Do you worry about how to stop worrying ?

Do you worry about how to stop worrying ?

“So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.”
Matthew 6:25-34

I am not here not to give the million reasons why we worry, I am here to stress the point that we worry forever.

Worry is the main cause of worry.

We worry because we think a lot.

We think a lot because we imagine a lot.

We imagine a lot because we think a lot.

So the vicious cycle formed.And there in no stop to it.

Is it because we lack faith in ourselves ? I don’t know.

Cambridge Dictionary defines worry as

“To think about problems or unpleasant things that might happen in a way that makes you feel unhappy and frightened”.

I can tell the  three broad reasons why we worry.

1.We worry because we foresee our unknown future with millions of possibilities,majority with negative thoughts.

2. We worry because of our assumptions.

3. We worry about the past that happened,we worry about the present in real-time happenings and we worry about future because of uncertainty.

My point here is it is impossible to stop worrying……… however much saints bombard you with saintly advice regarding dos and don’ts.

Again I reiterate ” Life without worry is not possible” Remember you worry till the end of your life.I am brutally frank .In other words……

If you worry …you are breathing.

If you are not worrying …you are dead.

So don’t make any attempts to stop worrying otherwise  you are the loser at every attempt.

Don’t worry ,be happy ……….. is just not practical !!

“Worry is misuse of imagination”  Dan Zadra

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Kindred spirits

Kindred Spirits

“The most intriguing people you will encounter in this life are the people who had insights about you, that you didn’t know about yourself.” Shannon L. Alder

It’s 3.1 minute read.

“Oh God ,I just met you ,but I feel I know you so much already”

A kindred spirit is someone whose energy resonates at the same frequency as yours.
They are the FEEL GOOD FACTORS

This can happen when you meet some one in person or online !

Definition of Kindred Spirit

According to Free Dictionary, Kindred spirit is defined as

“A person who shares several or many fundamental beliefs,ideas,convictions,sentiments,attitudes and/or interests with oneself”.

Kindred Spirits

It’s shared way of experiencing the world.

Simply put, a kindred spirit is someone who you share a mutual meaningful connection with.

Kindred spirit is the person who understands you so well and you too feel ,you understand this person equally well at the very first meeting between you both.
Both are very comfortable with each other at any given point .

It’s about innate connection.

The kindred spirit can enter your life for a moment, for a short period or be with you life long .

We meet many people in our lives.With some we feel the disconnect as if there is a wall in between but with some you feel they are magnetic and you both get attracted to each other !

Kindred Spirits

To discover a kindred spirit is to find your heart ,in the heart of a friend. Ann Parrish

Kindred spirits can be with anybody,be a known or unknown person.

What is the basis of Kindred Spirits ?

  • You both share common interests.
    you can talk hours together and surprisingly outsiders can’t understand you.
  • You both understand each other so well and there is never an argument.
    You both enjoy each others humour
    You both feel as if you are a long-lost friends.
    You are comfortable with each other .
    You don’t hesitate to tell the most personal stuff
  • Though you might have met the person physically or online for a brief period, you have some sixth sense telling you that you can trust this person.
  • You are available all the time supporting each other both in Times of happiness and sadness.
  • You both are always in sync.You both understand your limitations.And there is some unexplainable cosmic flow between the two.The relationship is always positive and supportive.

Don’t confuse Kindred Spirits with soul mates or Twin flames.That is another discussion on some other day.

Have you at any time come across Kindred Spirit ?

Please share your thoughts on this subject.

Thank you.
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It has always been you and it will always be you….

Waiting for you

“When you get married, your loyalty, first and foremost, is to your spouse, and to the family that you create together.”  Phil McGraw

When you feel that every person in this world has deserted you,

You are never truly alone,

I am still there for you

Take a moment,right here ,right now,

and thank them for that

No mater how bad your day is,

there is always a happy face

waiting for you

to get home.

‘unknown’

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Love is not complicated, people are

Love is not complicated People are

These days…Relationship means…                                                                                                     Any where without you is better than any where with you

How individual lives are changing ,relationships are thrown into the dust bin,people forgetting the meaning and value & sacredness of ‘LOVE’,

Thanks to addiction to social media & smart phones !

Relationships are harder now!

“Conversations became texting,

Arguments became phone calls,

Feelings became subliminal messages,

Sex became easy,

The word ‘love’ is used out of context.,

Insecurities became a way of thinking,

Getting jealous became a habit,

Trust is hard to come by,

Being hurt became natural.

Leaving became the only option,

Sad but true,

So if you have something…that is worth it,..don’t take it for granted,

Fight for it,don’t let it go”       pinterest

Summary –

Be selfish,thanks to the inventions. indulge in your likings,Drink till you drop dead,fight without any reason,Ego is your life,jealousy is your partner, Greedy is your nature,Killing innocent is your taste,care not anybody,you owe the happiness you deserve,forget about dieting & exercises which are all money-making machines,,cheating is your mantra,money is everything and enjoy dying your own death,you owe nothing to anybody!

Is this the lesson modern-day life style teaching us ? Is this the meaning of advancement in human life ? Is this what all about relationships ?

And what about ethics,values,respect,responsibilities ,family relationship ?

Please share your thoughts.

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The gift Of Friendship

The gift of friendship

It’s 3.3 minute read.

Don’t you agree with me that True friendship is difficult since finding a true friend is the hardest.

” A friend is some one who understands your past,believe in your future….accepts you to-day the way you are “. Unknown

We may not realize the value of friendship until the time it is given when it is badly needed,so we have to cultivate and cherish the friendship .

Make aware to your friends how much they mean to you and how well they contribute to your happiness from your routine boring life.

Don’t ask me how to pick up a true friend or how to know,that the other person can be a good and even a true friend.

This is a difficult subject and can be discussed on another day.

The following quote is my feeling ,whenever I interact with my true friends.

Friendship is a treasured gift,and every time I talk with you I feel as if I’m getting richer and richer “. Unknown

Friends can even become Besties.

True friendship is ‘Magical’ !!

“Friendship is not about whom you have known the longest,it’s about who walked into your life and said “I’m here for you” and proved it.  Unknown

The true friend helps me being a counselor in times of distress ,

Can be my confidant when the situation demands,most importantly gives all the strength I need when I am the weakest at some point of time of my life.

Now you will ask me…What is the secret of sustaining this friendship ??

Certain things come to my mind,which can further the bond.

1. Be frank.Accept the drawbacks or short fall either of you may possess.
No body is perfect in this world and everybody has some story to tell and as a true friend you are willing to listen.Provide the much-needed leaning shoulder.Respect the individuality.Even if situation demands call spade a spade and explain the realities.Never thrust your opinions.When you tell the truth let the other person accept this rather than doubting and vice versa.

2. Develop the principle of ‘forget and forgive’ since we know we are never free of committing the mistakes and it’s human to do mistakes.

3.Try to recollect the fun moments or joyous moments you both had while spending time together or enjoying the jokes during your chat times.

4.Share the happiness together.

The happiness ,one can feel only when one is able to share with the other.

Remember you can never enjoy happiness all alone.

Thank you my friends for patiently reading.

Now please share your personal experience on ‘Gift of Friendship’ be on-line or off-line.

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Are you sad ?

Are you sad ?

“Some days are just bad days,that’s all.You have to experience sadness to know happiness,and I remind myself that not every day is going to be a good day,that’s just the way it is !           Dita Von Teese

“It is popularly believed that sadness is due to certain things that happens to us. The cause of sadness is often traced to misfortune,hardship or humiliation

In truth all sadness is from within.

Sadness is the result of our inner attitude towards outer happenings”.

Dada J P Vaswani

The reasons for sadness are many. And all of you know.

Reaction to sadness varies from person to person and depends on how sensitive the person is.

Sadness can break the person completely and even push into suicidal tendencies.

Some cry to get relief,some indulge in self harming,some manage the show by fake smile,but still many are unable to come out of the feelings.

We all should realise that nothing is permanent in this life. Change is the way of life.

Whether it is sadness or happiness it won’t last forever and comes alternatively and this is nature’s law. Every thing changes over the time and time is the greatest healer!

Whatever may be the reason for sadness…never keep the emotions inside. Remember it’s like a time bomb.

What is the solution ?

Yes solution available.

A sad person needs another person who understands him/her 100%

The sad person just needs this person on whom he/she can lean on and cry their hearts out. Believe me the relief is instant !

Dear friends,please share your thoughts.

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A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor’s book. – Irish proverb

But who Cares ??

A good laugh &; Long sleep best cure

Seven days without laughter makes one weak. Mort Walker

It’s a 3.4 minute read.

Have you studied the facial expressions in the above photos ?

They are all laughing…their heads off ! This is happening irrespective of their age.This laugh is spontaneous and heartfelt.Since you are smart, you know that it is not a fake laugh.

Being intelligent, you also noticed that, some of them have closed their eyes,indicating total involvement and contentment of the situation they are in and the life they are living at that moment !

“A smile is the beginning of laughter,and laughter is the feeling of being happy,which we all need every day” ! Byron Pulsifer

Don’ take life seriously,start having fun ,what ever way you wish and have at least one good laugh every day !

Have a hearty laugh at every available situations be amusing or funny.Even recollect something funny that happened in your life and laugh and laugh and laugh.

I love friends who make us happy by their laughter and who are also jovial.

And I am lucky to have lovely online friends,who make my life burden lighter with their humour.

Advantages of Laughter –brings down the stress level,Reduces the Blood pressure,Your worries gone for sometime,You are also spending the calories,even improve the immune system

A hearty laugh gives one a dry cleaning, while a good cry is a wet wash.
Puzant Kevork Thomajan

And talking about sound sleep ……. Lack of sleep is common in modern society.

Good laugh & Long sleep best cures in the doctors book

From the interactions I had with a few WP readers,I realised that some of them are able to respond/reply/comment mostly during past midnight ( people from my part of the Indian Subcontinent ). I am not here for any judgment,since I know nothing of their schedule etc,but I wonder what is the mood like during that time, and how their next day is going to be and also the consequences on their health status in the long run.

Reduced sleep

Disturbed sleep ( insomnia) or Lack of sleep ( Sleep deprivation).

1.Insomnia is a sleep disorder due to psychological or health problems and one has to consult the physician for the cure.

2.Lack of sleep is human making.You get ready answer as to why one is not able to sleep enough.

Lack of sleep affects your immune system.( I don’t want to go into medical /scientific details).If you want your immune system to work at its best…then get the needed amount of sleep every night Don’t give excuses of stress etc.

On the contrary,good sleep reduces your stress level !

Don’t depend on sedatives or tranquilizers ! Remember lack of sleep makes you depressed.

“Sometimes it is difficult to remember, but other times it is very easy to remember. Sleep deprivation is the killer”. Andy Samberg

Please share your thoughts and views
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Do you want to know me ?

Do you want to know me ?

I am unique. I am special. I am me.If you think I am funny,that’s your problem.

“I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself.

I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.

Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know — but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.

I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me.

I am me, and I am Okay.”      Varginia Satir

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Why do we Judge others ? Do we have the right ?

Why do we judge others? Do we have any right ?

“Judge not, that ye be not judged” Matthew 7:1

It’s 3.5 minute read,GO ahead if you have time & inclination.Thank you.

I am not talking about friends & relatives judging us or vice versa.

I am talking about people we come across in our day-to-day life,whom we know nothing about.( unknown to us )

It is but natural for all of us to judge the other person with an electrifying speed !

How do we judge a person ?

By appearance= Facial-ugly or beautiful ..Body build= fat or thin ?

Body Language ?

By color ? Whether smiled or not ? By hairstyle ?

By Behavior ?   By  person’s dress ? By seeing the tattoos and piercings ?

Is it true that ‘ First impression is the best impression’ ?

And  later on many times we felt sorry that our first impression went horribly wrong!

Then why we jump to judge people ? Do we have any right ?

Probable reasons for rushing to Judgment …..

Is it because of fear of the unknown?

Is it because…I can never go wrong, (mind-set)

Is it because we think we are superior and at the top of pyramid and rest are lesser mortals ?

Is it because ,we are insecure about ourselves?

Are we not lying to ourselves by judging others ?  The answer is ……

“Judge me if you want, but at the end of my life, I choose to have memories not regrets.”  Steve Maraboli

Read this story

A 24-year-old boy seeing out from the train window, shouted…

“Dad look the trees are going behind!”,dad smiled and a young couple sitting nearby,looked at the 24 year old’s childish behavior with pity,suddenly he again exclaimed…”dad,look..the clouds are running with us!”

The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man…”why don’t you take your son to a good doctor ?”.The old man smiled and said….I did and we are just coming from the hospital,my son was blind from the birth,he just got his eyes today…”

Every single person on the planet has a story.

Don’t judge people before you truly know them.The truth might surprise you.

“Judge tenderly, if you must. There is usually a side you have not heard, a story you know nothing about, and a battle waged that you are not having to fight.” Traci Lea LaRussa11

Judging the other in a flash of second…….I call it blind Judgement.

“Judging others make us blind.where as love is illuminating.By judging others we blind ourselves to our own ( short comings ) and to the grace which others are just as entitled to as we are.” Dietrich Bonhoeffer

Any thoughts you have ? Would you like to share ?

Thank you.

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