I changed, people noticed.

Hi friends,

How are you all doing? I am doing good as usual. I know I have been away for a long time now.  I had some personal things to take care off before resuming writing here and so the break was intentional.  

Meanwhile, I have been reading more regularly this year and learning many new things in order to improve a bit more every day.  Though I was not active here, I kept writing (in my diary and phone) about the small lessons I learned from different experiences, to share with you all here.

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A few years back, I wasn’t happy with the kind of person that I had become. I felt stuck and didn’t know how to bring about a change inside me.

I began, very slowly, by reading some good books and then implementing the easiest tips from those books. Since then I have been working on becoming a better person i.e. on improving myself. 

I know that I have changed a lot over the last few years.  I am already in love with the new person that I am in the process of becoming.

When I look back to my childhood days, I feel that I was always the person that I now strive to become but with the passing of time and life experiences, I had lost my path. I now see the struggles of the past few years as a re-route to my original path.

At times, we do not notice the impact of the small improvements that we make in our lives.  But there will be others who notice the change in us and validate it for us.

Today I want to share one such experience with you all. Do let me know if you have experienced the same.

I had been out of touch with a friend for almost six years. So when we connected again, that friend started the usual talks i.e. how life was treating her, the behavior of certain people or the struggles of life, the negatives in every situation, etc…

In response, I was very positive (not fake positive but genuine positive). I was trying to encourage her that everything was going to work out for the better. The conversation reached a point where she could no longer take it and commented that I had changed, that I had become a preacher.🙂

She felt that I was not being the “usual normal” and the conversation ended soon.

At that point, I realized that I had actually changed from being a very negative person to being optimistic. I was finally able to look at the brighter side of life even when things weren’t going right.

So how did I change myself? There were few conscious efforts made by me that helped me improve myself. I had read about them in different self-help books and learned about them from the teachings of my Guru.

  • I began by accepting the person that I was, the mistakes I had made and also accepted all my negative feelings and emotions. 
  • I began to take responsibility for everything that had happened in my life, i.e. I stopped blaming others. 
  • I began by forgiving myself and others for all the hurt. It was important to forgive myself to be able to look beyond the mistakes that I had made.
  • I began to feel grateful for everything that I had in my life.
  • I read books that increased my faith in God and positivity.
  • I learned that it was important to look for the good in every situation.
  • I began to dream about a wonderful life for me. I made myself believe that I was also destined to have good things in life.
  • I began to see the good in others. This made me a very positive person.
  • I began to stop pleasing others. This was very important because it helped me build my confidence in the choices and decisions that I was making.
  • I worked on improving myself every day.  I read, listened, learned and implemented small changes in my life. 
  • If I went back to being negative, I asked for forgiveness and tried to be positive again (I am human after all!). It is not possible to be positive all the time because of different life situations we all face.  But if we become aware of our thoughts and turn them into positive thoughts, life would definitely become better.
  • I began loving myself a bit more with each passing day. This helped me accept and love others as well.

Slowly, very slowly I started changing. Others started noticing and wanted to know the secret.

My very good friend, Gargi once told me that my conversations had changed from being totally negative to a lot positive.  She has been a big inspiration (always grateful to her) for me at that. I have seen how she thinks only good thoughts most of the time.

It is not important for others to validate our changed behavior, for us. But being a part of the society, when somebody notices the good things in us, we believe them more. We feel happy that the changes have finally happened and we have become better individuals.

On a personal level, we know that we have changed when certain situations happen and we react based on our changed behavior.

Do let me know your thoughts on the same.  As they say “Change is the only constant.” So let this change be for your better.

Take small steps. Don’t worry if it takes time because it will last a whole lifetime with you. Be happy that you decided to improve yourself. That in itself is your first victory. The world around you will notice it one day. You will notice it one day.

Love,

Rashmi

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p.s. This post first appeared on rashu2015

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Tips to reach your ideal weight.

Hi friends,

In my last two posts  “ my learning experience” and “tips to drink more water”, I talked about the lessons that the illness taught me and how I developed the habit of drinking water. Today, I want to talk about another important topic which was the result of my recovery process i.e. Weight loss.

“Weight loss/weight gain” is a very sensitive topic in today’s world. People are coming up with their ideal weight goals, making meal plans, exercising and adopting a healthy lifestyle to achieve their goals.

Like everybody else, I also set my ideal weight goal and kept planning about how to reach my goal. Meanwhile, I fell sick and during this recovery period, I lost 7 kgs. People known to me said that loosing weight was an obvious part of any illness, as we tend to lose our appetite and we become more careful about our health. But, I never lost my appetite and was hungry at the right times. Then how did I manage to lose those kgs?

So here are few things that I did to recover from the illness which eventually lead to lose of weight.

  1. Drinking lots of water â€“ As you all know by now, I drank lots of water during this time as it was the only cure for the illness. I had a mix of normal water and warm water during this entire period.  Drinking normal water continuously the whole day kept me full and hence reduced my appetite there by reducing my food intake. The warm water helped to burn excess fat and thus helped to reduce those extra kilos.
  2. Quantity of food intake â€“ My quantity of food intake reduced drastically. Initially, I used to eat just one slice of bread or two dosas or one roti. I was asked to reduce the quantity of food intake as my body couldn’t handle more food at a time because of the illness. I never felt hungry with the reduced quantity because I was drinking lots of water and other drinks like tea etc.
  3. No junk food â€“ It was an obvious thing that I had to be very careful about what I was eating and hence stopped junk food completely.
  4. Oil-free, Spice-free food â€“ I was having food, free of oil and spices. So I didn’t have any oily food during this period. Though very little oil was used for cooking but I didn’t have any fried, oily or spicy foods. The food felt bland at times but still it tasted better because I knew I was eating healthy.
  5. Sweets and ice-creams â€“ I didn’t have sweets and ice-creams during this period. Though this was not restricted, I didn’t have much of craving for it and so I didn’t have it.
  6. Home-made food â€“ This was one of the most important reason for my weight loss. I was having home-made food – food made with love and care by my family.  I completely stopped restaurant food and this helped me recover fast as well.
  7. Healthy food â€“ My food consisted of home-made food, lots of salads, fruits, curd etc.. I took all of these in a balance and they helped in recovering and loosing weight.
  8. Proper sleep â€“ It is said that when we sleep, our body repairs itself. So I was asked to take lot of rest during this period. I was active during the day but as and when I felt sleepy, I slept, without feeling guilty, and this made me feel healthy every time I woke up. Having a healthy lifestyle is another important aspect of maintaining proper body weight. We should follow a proper routine in our life and this will help our body to undertake their activities at the right time.
  9. Consistency â€“ Drinking water, having home-made food, proper sleep etc. will show results only if done consistently. I didn’t have a choice and was forced to be consistent and this resulted in my recovery and weight loss. So consistency is the key here (like everywhere else).
  10. Being grateful â€“ During this whole period, I was grateful to God for all that I had. I felt good about my body. I felt good about my weight. I felt good about being with my loved ones, and I felt grateful for the food and water that went inside my body and healed me.
  11. Don’t keep checking your weight â€“ Just believe in your goal and take steps towards achieving it on a consistent basis. Take the steps for your overall health and be happy about it. If you keep checking your weight, it shows that you are not trusting God, your goal and your actions to achieve the goal. Just give it some time and effort and you will see amazing results.
  12. Little bit of sacrifice is important â€“ We all know that if we want to achieve something, a little bit of effort and sacrifice is needed. I learnt this again during my journey towards recovery.  While focusing on your goal of ideal weight, don’t worry about all that you cannot have or do; instead think about all the new and healthy things you can make and have and most importantly, the goal you can achieve.

Many of you may say that I lost those 7 kgs because of the illness. Yes definitely! I did lose some weight because of the illness. But then came a point in my recovery when my reports were normal and I was still loosing weight. That was when I realized that it was not just because of the illness but also because of all the care I took during the process of recovery that I lost weight.

During the period of illness I couldn’t exercise because I was quite weak. When my reports came normal, my doctor advised me to start my walks.  So now I know that if I combine all the above factors with regular exercise, I will definitely reach my ideal weight.

I know it is not possible to completely follow all the above steps, because of the temptations around us, but if we reduce having junk and oily food or ice-creams; if we start exercising; if we have a proper routine, if we are consistent and on top of it all if we are grateful for what we already have, we will definitely reach our ideal weight.

Start out by being grateful for your present weight, have your ideal weight noted somewhere, take one small step at a time and do it consistently. The results will surprise and motivate you to take bigger and confident steps towards your ideal weight.

Stay healthy and be grateful!!!

Rashmi

P.s. This post was originally posted on my blog –  https://mythoughtsandcreations.wordpress.com/

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With Honour and Humilty I accept my poetry award

Oh wow, I did miss blogging but I needed a break. I am convinced we all do every now and then, and each person takes care of themselves the best they can you know. It’s all about striving to be the best version of one’s self – well for that’s that and I need my breaks lol

I got back to some awesome news, my poem ‘Please let me Be’ was selected as 1st Runner Up in the#SIWOPC and I mean this is huge. I wrote this poem with so much soul and am so honoured and humbled.

I hope everyone here has been ok in their world, it is very important to show yourself some self love because you ought to be your own best inspirer.

Perfection

Hello everyone! Here is a series of poems/thoughts/ramblings on the theme “Perfection”.

Perfection(1)

Excerpt:

I wanted to be perfect!
Tall and slim,
With chubby cheeks and high cheekbones,
With a sharp jawline and perfect eyebrows,
Not a hair out of place;
Molding my body in a shape that is unnatural to its origin,
Telling myself that I am worthy only when I reach a certain standard.
I wanted to be perfect!

Perfection(2)

Excerpt:

What is perfection?
A child’s knee with no bruises?
A baby’s bottom with no rashes?
Or a mother’s heart with no fear?

Perfection(3)

Excerpt:

Each instance in your life is perfect
You remain perfect as you grow
Because you learn;
You learn that who you were 10 years ago
Was the best you could be Then
And the person you are Now
Is the best you can be Right Now

If you want to write a poem, a thought, a short story, a sentence or anything on this theme, link it in the comment section below and I’ll make sure I’ll check it out.

Thank you for reading.

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