The other side of anger

How do you see anger? Do you see it as a positive or negative emotion?

More often than not, we see anger as a negative feeling with nothing positive about it. But that is not true. Anger can destroy; but it can also construct.

This means that anger has a negative side and also a positive side. Let us take a look at a few points on the positive side:

  1. Anger can push people to solve problems which otherwise would have remained unsolved.

An example is an issue in the community that makes people angry. Somebody can be so angered by it that he will decide to fight to solve it. If he succeeds, then anger has brought positive results.

Another example is when your rights are trampled upon and you become angry and put down your feet and have the problem solved.

2. Anger can deter wrongdoing. If you know that your boss will be angry with you and fire you if you come late to work or fail to meet deadlines with office work, you will do everything to be punctual and deliver assignments. Thus a boss can use anger as one of the strategies to institute discipline in his office.

3. Anger can save your marriage. If you never get angry, it will be easy for your spouse to behave just any how and that can jeopardize your marriage. But if your spouse knows that you will become mad at any wrong behaviour, the tendency will be to sit up; which will be good for your marriage.

4. Anger can enable you to have self-insight. When someone is angry with you, that can cause you to examine yourself to see if perhaps you have not actually done something wrong. And you may be angry with somebody and later decide to look at yourself to see if perhaps you are not bias somehow. This self look can lead you to change some of your behaviours.

5. Anger can prevent violence. What we are more used to is seeing anger trigger violence. But in some cases, it prevents violence and destruction. The people’s anger about social problem can cause the authorities concerned to look into it and solve it.

6. Don’t suppress anger. Let it out. Suppressing anger can lead to physical or mental illness. Hence, it is better when you let it out.

Anger is a double edged sword. It can cause harm but at times it also helps. Hence, it is not good to see anger only as a negative emotion. It is both negative and positive. Always work to get the best out of your anger; and every anger.

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A positive attitude

Are you positive or negative?
Are you always blaming?
Always complaining;
Always protesting;
Always seeing something wrong
In what others do;
Is that you?
Of course, not;
I don’t expect you to be that;
No one would be like that;
But many are close to it;
If you have a negative mind,
You will often, not always
See the wrong side of things;
A negative mind
Gives birth to a negative attitude;
And as you know,
Attitude is very important.
Some people wisely say
Attitude is everything.
A positive attitude brings
Positive results;
A negative attitude brings
Negative results.
If you want positive results,
As I know you do,
And rightly so,
Go for a positive attitude.

Watch out!

Watch out!
Take nothing
At face value,
Else you pay dearly
For it;
Watch the habits
You cultivate;
They become part of you;
Your character;
Your way of life;
They determine your future;
And once built,
It’s hard to undo.
You must be careful;
And this, at the very start;
Build positive habits,
Not negative habits.
Positives build;
Negatives destroy;
If you are for building,
Go positive.
Watch out!

Be positive

When you get up
In the morning,
Be positive;
Don’t say
“What a terrible day
It is.going to be!”
Say instead,
“What a wonderful day
It promises to be!”
Don’t say
“I foresee things
Will be difficult.”
Say instead,
“I foresee things
Will be good.”
Think of ways to do
What you should do;
Don’t think of excuses
Not to do
What you should do;
Put in your mind
That you were born
To succeed;
Don’t put in your mind
That you were born
To fail;
Truth is, you were born
Not to fail;
You were born
To succeed.

The positive side of failure

Failure has two sides;
The negative side
And the positive side;
Most people see
The negative side;
And are blind
To the positve side;
You should not be
Like these people;
They are the losers;
The winners see
The positive side;
And to the best
Of my knowledge,
You are a winner;
The positive side
Of failure
Calls to you.
Will you take the hand?

Mindset

There’s nothing bad;
Everything is good;
It depends on
The way you see it;
Which means
Your mindset;
Mindset
Determines appreciation;
If you have a negative
Mindset,
You will see everything
Negatively;
If you have a positive
Mindset,
You will see everything
Positively;
What some people see
As positive,
Some see as negative;
What some people see
As negative,
Some see as positive.
Thus, goes the world.
We see things
Through our mindset.
Don’t build a negative
Mindset;
Build a positive
Mindset.
And see things positively.

What the world needs

Don’t be a divider,
Be a unifier instead;
Don’t be a trouble maker;
Be a peace maker;
Don’t be a discourager,
Be an encourager
Don’t be a destroyer,
Be a builder;
Be a positive value;

What the world needs:
Are builders
Not destroyers;
Peace makers
Not trouble makers;
Unifiers
Not dividers;
Encouragers
Not discouragers.
Positive values,
Not negative values.

Be what the world needs;
Not what the world
Does not need;
If you are what
The world does not need,
You are undesirable,
And the world will
Get rid of you.
Be positive!

The content of your basket



Everyone has come into 2019
Carrying a basket 
That is heavy in content;
But what is in your basket?
Some baskets are full of negatives;
Some are full of positives;
See someone carrying a basket
Full of grudges;
Another is carrying a basket full of criticisms;
And another is carrying a basket
Full of complaints;
I call their baskets,
The dark baskets;
Full of everything that is not going well
With other people,
The country;
And the world;
That is not my kind of basket,anyway;
What I like is the bright basket;
Everything good is in that basket;
Smiles fill it to the brim;
Yet, other beautiful things still have their space;
Praise and appreciation are everywhere.
Smiles and positive attitude competing also
For space.
This is my basket;
This is what I have taken along to 2019.
If you are carrying a basket like mine,
We are meant to journey together. Come with me,
Let's journey together this 2019.
Fill your basket with positive content.