower in society. So, I self-taught and learned, gradually, that to convince others I had be convinced myself (Leadership 101!). Hence, I threw away the prejudices & hesitation and started to speak my mind free –  with authority and concern I feel I have in such situations. I believe everyone can change when you push the right button.

I have also seen that some are there who appreciate me reminding them and may be next time they will repeat what I have done if they see someone else making the same mistake they did. It’s a chain-reaction and once provoked this feeling of responsibility keeps flowing through. I believe in power of conviction and good intentions; after all this entire country is my home and whenever and wherever I will see someone damaging its beauty I will stop, approach and ask them to correct it. People will learn, slowly, eventually.’

It was time to go back to work so I smiled, thanked him and wished him ‘all the best’ to keep making a difference. He smiled back and said, ‘I should too get back to my cab for people would be looking for their driver.’

Of course, I realized that by not stopping people from doing this mistake I was making one myself. I, now, am making one less mistake and, a difference by such small contributions.

Wisdom truly comes in unexpected ways.

Sanjeev

Men who cry

“Tears shed for self are tears of weakness, but tears shed for others are a sign of strength.” (Billy Graham)

DSCN0479Once, I saw a man in real tears. He was crying so loudly I got shaken. I did not know why he was crying; but seeing him so huge, looking responsible, well-dressed and crying like a baby, was too much for me. My own tears began to roll down like a spring on a hillside.
Can you imagine your dad or someone his age crying?
You will feel terrible wouldn’t you? But men do cry. The only thing is a lot of them cry in hiding so that nobody sees them.
Crying by men in most cultures is considered a sign of weakness.DSCN0485 Hence, when they are deeply moved, they find a way to step aside where no one will see them and there they cry out their sorrow.
There is simply no reason for this. Crying is human. God did not create tears for women and children alone but for men also. We say ‘real men do cry’; and cry well.
I cry often. In fact, I have cried many times; not because of a tragic happening, but because of over-joy. Excellence usually sends tears of joy rolling down my cheeks. An example is when my kids make an outstanding public performance or excel in any way.

During the celebration of National Day and Youth Day in my country some schools march so beautifully that I just cannot hold back my tears. The beauty of it touches and warms my heart and tears begin to roll.
I also cry when my heart is heavy with sorrow. Once, a younger brother of mine was terminally ill. When I visited him I could not control my tears. At one point, I went outside; went behind the house and cried bitterly.
It used to get worried about my tears flowing rather easily. Many times, I would try hard, in vain, to hold them back.

tears of a man Thanks to one of my teachers, I no longer do; I let them flow. It happened while I was in The Hague for a short course on human rights and justice. We came from different countries of the world.
Within two months, we had become a real family of friends. Then, the day to part came. We had to say goodbye to one another. It was a moving session of sharing together for the last time. When my turn came to share, like many others before me, I burst into tears

 

DSC_0000159-001Before long, a female staff was standing by me, tapping me softly and lovingly on the back.  She congratulated me on letting the tears flow instead of suppressing them; and added: “Always let those tears flow when they come. They will take you far.”

I have treasured those words ever since. Whenever tears come hitting my eyes during touching moments, I let them flow.
I now understand that it takes courage and honesty for a man to burst into tears in the presence of others. Men who cry are not weak. They are strong. They are human. They are full of love in their hearts.

“Tears come from the heart and not from the brain”                                                                    (Leonardo da Vinci).

What do you think? Should men cry? Are crying men cry babies?