Let’s look into the issue of couples who always quarrel

How is your relationship with your spouse at this moment?

Is it excellent? Cordial? Manageable? Or hostile?

There are couples whose relationship at this moment is very good. They are on very good terms. Current is flowing between them.

There are others whose relationship is at its lowest ebb. They don’t want to catch each other with the eyes. They are not on good terms.

Do you know what can happen when a man and his wife are not on good terms?

A lot can go wrong.

Much has gone wrong for many couples for this reason.

Many families have experienced untold suffering just because husband and wife were not getting on well.

Many people leave their homes in the morning feeling sad; carrying long faces, unable to smile.

They stay in that mood all day at work, and go back home in the evening with the same low spirits.

Go to investigate and you will discover that they, husband and husband, were at loggerheads before one or both of them left the house.

It may simply be that food money was not given. It may be there was a careless exchange of bitter words. It could be some external influence.

It is very easy for someone to run into an accident just because the person left the house quarreling with the spouse.

If you are angry when you drive it can be risky. You can easily hit somebody or another vehicle hits you; or you run into a ditch.

When couples quarrel, they must quickly get over it. No one says couples can go completely without quarrelling, but don’t quarrel and let it go for too long.

There are many men who have left home and gone drinking carelessly because they quarrelled with their wife and did not reconcile.

Look at the dangers to which he is exposed: he is exposed to being poisoned; he can drink and get drunk and run into one kind of trouble or another; he can be robbed, beaten and even killed, etc,.

These are things that have happened. It is very dangerous when a man and his wife are always quarreling. Their lives are not safe.

A lot of spouses fall prey to temptation to cheat on the other when they are always on bad terms.

When some people see you looking sad , they like to take advantage. Some will give you misleading advice which will worsen matters for you.

You may find your husband’s friend who is very friendly and sympathetic, but the next minute, he will be wanting to date you.

Unfortunate! Instead of helping you in trouble, he wants to sink you further into the sea.

Women are no better. A woman will know that you have problems with your spouse and pretend to be showing sympathy. The next minute, she will invite you home. Soon, she will want you to leave your wife and marry her.

A couple that is always at loggerheads, hardly progresses as they should. Frequent quarrels retard progress.

How can they progress when each person will not be ready to sit down and discuss with the other? Sitting and planning together requires that the couple understands each other; that they work in harmony; in synergy. And working in synergy as couple generates tremendous power.

You must avoid frequent quarrels with your spouse. If you quarrel often, one person or both of you could die easily as a result.

It is true that human beings are not God, and not even angels or saints. You must from time to time have some misunderstanding; but quickly resolve the differences. Do not let it go on for ever. Do not go to bed with an unresolved quarrel with your spouse.

Bear in mind that couples that are always at loggerheads are very likely to end up in tears

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Inspiration to end a quarrel (Be inspired today 134 by Ngobesing Suh Romanus)

Quarreling won't help you;
So why quarrel
When it won't help?
Instead you should sue for peace?
Peace leads to success in life;
Success in marriage and happiness;
No one can be happy
Who spends their time quarreling;
I see spouses quarreling;
What a waste of marital life!
And an embarrassment, indeed!
You didn't marry to be quarreling;
That is not in your marital vows;
I see brother and brother,
Brother and sister;
Sister and sister who quarrel;
God did not create us to quarrel
And fight and kill ourselves;
Brutes do that of course;
I urge you to say no to quarreling;
And say yes to living in peace
And harmony.
So my friend,
As we part way here and now,
Take this with you:
A big NO to quarrels;
STOP THAT QUARREL!


Do you know what?

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Do you know what?
We quarrel about things
We should not quarrel about;
We argue about things
We should not argue about;
We worry about things
We should not worry about;
We fear things
We should not fear;
We doubt things
We should not doubt;
We believe things
We should not believe;
We do things
We should not do.
We need to think twice;
We need to examine ourselves.

 

QUOTE ( evil in the world)

It is both paradoxical and sad that the problems which beset the world and make it so hard to enjoy are caused by us, knowingly or unknowingly; yet we complain so much about them. If you have ever sent out a hate thought, quarreled or argued with somebody, stood on someone’s way, gossiped about another person, cheated someone, told a lie, stolen, felt jealous etc, you have contributed to make the world an evil place. To contribute our own quota to make the world a better place, we have to refrain, to the best of our abilities, from these negative attitudes and actions. (Romilia Quotes)

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“It is both paradoxical and sad that the problems which beset the world and make it so hard to enjoy are caused by us, knowingly or unknowingly; yet we complain so much about them. If you have ever sent out a hate thought, quarreled or argued with somebody, stood on someone’s way, gossiped about another person, cheated someone, told a lie, stolen, felt jealous etc, you have contributed to make the world an evil place. To contribute our own quota to make the world a better place, we have to refrain, to the best of our abilities, from these negative attitudes and actions.” (Romilia Quotes)

 

At a complete loss

I am at a complete loss;
I don’t know what to believe,
And where
The world is heading to;
We are all quarreling
With one another;
Fighting with one another;
Destroying one another;
Killing one another;
All because we are not
Just to one another.
Injustice is our problem;
We are always trying
To cheat;
And nobody likes
To be cheated;
Can’t we save the world?
Can’t we save the human race?
If we are not careful,
We will extinct the human race;
By fighting
And destroying one another.

Don’t leave your family

You may quarrel,

Even if you fight,

Don’t leave your family;

It’s your family;

Stay!

And I don’t even like

All this quarreling

In the family;

What’s the fighting for;

That’s not the reason for family;

Or purpose of family;

Family is meant to be a haven

Of love;

Of joy;

Of happiness;

Of harmony;

Of everything good;

Stop making your family

The devil’s workshop!

That is not correct;

And not fair;

If you have left your family,

I say go back to your family;

If you want to leave

Your family,

I say stop it;

Stay in your family;

And other family members,

Stop promoting hatred

In your family;

Stop causing division

In your family;

Stop being greedy;

Greed kills family unity;

Stop selling family land

And other family property

And mismanaging the money;

What belongs to the family

No one should take alone;

That brings trouble;

Let all these squabbles stop

In the family.

Let love, unity and peace

Enjoy their place

In your family.

War betide you if you cause

Division to come into

Your family;

War betide you if you are

A catalyst of hatred

In your family.

You should be an agent of

Family love;

Family unity;

Family understanding,;

Family peace and harmony;

Let it not be heard that

Your family is in shambles

Because of you.

Instead, you should be hailed

As your family unifier.

And abundantly, God will bless you.

Still to understand marriage

I am still to understand marriage;
What makes marriage so difficult?
Husband and wife have different
Backgrounds,
Yes,
And it’s normal to see things
Differently,
Yes,
But does that stop them
From living in peace?

Must there be stress always?

Must there be squabbles?

Must they fight?

Must the home turn into a boxing ring?

Do they have to make as people
In opposing camps
Instead of being people
In the same team?
I think many couples exaggerate;
They spend their time competing;
Over what?
For what?
And why?
You see a man and a woman
Who have lived for 3 decades
Quarreling and even fighting;
What a shame!
You see a grand pa
And a grand ma exchanging nasty
Words;
What a double shame!
Truly, it is hard to understand;
But I think couples can live
In peace;
They can live in harmony;
They can understand each other;
Bypass differences;
And enjoy life together.
Let us stop exaggerating;
Let us stop giving marriage
Such a bad name;
Marriage is not a bad thing,
Marriage is a sweet thing created
By Almighty God himself
To enable us enjoy together as
Husband and wife.
If you are a husband or a wife
Reading this, pledge that you will
Do your best to live happily and in Harmony with your spouse.

by Romilia

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