Husband and wife, household chores: who should do what? By Ngobesing Suh Romanus

On Saturday, March, 2, 2019,
I had a lengthy but very enjoyable conversation
It followed a post she  wrote:
How to keep your man.
I believe you will enjoy our chat.
I encourage you to read it. Click this link above.
She put this question to me:
"You know there’s something that
Some women would like to know.
I've been  thinking that too.
I believe a man should be a companion
to his wife and  not a master.
He shouldn’t dominate.
And there are times when
a man  comes home
and expects certain things
from his wife like
to always have  food on the table
whether or not she has been out
all day trying to make  ends meet.
And shes so tired and still he expects her
to clean up the  house, cook, do the laundry
and if they have kids, take care of them.
He  feels it’s her duty, her responsibility.
Do you think cooking should be  a duty for the wife?
Or taking care of the house?
Do you think there is  anything wrong
with sharing the home chores?"
What is your response to this question?

What I can say is, spouses
should be equal partners
and it is a good thing to share the chores.
But couples should always take into consideration
the fact that men and women are different physically, emotionally and in abilities and talents.
Men can do certain things better than women;
And women can do certain things better than men;
There are roles as defined by society that fit men better.
Others that fit women better.
We have different cultures in different parts of the world. People are too attached to their culture. Hence, it is important to take change gradually when it is contrary to culture. When women from a culture which gives men advantages want to overturn things abruptly, they run into trouble with their husbands. Use tact and love to get change not force.
Husbands and wives should also attend marriage courses together. A good one is a Marriage Encounter Week End. Through many presentations and a gradual process, couples are brought to see the real meaning of marriage and journeying together as a couple not servant/ master relationship.
If you read this and have any questions, I will be very happy to answer them.
I thank Zee Yola for her post and raising the questions she raised.
Read How to keep your man.

A few spontaneous thoughts

I am having a few spontaneous thoughts;
Let me share them
As they come;
Honestly, I am satisfied
With the progress of our work;
I can’t keep this to myself,
We are having the joy
Of service;
I wish
I had discovered this path
Earlier, but no regret;
God chooses the best time;
There is so much joy
In serving others;
In being useful;
In being nice;
In loving people,
And promoting love;
And harmony;
In short, universal values;
I thank God for his grace
To serve.
If you make love of people
And honest service to them
Your life thing,
You will not regret,
I thank God for the people
He has blessed me to meet
Far and near;
To touch;
And be touched by;
May more and more good people
Of the world come together
And find more strength together,
To spread more love
And good in the world!

SoLIDariITY BloGGerS’ FoRum 19

The delicate question of being in love well handled

I have read and written a lot about love.

The post I am recommending here has captured my attention in a special way because of how it has handled the delicate question of being in love.

I know it will thrill and edify many of you. Hence, take off some time and read it:

If you have a post which you like us to recommend in this forum, please, indicate to us in the comment box. You may give a brief summary to facilitate the exercise for us.

My feelings as I start 2019

“How do I feel as I start 2019? Describe your feelings in loving detail.”

Dear beloved,

Take that this question has been given to you to answer. Are you ready to answer it? Do you have the courage to share your feelings?

Many people are shy when it comes to sharing how they feel. Such people are not free. They are like prisoners. They are inhibited. I think we should feel free to share our feelings with others if they can help.

I leave that to you to decide. Do you agree with me? Please, let me know. Your opinion counts.

Now, coming to the question, let me answer it. If my answer inspires you, I invite you to share your own feelings. If not, let me know so that we can move on to something else.

How do I feel as I start 2019?

As I start 2019, I feel happy. I am happy that I have seen this new year. Many have not seen it. Many that I know have been called to the next world whereas they would have loved to be here. My staying on is not by my own merit. It’s by God’s grace and love; and so I feel happy and thankful to God for this wonderful gift.

This is not the first time I am having this type of feeling of happiness. I felt this happy a few years back when my daughter had eleven ordinary level papers with four A grades in the General Certificate of Education exam.

My feeling of happiness is so strong it makes me want to cry.

When I imagine that I could have gone like the so many brilliant and good hearted people who have gone, I sincerely thank God for my life.

For God’s wonderful grace to me, I am taking a responsible decision to love him more and to show love to every fellow human being that I come across.

This is my way of expressing gratitude to God.

It is such a big favour that he has kept me in this world while many more worthy people have gone.

I feel happy sharing my feelings with you as we start this 2019.

I look forward to making the year better for some people no matter who they may be, where they may be, or what they may be.

Thank you for reading my thoughts. Kindly let me know what you feel about what I have shared. Has it touched you in any way?

Your comment will be highly valued.

Thanks a million.

I love you.

The wonderful blessings of sharing this 2019

sharing blessings



If you know the wonderful blessings of sharing, you will not hesitate to share your blessings. “He who gives to the poor will never lack, but he who shuts his eyes will have many curses’ (Proverb 28:27).

Sharing gives joy. It brings more blessings. It binds people. It pleases God. In Hebrew 13:16 we are told, “Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God.”

We all have something we can share. It maybe we have money, knowledge, talent, time, love, etc. Teaching children to share instills in them kindness, team spirit, compromise, love, generosity, etc. Thus, we say sharing is not only a vital social skill but also a response to God’s call.

God wants you to share

He wants you to share the good things that you receive. He blesses you not for you alone. He blesses you to share with others. He blesses you to bless others; and sharing blesses those to whom you share. “Whoever has two coats must share with anyone who has none, and whoever has food must do likewise.”

God passes through people to enrich others. He uses people to work miracles in other people’s lives. In sharing, the good that comes to us is spread to others. Thus, sharing makes the world a better place for everybody.

Through sharing we bless ourselves

When we share, we bless ourselves too. We open the way for more blessings to come to us because we become channels of good not only to other but to us also. Sharing is like giving a smile. The more smiles we give, the more smiles we have on our lips. The more you share, the more you have to share.

Many stories teach us to share

The story of the Dead Sea and the Sea of Galilee teaches us to share. These two seas get their water from the same source. While the Sea of Galilee receives its own water and passes it on, the Dead Sea receives its own and swallows it.

Because the Sea of Galilee shares its water by passing it on, it is alive. It is fresh and contains fish and other living creatures.

Because the Dead Sea swallows its own water, it is dead. It is not fresh; and it does not have any living thing in it.

What is not shared eventually dies. It does not multiply. The things that are shared multiply.

When you share you get:

  • The joy of making life more beautiful for others;
  • You make more people happy.
  • The world has more happy persons.
  • Their happiness is a prayer for you.
  • God is pleased with you.
  • When God is pleased with you, He blesses you.

We bloggers have been sharing our blessings in different ways. We must continue to share. Many of the posts we find on the net are blessings to us. We can share them without getting up from our seat.


You can share this post and other posts here on Facebook, Twitter, Google and any other sites of your choice. Reblogging is also sharing. Many of you have reblogged and shared many of my posts.

I thank you from the bottom of my heart; and urge you to continue. That is an act that can make a big difference to someone somewhere. It is hard to say how far it can go.

Are you ready to share and or reblog this post or any other one on this site? That would be great. It would be a demonstration of generosity with knowledge which is very laudable, indeed. That would be one of your beautiful Christmas gifts to me. In advance I express immense gratitude to all of you who shall offer me this wonderful gift.


Kindly offer me a Christmas gift by sharing or reblogging this post or any other one you like on this site.

365 blank cheques

From January first, 2019 to December 31, 2019
You have 365 open cheques from the Almighty;
One cheque a day;
Feel free to fill what ever amount you like
And cash a cheque a day;
What will you fill in your first cheque?
What will you fill in your first five cheques?
Whatever you decide is up to you.
The fact is you have 365 blank cheques in 2019.
You shall use this wonderful gift as you like;
But don't forget one thing:
The Gospel must get to all the nooks
And cranies of the earth;
As the Lord commands;
You shall do well also to be a vehicle
Of God's answer to the cry of the needy.
My love, encouragement and blessings for 2019.
Blessings shared multiply.

14 reasons to share your blessings as opposed to hoarding

There are people who are good at sharing their blessings. Such people are blessed. They benefit from the blessings that sharing brings.

They also bless others.

There are others who do not share regardless of what they get. They accumulate for themselves. Such people suffer from two ills that are killing so many around the world.

There are 14 reasons you must learn to share your blessings.

  1. Sharing pleases God.
  2. Sharing makes people happy.
  3. When you share, you enrich others
  4. When you are blessed you are expected to share with those who are not .
  5. What you share multiplies.When you share you receive more.
  6. When you share, you help God answer some one’s prayer.
  7. The Bible instructs us to share.
  8. At times it is only when someone shares that some people are able to meet certain needs.
  9. Sharing strengths friendship ties.
  10. Sharing helps to create a relationship of trust.
  11. Sharing knowledge helps build people and the one who shares
  12. Sharing reduces lack and suffering.
  13. Sharing is an act of generosity.
  14. Sharing is caring.

You can see from the aforementioned that sharing brings many blessings. The wonderful blessings of sharing. Do not hesitate to share so that you can benefit from these blessings.

You are encouraged to share. Do not be greedy. Do not hoard the blessings of the world. Share! Let them reach others especially the less privileged.

There is no use stock piling earthly treasures which you will leave behind when the bell rings for you.

Sharing blesses you. Greed may lead to your destruction. There is the story of Greedy Mouse that found a basket full of corn. He made a small hole on the basket and got in. He ate and ate, but when he wanted to come out he found that he had become too fat to pass through the hole.

He started to cry desperately for help. Along came Rabbit. When he asked Mouse explained his plight.

Rabbit laughed and went his way. By morning Mouse’s stomach had gone down and he could have easily slipped out through his tiny hole but greed pushed him to want more corn. So he started eating again. Before long he was again full and unable to go. Again he cried out for help. Thus time around it was Cat who came around.

Before long Cat was having a sumptuous meal of a healthy mouse.

Often, this is where greed takes the people it takes captive.

Sharing, on the other hand, many people believe, causes a multiplication of what is shared. As someone has said, no one has ever become poorer because they shared their blessings. Instead, when you share, you grow because new doors easily open to you. When you share, you win more friends and more good feeling towards you. They will give you their support if the need arises.

Do not forget that the shoes or clothes you might not have won for a year will make another feel like a king at an upcoming wedding or celebration.

Do you know what you can share?

  1. Food
  2. Clothing
  3. Shelter
  4. Water
  5. Money
  6. Time

Sharing is an act of kindness that the Bible and the Koran, the two greatest books encourage.

Your giving will please the Lord

Giving is the way forward for the world;
Through fair sharing, we will make it;
Do you know the joy of sharing
When you selflessly share your blessings,
You experience the joy of sharing;
Christmas is a time of sharing;
A time when the generous heart
Extends a hand of fellowship;
We are called to share always, though,
But Christmas is a secial time for sharing;
When we celebrate the special moment;
A special occasion;
The birth of the Saviour of the World.
When love flows from our heart to others;
And enjoy the wonderful blessing of sharing.
Keep it not all for yourself;
Else greed takes an upper hand,
When your fellow humans are perishing in need;
Many in destitute;
Misery rocks the world,
In the mist of plenty;
Let your heart be touched to share,
That through you God may answer
Someone's prayer;
That other lives like yours may be blessed.
When you give,
Please, give from your heart;
Your giving will please the Lord.

The magic of sharing

If sharing is such a joy

You cannot miss to enjoy;

In sharing, be daring;

The wonderful blessings of sharing

Will flow to you;

You will never lose an opportunity

To share

When you know the magic

Of the great gift of sharing.

Come on lovely friends,

And let us share this Christmas,

That our blessings may touch others.

And enrich them.

Be not deceived;

Sharing doesn’t take away;

Sharing gives more.

The more then you share,

The wider your door is open

For more blessings to flow in.

Share, share and share;

Since generously the giver gave you,

Generously, you must pass it on;

Share and benefit from tbe magic

Of sharing.

My First Blog Post – Hi World!

Remembering Day 1, (May.19.2017) – iSharvi 

This is a story of a girl…” is perhaps a very common and popular beginning of most stories we heard from our parents in childhood. “There was a girl and a boy …to… and all is well that ends well” which is the familiar, popular ending too. As a child, the tragedies of our world do not seem to have any effect on our innocent minds with the exception of extreme cases where we are as well affected. We laughed wholeheartedly. Sometimes, the silence of tragedy would tickle us to giggle despite being conditioned to see tragedy to be of a certain seriousness by society. We fall and we cry, and then the next moment, we are in our own world, in our own plays, being the captains of the ships we sail in the streams and oceans of our dreams. Who we are and who do we become? It is not about making any points and neither decode life as it evolves. This blog is simply the sharing of my journey and insights about life as I feel, understand and live it; learn and know from it. This is the story of a girl. Indeed! The difference being, not that of a fictional character, but one who is breathing her truth.