7 Lies by which society misguides you !!

Society lies

“Society has become so fake that, the truth actually bothers people” Unknown     Image by jacqueline macou from Pixabay

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Why why all succumb to the society, having its own views on everything & anything under the the Sun ?

Society never tires you with its time tested comments ,since you are addicted to the concept of society’s benchmarks,right from your birth to till the day you die.

In other words society wants you to play by its rule book.

Do you remember the famous personality Joseph Goebbels and his quote…

“If you tell a lie big enough and keep repeating it, people will eventually come to believe it.”

By now I know that You are wondering which society I am talking about ? And where is that society located ?

My friend,this society is nothing but your so called

  • Ourselves
  • well-wishers (including your parents,sorry if I am brutal),
  • uncles,aunties
  • your neighbors
  • your teachers
  • your friends
  • your community
  • your daily news papers,TVs,movies
  • Regular advertisements
  • Your favorite movie stars
  • Your social media
  • Your political discussions,tastes and narratives

you name it….you have it!

Society in other word is a set  of people around you all the time, trying to manipulate you to their advantage.

1.Unconditional Love exists

A rubbish,and a lie uttered time immemorial.To be frank ,there is no such thing in the relationships.

Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not. So each is inevitably disappointed. Albert Eisenstein

Our love is directly proportional to how our partners,relatives,friends etc make us feel.

Simply put…. any body gets hurt if their expectation is not fulfilled.This is human nature and there is no escape from it.

Don’t hurt yourself by dreaming/expecting ‘unconditional Love’. Also you can never give unconditional love.Mark my statement.

2.Marriages are made in Heaven

Hmm…If it is so….just answer me why there are so many divorces ?

Marriage is like a cage; one sees the birds outside desperate to get in, and those inside equally desperate to get out. Michel de Montaigne

Is it true,some say marriage is a life long torture !

Marriage: A legal or religious ceremony by which two persons of the opposite sex solemnly agree to harass and spy on each other for ninety-nine years, or until death do them join. Edbert Hubbard

Wife & Husband-why can’t they be best friends for life ?

3.Your life is a meaningful minimum journey to be enjoyed to the maximum

Another thrash. And in spite, all the modern Gurus encourage us to lead a meaningful life.( self defeating )

What made Gautama Buddha get enlightenment ? It’s because of human suffering.Do we have similar God’s grace to get enlightened ?

Life is full of misery, and you are intelligent enough to accept that it’s painful to lead the life and death is the only permanent solution.Since we can’t die….at least let us accept the truth.

Happiness in your life is only for the time being that too in bits, and rest of the times you are busy whining.

“It’s a misery to be born,a pain to live,a trouble to die” St.Bernard of Clairvaux

Still, temporary happiness can come from minor things like,you playing with toys in your childhood, your first Kiss,sex now & then,massage,hot bath, friendship,a short travel,one night stand,A champagne,Receiving a lovely gift or a comforting hug etc.etc.. Drugs can take you to another level.

4.It’s better if you know your life partner before your marriage

Really?………another Utter lie.

No partner in love relationship..should feel that he has to give up an essential part of himself to make it viable May Sarton

Each individual is unique.Only sustained friendship in the form of total understanding between the life partners endures the marriage.

Life partners too expect personal space though they know each other so long !

Even if you knew your partner before,it’s not a guarantee for a successful marriage.

When you can’t understand the people, though you spend your whole life with them,(example parents vs children,children vs parents,siblings vs siblings),then why should you give importance to knowing your partner before?.

Understanding becomes easier after the marriage once you both know your limitations and your strengths mutually over the time.

5.Money won’t make you happy

Ha ha ….Without money you cease to exist.

My dear friend, money is everything.It brings you, both happiness and pleasure.

“Lack of money is the root of all evil”      George Bernard Shah

We work / study for what ? is this not to earn money and live happily ?

People with more money are satisfied with their life style and are in a position to help others too.

He who marries for love without money has GOOD NIGHTS & SORRY DAYS   unknown

6. Boys’ won’t cry

Virtually a child conditioning !!

“People cry not because they are weak,because they’ve been too strong for a long time” unknown

Boys too have feelings ,emotions, excitements and stages of sadness.

Otherwise why will Dr.Sivan,ISRO( The Indian Space Research Organisation ) chairman became teary eyed,when the Chandrayan mission was not successful ?There are many famous men like Andre Agassi and Obama too had teary eyes.

7.Blood is thicker than water

Unfortunately blood relatives are not interested in you,since they are struggling with their own problems and you have to fend yourself.

you can’t blame them.

‘Blood is always thicker than water,but some family members at times are on blood thinners’ unknown

Many times friends come to your rescue.The understanding with the friends anytime better than the blood relatives.

Ego and Jealousy play spoilsport in blood relationships.Don’t play victim card here !!

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Happiness born of sadness

She was thrown out of her marriage. That was the saddest thing that ever happened to her. She never, for one moment thought such a thing could happen to her. She cried as she had never done before; and her eyes were swollen. She almost committed suicide. But just when she was about to set on it, a voice from nowhere, so loud and clear said to her:

“Stop! What is it that you want to do? Are you blind? Can’t you read the writing on the wall?”

She stopped; and first, was afraid. Who had spoken? And where was he? She had no answer; and it rang through her mind that an angel of God was talking to her.

Yes! God’s messenger had spoken. Who was she not to listen.

That was how the miracle happened. She did not die. She took the decision to live on and follow the path He would define for him.

As it turned out, what she thought was the worst thing that ever happened to her, was actually the best thing that ever happened to her.

Millions of people are successful and live happier lives today because of her work. The saddest thing that ever happened to her gave birth to the happiest thing that ever happened to her.

What Love Looks Like

I remember my pop would get dressed on Sunday morning, perk a pot of coffee, and slip on his gardening shoes. He’d find his car keys, then drive to the local country store to buy a paper. I guess it was more a habit to get a newspaper than to turn on a TV channel. Sundays were always quiet.

As he flipped through the news, I played on the flagstone porch floor whose mortar joints I used as roads. For hours I built and constructed a world all of my own. It was a painting better described as Norman Rockwell… a father’s face buried between the worldly events and sports, and a child at his feet building miles of dreams in his head. This is what love looked like to me at home.

“Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”

Romans 12:10

The serene scenery of swans swimming across the waters of the Tred Avon River lent itself to the ducks which lined the dock in search of food. It was a different world in those days. The infrastructure and landscape were ever changing. It would not be long before we could drive over the waters of the Chesapeake, instead of taking a ferryboat.

This morning I flipped from Google to Yahoo news and read the commentaries of discernment. The world is full of hatred – an opposite ingredient of what love looks like with God in your world. I don’t know about you, but I refuse to live in a place without the condiments of love! We are God’s prodigies who live in a society of recreational love with very little significance to the word.

The Bible has over one hundred scriptures directly related to the fundamentals of love. I can find what love looks like everywhere in my world. It’s from my sweet wife giving me a cold glass of iced tea on a hot summer afternoon; my cockatoo who comes to me in his time of need; hanging up a fresh towel for my wife on a hook near the shower; turning down her corner of the bed at night. Love isn’t just an expression of “I do’s,” but a state of mind.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word.”

Ephesians 5:25-26

What love looks like outside marriage may involve the special squeezes or a smile from our grandchildren; a neighbor getting the mail for a someone housebound; baking a dish for the less fortunate; donations or volunteering to help others. Giving of yourself, even if it’s inconvenient, means more than all the money in the world. A lesson on the definition of loving one’s neighbor is in the Parable of the Good Samaritan (Luke 10:25-37). We are to have compassion and love towards each other, irrespective of the parameters which divide us.

So, what does love look like to you? Have you searched your heart, or is the wallet more important? Love is a verb meaning affection based on admiration. It begins when selfishness ends.

“The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”

Mark 12:31

It’s another perfect morning, and I give God the glory and love. My gorgeous bride prepares breakfast for her hubby. I think about the many wasted years I wish I could do over, for we missed so much living separate lives. How can I ever show her how much I love her? It’s easy, you know…  I stand beside her, and God is our center. I never want to let go of the immense feelings of love I have for her!

Dana and Anne’s Wedding Celebration


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It has always been you and it will always be you….

Waiting for you

“When you get married, your loyalty, first and foremost, is to your spouse, and to the family that you create together.”  Phil McGraw

When you feel that every person in this world has deserted you,

You are never truly alone,

I am still there for you

Take a moment,right here ,right now,

and thank them for that

No mater how bad your day is,

there is always a happy face

waiting for you

to get home.

‘unknown’

Thank you

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Satan’s Shining Sin

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It’s another Sunday morning of crowd seekers searching for forgiveness as they rush through the eye of the needles around the world. I, too, came to find my eternal gateway to a place called heaven’s home. I walked across the side street onto the freshly paved parking area extended for convenience. The air reeked of an odor as Satan’s evil sin blew in the breeze. Little elderly women held on to their nicely brushed hairdo as they dashed in front of cars while others ran to find their pew. I reached the entrance of the church and could smell the difference between Satan’s musty humidity and the fragrance of Christ living inside the vestibule.

I wondered when the dress codes at church changed because men used to don three-piece suits with cuffed trousers and tacked ties. They held the doors for those feminine dressed ladies in their finest ensembles. After the church service, everyone mingled with each other to share the week’s news over a cup of coffee and pastries. Those were better times when men talked about the drought and ladies conversed about canning tomatoes. It’s another world away now as I vaguely remember my own childhood days.

The church was clearly a refreshing place to sit in the comfort of Jesus Christ. I wondered if it was just me or did the rest of the congregation feel the Holy Spirit? Was their only intention of attending church to just rush in with the hope of forgiveness handed to them? Satan’s shining sin glows everywhere, you know, but he’s so exposed in God’s house.

Our world of sin is never so obvious nor blatantly displayed as it is today. I will push the envelope by saying schemes and gimmickry have run to the forefront. It’s like running for the presidency. Subliminal ice cubes in a glass spelling “SEX” in bold letters was an impressive way to relay the message to the public. Most movies flaunt “R” and “X” ratings which have become the norm in this distorted society. We catch up with friends on social media only to be subjected to jokes and articles about the male and female anatomy. What happened to sex and our bodies being personal and sacred?

1 Corinthians 6:12-13

12 “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but I will not be mastered by anything. 13 You say, “Food for the stomach and the stomach for food, and God will destroy them both.” The body, however, is not meant for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.

But as far back as the Roman Empire, sexual exploitation was Satan’s key denominator. John the Baptist contested, in public, King Herod’s lack of discipline for he replaced his wife with her sister, who was a younger, more vivacious aristocrat. John was beheaded, consequently, as requested by Herod’s daughter. Sex was the ultimate sin which began the betrayal of God’s words. Kings and Queens fell like dominoes in the world’s wake of Satan’s shining sin. Sodom and Gomorrah suffered God’s divine judgment because of prolific prostitution and homosexuality.

No measurable degree of accountability exists in sin by exploiting sex outside of God’s marriage. Adulterated sex is a gateway to Satan’s castle. If one relishes breaking the laws of God, I must ask, “Where will it end?” When you break one of God’s cherished laws, the rest will seem obsolete. More men and women today need to hold to God’s commitments because Satan, without a doubt, has made sex a sport – a game with damning results.

Satan uses his power of persuasion to convince us it’s all right to sin against God. Whether you have a lack of willpower, insecurity, or mental illness, sex outside of marriage is Satan’s invitation to give you a life of perversion, long-lasting guilt, and recordable sin. It changes personal values and corrupts the mind where cleanliness and innocence once prevailed.

1 Peter 5:8-9

“Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world.”

In the beginning of this blog, I spoke of dress codes. A lack of proper attire invites Satan into the mind. His shining sin, sex, makes it appear acceptable though, doesn’t it? As history repeats itself, God seized empires because of this sin, and improper sex was the root of their evil.

Be alert and be informed for God knows our thoughts before we act on them. Satan lurks on every page of life. He is in the movies and programs we watch, and the commercials impeding clothes. Sex sells! The satanic air you breathe, whether in church, at home, or in public lures the perfumes from afar, tempting the spirits within your soul.

I pray this world, one day, will wake and beg for forgiveness from such absurd things. Straying from God is like being dropped in an ocean of sin – you will eventually drown! Your life will be forever changed when you find Christ. Pray to fill your spirit with hope and God’s true love!

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Marriage Blues

Marriage Blues

Marriage is give and take. You’d better give it to her or she’ll take it anyway. Joey Adams

1.They lived happily until they got married

2.I asked my wife what she wanted for Christmas.She said to me “nothing would make her happier than a diamond necklace “So I bought her nothing.

3.Marriage is like a public toilet.Those waiting outside are desperate to get in.Those inside are desperate to get out. Stephanie Robinson

4.A good wife always forgives her husband when she’s wrong. Milton Berle

5.Women marry because they believe that he will change one day. Men marry because they believe she’ll never change. Both are mistaken.

6.The best way to remember your wife’s birthday is to forget it once.

7.You should argue with your wife only when she’s not around.

8.A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband. A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.

9.Love is blind, only marriage opens your eyes.

10.There are 2 times when a man doesn’t understand a woman – before marriage and after marriage.

11.A little boy asked his father, “Daddy, how much does it cost to get married?” Father replied, “I don’t know son, I’m still paying.”

12.The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret.
Henny Youngman

13.Marriage is the main reason for divorce.

Ok my friends,the point I would like to ask is, why most of  these humor are one sided ?

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I smiled (Love poem 103 by Ngobesing Suh Romanus

I smiled;
Then I laughed;
I couldn’t have failed to;
It was too good;
Did I say too good?
No!
Not too good;
It was so good;
What happened to me
Was so good
That I smiled;
And laughed;
And was happy;
You may want to know
What happened to me;
Simple;
My sweetheart agreed to marry me.
My honey told me, “I love me.”
And promised to be mine,
Not for a while,
But for ever.
Isn’t that sweet?
As soon as I heard
Those words,
My heart glowed;
My face shone;
I smiled;
I laughed.
I was extremely happy.

Do you know? (Poem No. 93 from 100 poems for my sweetheart by Ngobesing Suh Romanus)

Do you know
That you are indisputably
My best friend?
Do you know
That since the day
I first set eyes on you
I have not found anyone
Like you?
Do you know
That there’s nothing
I cannot do for you
To show that I love you?
Do you that I can
Die for you?
Do you know
That the love I have for you
I do not have for anyone else?
Do you know?
I like you to know.
It is important that you know.
Because that is the truth.