Marriage Blues

Marriage Blues

Marriage is give and take. You’d better give it to her or she’ll take it anyway. Joey Adams

1.They lived happily until they got married

2.I asked my wife what she wanted for Christmas.She said to me “nothing would make her happier than a diamond necklace “So I bought her nothing.

3.Marriage is like a public toilet.Those waiting outside are desperate to get in.Those inside are desperate to get out. Stephanie Robinson

4.A good wife always forgives her husband when she’s wrong. Milton Berle

5.Women marry because they believe that he will change one day. Men marry because they believe she’ll never change. Both are mistaken.

6.The best way to remember your wife’s birthday is to forget it once.

7.You should argue with your wife only when she’s not around.

8.A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband. A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.

9.Love is blind, only marriage opens your eyes.

10.There are 2 times when a man doesn’t understand a woman – before marriage and after marriage.

11.A little boy asked his father, “Daddy, how much does it cost to get married?” Father replied, “I don’t know son, I’m still paying.”

12.The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret.
Henny Youngman

13.Marriage is the main reason for divorce.

Ok my friends,the point I would like to ask is, why most of  these humor are one sided ?

Thank you

Philosophy Through Photography,


Friendship vs Love…which triumps ?


It’s 2.2 minute read

“Sometimes,in life there really are bonds formed that can never be broken.

Sometimes you really can find that one person who will stand by you no matter what.

May be you will find it in a spouse and celebrate it with your dream wedding.

But there’s also the chance that the person you can count on for a life time, the person who knows you sometimes better than you know yourself, is the same person who’s been standing beside you all along”.      Bride wars

Let us see who triumphs at the end.


L is the 12 th letter of alphabets

O is the 15 th letter of alphabets

V is the 22 nd letter of alphabets

E is the 05 th  letter  of alphabets

Total of Love is = 54.


F is the 06 th letter of alphabets

R is the 18 th letter of alphabets

I is the 09 th letter of alphabets

E is the 05 th letter of alphabets

N is the 14 th letter of alphabets

D is the 04 th letter of alphabets

S is the 19 th letter of alphabets

H is the 08 th letter of alphabets

I is the   09 th letter of alphabets

P is the 16 th letter of alphabets

Total of Friendship is = 108

Exactly twice of 54

So the FRIENDSHIP is twice the value of LOVE.

Do you agree ??

Now time for some fun

One day Love met Friendship.Love asked,why did you exist when I already exist?

Friendship put a smile where you’ve left tears.


“There are friends,there is family,And then there are friends that become family.”

What is your take ? Friendship or Love ? Check this link

Wife & Husband-can’t they be best friends for life ?

Thank you.

Philosophy Through Photography

Pixabay derivative,,pinterest

Husband and wife, household chores: who should do what? By Ngobesing Suh Romanus

On Saturday, March, 2, 2019,
I had a lengthy but very enjoyable conversation
It followed a post she  wrote:
How to keep your man.
I believe you will enjoy our chat.
I encourage you to read it. Click this link above.
She put this question to me:
"You know there’s something that
Some women would like to know.
I've been  thinking that too.
I believe a man should be a companion
to his wife and  not a master.
He shouldn’t dominate.
And there are times when
a man  comes home
and expects certain things
from his wife like
to always have  food on the table
whether or not she has been out
all day trying to make  ends meet.
And shes so tired and still he expects her
to clean up the  house, cook, do the laundry
and if they have kids, take care of them.
He  feels it’s her duty, her responsibility.
Do you think cooking should be  a duty for the wife?
Or taking care of the house?
Do you think there is  anything wrong
with sharing the home chores?"
What is your response to this question?

What I can say is, spouses
should be equal partners
and it is a good thing to share the chores.
But couples should always take into consideration
the fact that men and women are different physically, emotionally and in abilities and talents.
Men can do certain things better than women;
And women can do certain things better than men;
There are roles as defined by society that fit men better.
Others that fit women better.
We have different cultures in different parts of the world. People are too attached to their culture. Hence, it is important to take change gradually when it is contrary to culture. When women from a culture which gives men advantages want to overturn things abruptly, they run into trouble with their husbands. Use tact and love to get change not force.
Husbands and wives should also attend marriage courses together. A good one is a Marriage Encounter Week End. Through many presentations and a gradual process, couples are brought to see the real meaning of marriage and journeying together as a couple not servant/ master relationship.
If you read this and have any questions, I will be very happy to answer them.
I thank Zee Yola for her post and raising the questions she raised.
Read How to keep your man.

An ideal couple

If you are married,
Try to be
An ideal couple;
An ideal husband and wife;
An ideal man and woman;
What do you expect
To find in
An ideal married couple?
Love tops the list;
Where there is love,
There is trust;
There’s fidelity;
There’s self giving;
And there’s oneness.
And they can’t have
All these qualities
Unless they are God-loving;
And prayerful;
God is at the center
Of their marriage;
The binding force;
That cements them together;
To be no longer two,
But one.
An ideal couple,
Is an inspiration
To other couples;
And non couples.
Their love radiates;
And lights up
The whole world around
An ideal couple
Is a role model.

100 love poems to my sweetheart no. 3


Hello, my sweetest!
Where do we go
For quality time tonight?
Where I shall be alone
With you?
Do you remember our last
Quality time?
When we spent many hours
All left to ourselves?
That is a day
I will never forget;
A day I will remember
All my life;
That day,
I not only felt your love,
I could touch it;
When I pressed you to me.
I want us to experience
That again tonight;
Tell me:
When shall that be?
And where do we go?
You decide for us.

100 love poems to my sweetheart no 1

Apple of my eyes;
When I look at you,
And know you are mine;
And all mine;
That you are all for me;
That we are for each other;
That I will live with you
Till death do us part,
I am ecstatic;
I cannot measure
The temperature of my joy;
My joy tank overflows;
You are the one
I have always wanted;
You are God’s best gift
To me;
I love you more than
Words can express;
I want to have you
Even in the next world;
The Love that burns
In my heart
For you will never die.

Marriage is ordained by God

A marriage ceremony is such
A sweet occasion;
When husband and wife
See nothing but happiness
When they feel like one
And hope to be one forever.
Marriage is a union ordained by God;
And made for enjoyment
Of husband and wife;
Our prayers for
All the couples of the world;
Grant O Lord,
That married couples
May find joy in each other!

The binding force of your marriage

When you wed in Church, God comes into your marriage, making it a tripartite affair of husband, wife and God.

A true Christian marriage is not a union between husband and wife alone but a union of the couple and God.

God is the cement of the Christian marriage. He binds the couple in a way that they become inseparable.

In marriage, the couple is required to work with God as a team. Any matter concerning their marriage is the responsibility of the team: husband, wife and God.

God is permanently available to help them as a couple in what ever they want to do.

But if a couple decides not to make use of him in their marriage, that is their problem. It is left to each couple to seek God’s help and get it. This is done through prayer.

To pray as a couple is to open the door of your marriage to let God in to help you handle whatever marital challenges that you may face.

Those who leave God out of their marriage, face a lot of difficulties without a way out.

You must not leave God out of your marriage. Do not try to do it all by yourself.

If you acknowledge God as the binding force of your marriage, bring him in to play his part, which is a key part to make your marriage successful.

Are you ‘the’ Difficult Spouse?

Are you the difficult spouse?
Real relationships are not perfect and perfect relationships are not real !!
If you are a wife or husband and many occasions you realize , you are disappointed because of the other…..and think the other is the ‘difficult spouse’…. then this article is for you.I am thankful to you if you feel  the article is resonating with your thoughts and is helpful. There are two types of marriages.( Marriages are made in heaven.Is itn’t ?) Love marriage Arranged marriage ( In most of the eastern countries ) Irrespective of the type of marriage,both the man and the woman of his love have to adjust with each other in order to be compatible. In fact, post marriage life is full of challenges and it exposes the couple to myriads of issues. But we all know the truth.One day or other both the man & the woman have to face unpleasant situation of opposing & different opinions and views, in matters of their day-to-day ‘living together’ The reality of the so-called colorful future has to show its fangs,since it is waiting to strike first ! Once the misunderstanding happens and prolongs….There are two options available 1.You decided you are not going to adjust at all…then Apply for divorce and probably matter can come to end to the mutual satisfaction,and thus ending the very discussion I am trying to make. 2.If the above choice is not the option due to so many other pressing matters,( which is a bit lengthy topic, for some other time discussion )and you both have to live together,and you have to go along with the spouse, thus making the ‘misunderstanding part’ useless and even unnecessary. Why to quarrel at all in the first place ? Now it’s time to think. 1.Realize that ‘ married happily ever after ‘ is an illusion ( Maya ) 2.Understand that Wife & Husband belong to the same team and they have to work together for the success of their married life “Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up”. Ecclesiastes4.9-10 3.We often hurt our spouse knowingly or unknowingly.Do you know the solution ? Ask for ‘forgiveness’ whole heartedly. 4.When Anger or Helplessness happens to one of you…just take a deep breath and allow the heated moment to pass.Don’t forget.. time’s the greatest healer. 5.Remember marriage is a vow,before God.

Now it’s time to put the following into action.

Don’t allow discord to remain ,not more than one minute,and your anger not more than a second. Don’t be bossy and do not take one another for granted. Respect individual feelings & make mutual adjustments Make sincere effort to avoid jealousy and Ego & revenge,be the first to make the other win the argument.( small trick I tell you…remember whoever does most talking is the one at fault ) Don’t deprive each other of your needs just to take the revenge Keep communicating,by which I mean try to find where exactly things are going wrong. Constantly tell to yourself…. Forget & forgive, I can go also wrong, live & let live, let us make best,out of the difficult situation, I trust you.


A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers – Robert Quillen A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each A marriage is a like a house. When a light bulb goes out, you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb. Happy Wives Club Marriage is meant to keep people together, not just when things are good, but particularly when they are not. That’s why we take marriage vows, not wishes. Ngina Otiende I asked an old man “which is more important? To love or to be loved?” Old man replied “which is more important to a bird, the left wing or the right wing? – MarriageHumor, Instagram Which quote you liked most ?

Any thoughts on how not to be the Difficult Spouse ? What is your experience with your better half so far ?

Thank you.   Philosophy through photography Pixabay,

Give to others what you like others to give to you

The golden rule is as valid today as it has always been. Let’s look at it in the realm of marriage. If you want a great wife for your son, bring up your daughter to be a great wife for someone else’s son. Couples need to take note of this. Let someone else’s son not have the type of wife you do not like for your son. If you want a great husband for your daughter, bring up your son to be a great husband for someone else’s daughter. Let someone else’s daughter not have the type of husband You do not like For your daughter. We have to learn to give to others as the golden rule stipulates. What you like from others be sure you are not giving the opposite to others. Since we love our spouses to be good spouses, we must train our children to be good spouses. If we all did this, the world would be an excellent place.