How romantic are you?

What do you know about romance in marriage?

How romantic are you?

People, generally, have a very wrong understanding of the word romance or being a romantic person. Being romantic is not a bad thing. If you are married and are not romantic, I can bet you that your marriage will be dull. Your spouse will not be excited about you because nothing in you will excite him/her. You will enjoy a romantic spouse more than a non romantic one.

If you see a dull marriage or a marriage that is experiencing problems, don’t rush to conclude that it is because the spouses don’t love each other. It may rather be that the spouses are not romantic and so there is no romance in their marriage.

The truth is many people don’t know how to bring romance into their marriage.

At times, one spouse will make an effort to bring in romance, but the other one will not respond.

Love and romance make marriage very exciting.

Love and romance can make you look like perfect partners.

Love and romance will make you an admirable couple.

If you compete with your spouse instead of cooperating, you will find it hard to have romance in your marriage.

Modern communication technology has made romance very easy to those who know how to take advantage of it.

Romance comes naturally to some people but not to all.

Many people are not ready to put in the time and effort to have romance in their marriage.

We need to learn to have romance in our marriage.

Remember that romance merely means the way you express your love for your spouse.

It is necessary because it keeps your love alive, fresh and exciting.

To enhance romance and intimacy, someone has come up with a plan he calls a passion plan.

The plan says you should spend:

  1. 15 seconds a day
  2. 15 minutes, 5 days a week
  3. 1.5 hours a week
  4. Another 1.5 hrs. a week.

He explains that you kiss your spouse at least for 15 seconds daily, take 15 minutes at least 5 days a week to connect and talk with your spouse.

Spend quality time with your spouse for st least 1.5 hours a week.

Have sexual intimacy of 1.5 hours a week.

I hope you find time to follow this passion plan. It is worth while.

We are not done with this topic. More is ahead.

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13 ways to put romance in your marriage

At the start of most marriages, there is a lot of excitement. Nothing else matters to the couple but the two of them.

Then as time goes on, as they live together, things gradually change; differences start to surface; excitement starts to fade, the strong love that burned in their hearts starts to disappear.

Nobody wants their marriage to go this way. Everybody wants passion. Everybody wants their relationship to be hot and arousing.

What makes a relationship hot and arousing?

It is romance.

What is romance?

Romance is the way you and your spouse express your love for each other.

What does romance do to your marriage?

Romance keeps your love alive, fresh and exciting.

How do you get romance in your marriage?

I will give you thirteen ways to put romance in your marriage or to bring it back if it has disappeared.

If they help you, please, share.

Is the fire of love in your marriage still burning?

Dearest friend, if you are married, this post is specifically for you. However, if you are not married, don’t stop reading. It will still be very useful to you on two counts:

  1. It will help you tomorrow if you become married.
  2. You can use it to help someone who is married and whose marriage has lost steam.

We are talking here about rekindling steam in your marriage; reigniting romance in your marriage; refueling the fire of love to keep burning in your marriage. I have two questions for you:

  1. How hot is the fire of love in your relationship?
  2. At this moment, are you stronger or weaker in your marital love?

Marriage is a relationship. Every relationship has its ups and downs, agreements and disagreements, good days and bad days.

When two people from different backgrounds come together as husband and wife, no one can expect them to have the same ideas, the same feelings and the same expectations. Don’t expect them to think and act the same way. There will always be differences.

Some differences may affect your marriage in a big way. Others may affect it in a small way.

Some marriages have big problems which are hard to solve. Others have small problems which may just make the marriage stale or no longer interesting. In which case, the excitement in it has burnt out.

Perhaps, the excitement that was very strong in your marriage at the start has disappeared or has faded.

If that is the case, you have to bring it back. If you are no longer having the fun that you used to have, bring it back. Your marriage needs fun. In fact, your marriage should be fun. Marriage is meant to be fun; to be enjoyed.

Marriage is not supposed to bring you misery; to make you unhappy. You got married to be happy.

However, don’t expect happiness to come on its own just because you are married. It will not come unless you work for it. Here are a few realities about marriage to take note of:

  1. You have to work every day for happiness to be in your marriage.
  2. It’s the same like you have to work everyday to succeed in your marriage.
  3. If you stop working for success, success will turn its back on you and failure will invade you.
  4. If you stop working for happiness in your marriage, happiness will turn its back on you and sadness will take over control.
  5. In life, success and happiness behave like a woman.
  6. You have to woo a woman before you win her.
  7. You must woo success and happiness, and actually run after it before you get it.
  8. Failure, on the other hand, doesn’t wait to be invited. It comes on its own except you stop it with firmness.

If the thrill that you had in you marriage just when you got married has disappeared, make sure you bring it back.

In the next series of posts on marriage, I would like that together we see how we can rekindle romance in our marriage. How can we bring back that original joy that we had? How can we make our love burn again like fire?

Join me in the next posts on marriage. And if you like what you read here, do well to share the link. Thanks!

Late night love

Let’s talk
Late night love;
When the hours
Are far advanced
All retired home;
All quiet around;
We are on our own;
Free to do
What we want;
Free like air
To fly;
To rise
To fall;
To go where we like.
Where shall we go?
To the moon?
To the stars?
To space?
But not to the sun;
To be roasted alive;
What I want is love.
Late night love.
I want to savour it.

Is your friendship is just an ‘Artificial Friendship’ ?

Is your friendship an artifical friendship ?

it’s a 3.5 minute read

Do you not long for that particular friendship which completes you ?

What is the definition of friendship ?

Voluntary relationship between people that lasts a long time and those involved are concerned about each other. It develops from shared interests and experiences and is mutually gratifying. source Psychology dictionary.com

Friendship is not based on sex,or age or other reasons

What is the best part in friendship ?

Don’t you think friendship in the form of shared interests and shared experiences which become memories over the time.

Are you not,the happiest when you cherish these wonderful memories of life,at the time of stress ?

Not just that,even when you both chat or speak to each other,recollecting some of the shared moments,shared jokes,even wondering how the time moving unusually fast,even making that moment wonderful !

What I am stressing is,the shared memories become a life’s Treasure.

Don’t you agree this is the best part in friendship ?

What happens,when friendship is forged ?

Definitely,the concern for each other increases.

Shared interest further strengthens the bond.

These two can happen only when you make a sincere effort to develop an emotional bond,by opening up,since you both are connected by mutual trust’ by this time.

How to make an emotional bond ? (somebody may even call this emotional link or cosmic link)

here I wish to make it clear that there is a difference between physical attraction and emotional attraction and physical attraction is a different subject for some other time discussion.

The efforts for emotional connection must come from both the friends,willing to make sincere efforts.

Four things are extremely important

1. Trust

2. Honesty

3. Sacrifice

4. Zero Ego

If these things are achieved from both sides,automatically emotional link is evolved

Trust – should be 100% .You can share your personal stories of mutual interest, and start bonding,and be sincere and frank.communicate regularly and develop mutual confidence

Honesty –  should be 100%.Be honest in your communications.Prevent miscommunications.

Sacrifice – should be 100%.If Friends happen to be in the same place ,make yourself available Never avoid or give excuses.If you both happen to be in different cities,provide moral support as much as possible constantly.

Ego – Here there is only one solution.. Destroy the ego feelings instantly.
Finally
No one is rich than a person who has a true friend

Just two interesting quotes

How many slams in an old screen door? Depends how loud you shut it. How many slices in a bread? Depends how thin you cut it. How much good inside a day? Depends how good you live ’em. How much love inside a friend? Depends how much you give ’em.”  Shell Silverstein

 

To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.” Brandy Snyder

 

Thank You

Philosophy Through Photography

Love is not complicated, people are

Love is not complicated People are

These days…Relationship means…                                                                                                     Any where without you is better than any where with you

How individual lives are changing ,relationships are thrown into the dust bin,people forgetting the meaning and value & sacredness of ‘LOVE’,

Thanks to addiction to social media & smart phones !

Relationships are harder now!

“Conversations became texting,

Arguments became phone calls,

Feelings became subliminal messages,

Sex became easy,

The word ‘love’ is used out of context.,

Insecurities became a way of thinking,

Getting jealous became a habit,

Trust is hard to come by,

Being hurt became natural.

Leaving became the only option,

Sad but true,

So if you have something…that is worth it,..don’t take it for granted,

Fight for it,don’t let it go”       pinterest

Summary –

Be selfish,thanks to the inventions. indulge in your likings,Drink till you drop dead,fight without any reason,Ego is your life,jealousy is your partner, Greedy is your nature,Killing innocent is your taste,care not anybody,you owe the happiness you deserve,forget about dieting & exercises which are all money-making machines,,cheating is your mantra,money is everything and enjoy dying your own death,you owe nothing to anybody!

Is this the lesson modern-day life style teaching us ? Is this the meaning of advancement in human life ? Is this what all about relationships ?

And what about ethics,values,respect,responsibilities ,family relationship ?

Please share your thoughts.

Thank you.

Philosophy Through Photography

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Friendship vs Love…which triumps ?

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It’s 2.2 minute read

“Sometimes,in life there really are bonds formed that can never be broken.

Sometimes you really can find that one person who will stand by you no matter what.

May be you will find it in a spouse and celebrate it with your dream wedding.

But there’s also the chance that the person you can count on for a life time, the person who knows you sometimes better than you know yourself, is the same person who’s been standing beside you all along”.      Bride wars

Let us see who triumphs at the end.

LOVE

L is the 12 th letter of alphabets

O is the 15 th letter of alphabets

V is the 22 nd letter of alphabets

E is the 05 th  letter  of alphabets

Total of Love is = 54.

FRIENDSHIP

F is the 06 th letter of alphabets

R is the 18 th letter of alphabets

I is the 09 th letter of alphabets

E is the 05 th letter of alphabets

N is the 14 th letter of alphabets

D is the 04 th letter of alphabets

S is the 19 th letter of alphabets

H is the 08 th letter of alphabets

I is the   09 th letter of alphabets

P is the 16 th letter of alphabets

Total of Friendship is = 108

Exactly twice of 54

So the FRIENDSHIP is twice the value of LOVE.

Do you agree ??

Now time for some fun

One day Love met Friendship.Love asked,why did you exist when I already exist?

Friendship replied..to put a smile where you’ve left tears.

And

“There are friends,there is family,And then there are friends that become family.”

What is your take ? Friendship or Love ? Check this link

Wife & Husband-can’t they be best friends for life ?

Thank you.

Philosophy Through Photography

Pixabay derivative,gapbagap.com,pinterest

“Hour-glass Figure”

Any idea about  Hour glass figure ??

This is one thing that every woman aspiring to be Miss World or Miss

Universe…dreams of !
Hour Glass Figure

Credit-Googleimages -d23.com

It’s said Women with Hourglass Figure and perfect waists are most attractive !
But then most ladies are not that fortunate. why ?
“We all have hourglass figures;Your sand just settles in different places”.
octavia Spenc
Check this link
As I was watching this lamp glowing in one corner of the room,I realised that
there is some attraction in the lights and shadows generated by the Lamp.

 

hour-glass figure

                       Love is like an hourglass, with the heart filling up as the brain empties.                                      Jules Renard

The shadow from the lamp was such that it was resembling an Hour-glass, and
interestingly ,the appearance of the Hour-glass can be appreciated both horizontally
vertically with one difference , one being white shaded and the other dark shaded.

Have you experienced any such thing before?

Thank you.

Love is scarce- Really ?

Love is scarce- Really ?

Only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love.

― Henry Miller

Why this happens ?

We all  think that, Love means romance.But it is not so. There are 7 types of love.
  1. Storge- Familial love
  2. Phila-friendship ( shared goodwill)
  3. Eros-Sexual or passionate love
  4. Agape-Universal love ( unconditional love)
  5. Ludus-Playful or uncommitted love
  6. Pragma- Long term love ( married people)
  7. Philautia-self love ( healthy or unhealthy)
source Psychologytoday.com, Quora) My discussion is limited to the married couple.

Think for a second.

Can you tell  the difference between ‘school and life‘ ?
” In school you are taught a lesson and then given a test.   In life,you are given a test,that teaches you the lesson” Tom Bodett
So what I am trying to tell is Life gives an opportunity to learn lessons  from our experience, in this situation….. day-to-day problems faced by the couple,thus giving them an opportunity, making them more accommodating,understanding and helpful to each other. Thus we can become wiser by experiencing these experiences. But here is the hitch. The problem comes in the unknown form of ‘E G O  nullifying all the benefits of life’s lessons,which we learn over the course of time. Why can’t we make an attempt to look into this ? Why can not we prevent this devil before it strikes us ? When we are able to manage life style diseases with sugar-free,fat-free,salt free,gluten-free etc. etc…why can’t we give a try for Ego- free ?

The only way to achieve peace and harmony is becoming ‘EGO LESS’,

and this should be the  ultimate outcome of your life’s lessons,if you are willing to learn.

Another aspect is ,to be able to differentiate, the difference between love & Possession.Don’t think ,just because you love the person…you got right to possess the person.( as if the person is a property) Remember love is selfless,coming from the bottom of the heart with total dedication,sincerity and commitment to lead a supportive life together.

And so…..

We make our life miserable because we never make an attempt to understand the full potential of true love,and thus we make ‘love’ scarce in spite of itabundance. True Love gives you, the real experience of what all you dream and Ego gives you, all the heartache. Thank you.   Philosophy through photography
“A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love”. – Max Muller

You wanna know… who you are to me ?

Do you know ..who you're to me ?
One day you will ask me which is more important? My life or yours? I will say mine and you will walk away not knowing that you are my life. Khalil Gibran

“Never waste your time trying to explain who you are to people who

are committed to misunderstanding you”

Dream Hampton Thank you.   Philosophy through photography Pixabay