Show Your Best Despite

Show your best despite

People tend to act mostly out of filling a void deep within them, failing to realize what are they. This void could be out of greed, jealousy, insecurity, deeper need for connection and the like. Whatever they are, they are the prompts that push people how to operate their life on a daily basis.

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Learned but not educated

Do you know someone who is learned
But not educated?
There are many around;
They have passed through school;
But school has not passed through them;
They are learned but not educated;
They know their subject;
But do not have educated minds;
They cannot love;
Or speak kindly to someone;
They are experts
But fight with their spouses;
Life is not just learning;
Life demands an educated mind and heart;
Don’t be learned but lack
An educated mind and heart!

Listen and Delivery…

People like to talk about themselves. Most or all of us know this to be true.

I used to find myself talking so much and not listening. A few months ago I decided

to start listening to people-friends, strangers, and family.

I have discovered that people talk so much about themselves or their lives that one does not have the opportunity to get a word in…perhaps a nod or a “Yes, that’s right”….

Do people know how to have conversations anymore? I wonder about that…..

I thought it would aggravate me but it has not. I just allow their thoughts and conversations rattle around in my brain and then I pray for them.

After all, I have my blog to put my thoughts down in cyberspace…..maybe the people I talk to have no one to listen….or maybe they have not discovered the wonderful world of blogging!!

My delivery:  Being a business woman in a predominately man’s domain in the work arena has always put me at a disadvantage.  Therefore, I have found that my delivery of conversation can be a bit brusque. I have been called, ‘Terrier’, ‘Go Getter’, Ice Queen,Barracuda, Shark,  and many other names that are not so polite to describe a tough businesswoman. You get the picture…..

I have noticed in my months of recent illness that the tough delivery that worked so well when I was young and in business, as well as the tough discipline given to my children when they were young does not always work well with family members. My tough deliveries have turned into commands. Commanding has become a habit of mine. I have recently been more mindful Not to Command. I have to work at it each day. I try instead to ask questions that will not irritate family members, to draw  them into conversation and let them do most of the talking. I have also started to ask nicely when a chore needs to be done instead of Commanding the chore to be done. It is working…slowly…..I am remembering to say thank-you…I am remembering to ‘tack on’ an endearment once I have asked nicely for something to be done, such as, ‘Please take out the trash my love’..or something of the sort.

I can’t say it has been a Dramatic change, but hopefully it is a better change, even though it’s slow…I am trying these new things out so that my older children will not think of me as a Tyrant, and also to see how they react when spoken to nicely, and I am hoping that it will encourage them to do the same….

Let’s see how this experiment works out!!

What Can You Learn Through Someone Or Something Shivered? — Michael J. Fite

“When someone or something is shivered, most people see broken pieces, but the people who pick up the pieces to rebuild or recreate something better are the ones who make the world a better place.” -Michael J. Fite

For today’s inspiration, I want to share with you what you can learn through someone or something that is shivered. Just because someone or something is broken in to many pieces does not mean you cannot learn from the pieces. What you learn from the pieces can help you either put them back together or maybe build something even stronger than before.

Remember that when you shiver someone or something, you can choose to leave a mess and cause damage for the worse, or clean up and cause change for the better.

What can you learn through someone or something shivered?

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Get involved

One of my Dad’s favourite things was to get us to write a review about a film, outing or play we had attended.  We thought the worst thing was having to write this as soon as we came back home.  We only wanted to talk about it and nothing else.  He did not accept mistakes, repeated rubbing out and untidiness.  It was no use thinking we could get away with shoddy work.  We would have to copy it out neatly.  Protestations from Mum made no difference, she pleaded for a fresh start the next morning, if it was getting past bedtime.

A tad severe, but this was good practice at writing skills.  Having adopted this practice, generation by generation the severity has reduced but the enthusiasm for recording experiences remain high.

This is good way to get children to be more interested in reading and writing poems and stories. Let them exhibit their creative talents and also add illustrations and make models of buildings etc if they want to. All of you can get involved, have fun, spend quality time and have the opportunity to bond together.  What more can a family ask for?  Enjoy your families and/or friends.




6 things I’ve learned today

  1. I have learned that when you are kind to people, you always get paid in one way or another.
  2. I have learned that good preparation leads to good results.
  3. I have learned that people are wealth. If you have people behind you, you can count yourself rich.
  4. I have learned that hard work pays.
  5. I have learned that those who get to the top do not do so with folded arms. They roll off their sleeves and work.
  6. I have learned that the more you give, the more you receive.

What have you learned today that is worth sharing?

See what I just learned

If you don’t learn everyday,
Tel me how you grow;
If you don’t read what others write,
Tell me how you grow;
If you are not a solidarity blogger,
Tell me how you grow;
We grow by learning;
We learn when we read
What others write;
See what I just read;
Great blogging tips;
We grow faster in blogging
Through solidarity blogging.
Don’t waste time;
Do the right thing
And grow.
Ask anything you don’t know.

Live Your Dream Life Course Week 5

Our Course topic this week is: “Fast Runners do not always win the race.” It is drawn from the Book of Ecclesiastes, chapter 9.

The course sets out to let you know that no matter how brilliant you are it does not all depend on you.

You are encouraged to put your trust in an Almighty God who has ‘the yam and the knife.’

As you pursue your journey through life, do not be surprised if it turns out that God has much more in his store for you than you imagine. He does. I assure you.

Do not be surprised also if you find people who look brilliant but who end on the rocks.

“Fast runners do not always win the race, and the brave do not always win the battle”? (Eccl. 9:11).

None can boast that they know what will come next in their life.

We live in a hard world, full of mystery and wonders. The answers are not always straight.

“Wise men do not always earn a living; intelligent men do not always get rich, and capable men do not always rise to high positions” (Eccl.9: 11).

“Bad luck happens to everyone. You never know when your time is coming.”
(Eccl: 9:11-12).
If you are at the top today, it is not advisable to look down on those who are less fortunate than you. You do not know what lies ahead of you.

The Holy book tells us:

“Don’t make fun of someone who has fallen on hard times and is dressed in rags.”

“like birds suddenly caught in a trap, like fish caught in a net, we are trapped at some evil moment when we least expect it.”
(Eccl. 9: 12).

Your success does not depend on you.
“The Lord does many things that human beings never notice. Many are the Kings who have ended their careers sitting on the ground, while their crowns were worn by people no one had heard of before” (Sir.11:4-5).

This is true.

“Many are the rulers who have suffered disgrace. Many are the famous people who have fallen into the power of others”
(Sir. 11: 6).

Look around the world. You will find so-called great men who reigned supreme at one time but who ended in mud. Idi Amin, the one-time mighty president of Uganda ended in mud. Mubuto Sese Seko, the supreme king of Zaire, ended on the run. Muamar Gaddafi the unequaled cock of Libya died and was buried like a dog. Saddam Hussein was a near-God in Iraq. He was hanged. Hosni Mubarak, the mighty president of Egypt after Anwar Sadat became a prisoner.

The list is too long. They got right to the top and crash-landed. Why? Because they depended on their own strength and wisdom. They failed to depend on the Architect of all success – God. Therefore, be wise and wait on the Lord. He will grant you success. His timing will be different from yours; but His time is always the best.

Let the words of the wise man in the Book of Sirach guide you:

“Wait and be patient, and later you will be glad you did. Keep quiet until the right time to speak, and you will gain a reputation for good sense.” (Sir. 1:26-27).

This is wisdom that has lived with us since the creation of the world. Work as hard as you can, and as wisely as you can; but depend on God.

What to do:

Throughout this week, read and master this post. See what touches you in a special way.


What do you get from this course?

Give a biblical example of someone who rose to great heights but came  crashing because he depended on himself instead of on God, the giver of all.