I Hope Not

For you, I’m okay with being hurt

Since I only gave you pain

During the time we were together

But you, the love you want

You need someone better and be happy

But I hope not to the point where you forget me.

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How to Discover What You’re Passionate About

A common theme in most writing on goal setting is the need to follow your passions. Do the things that make you want to get up early in the morning. There’s only one thing missing:

What if you don’t have any passions?

I’m sure everyone on this planet has interests. But that’s not the same thing. Enjoying playing video games isn’t the same as spending thousands of hours designing your own. Your passion has to be something you would work exceptionally hard for.

So what do you do, if there is nothing you feel that engaged about?

The Way to Start Isn’t With a Survey…

A lot of career guidance involves measuring your current skills and personality, and then deciding what you would be most suited for. I don’t like this approach because people are complex. And any test will ultimately be a gross simplification of what’s important to you and what you like to do.

I once heard a story about a wealthy woman who was looking for a husband. She invested over $20,000 on a series of psychological surveys to match her with potential candidates. She met individually with the dozen candidates that were her best match. After all that money and effort, she decided she didn’t like any of them.

Six months later, she was engaged to someone she had met randomly at a bar. Moral: people don’t know what they want until they see it (and surveys aren’t much better).

The truth is, I don’t think any questionnaire can tell you what you’re going to be really engaged about. I’d rather experiment with dozens of wildly different activities, than limit my scope, just because a test said I wouldn’t like it.

How to Find Your Passions

The better approach to finding your passions is actually fairly simple:

  1. Try a lot of different things
  2. See what you enjoy

The biggest obstacle to overcome is a narrow vision of what you can do. If I wasn’t passionately interested in anything, I’d try to cast a wide net to look at dozens of different activities. Staying safe and familiar is the reason I’m bored, so now is the time to experiment.

Dabbling is key to the art of finding what drives you. Dabbling means committing to something for 3-6 months. This amount of time isn’t enough to become really good at anything. But it is enough time to get over the sharp learning curve in the beginning.

I didn’t enjoy programming for the first few months I worked on it. I didn’t know enough, and it was too frustrating to continue. But once I got over the frustration barrier, I found that programming is an activity I really enjoy.

If you don’t have any project that makes you want to wake up early and sacrifice leisure for, you should start dabbling. Find new activities completely outside your comfort zone you can do for a few hours a week, and commit for at least two months.

Sometimes You Need a Spark…

Sometimes the problem with a passion isn’t the activity, but the goal. I enjoyed working on small self-made projects. But it wasn’t until I saw that people actually made self-run businesses out of those efforts that I became really engaged. Until that point, my goal was just to dabble in something fun. After that point, I realized there was room for a challenging goal I hadn’t considered before.

Equally important to dabbling in activities is to dabble in experiences. Meet people from weird and unique backgrounds. Read books that don’t normally appear on your shelf. Randomness increases the chance that one of your interests will be sparked into something more.

Always Look for More

Dabbling is a continuous process. Committing yourself to one goal is good. But that should still leave time for brief experiments. If you’re always dabbling, you have a large base of passions you can do interesting work from. Don’t tolerate boredom.

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Thought of the day….

Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.


एक बार जब हम खुद पर विश्वास करते हैं, तो हम जिज्ञासा, आश्चर्य, सहज आनंद या किसी भी अनुभव को जोखिम में डाल सकते हैं जो मानव आत्मा को प्रकट करता है।।

Shubham Verma

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One Word can….

One word can start a friendship,
One kiss a love affair,
One smile can bring you laughter,
One hug can show you care,
One wave of your hand can say hello,
One tear can make you cry,
One gentle touch can warm a heart,
One dream can make you fly,
One song can bring back memories,
One thought sees brighter days,
One wish can bring colourful rainbows,
One good deed can bring you praise,
One moon can light your darkness,
One star can guide your soul,
One step will start each journey,
One hope to make your goal,
One hand to hold in friendship,
One heart that’s kind and true,
One Love…One friend, is all you need,
It’s really up to you.


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Hardest thing in this world is……

Hardest thing in the world......

I know you are tempted to say ‘Diamond’ !

True to some extent.Diamonds symbolize Status,Love,strength( hardness), beauty and Prosperity.

It’s also interesting to know why  60 th wedding anniversary is called ‘Diamond Anniversary’ ?. It’s because of longevity of the couple’s relationship both in times of happiness and difficulties and the marriage surviving this long of 60 yrs without break up in relationship, a toughest job indeed in the modern-day philosophy of ‘divorce’ at the drop of a hat.

Do you want to know which is tougher than Diamond ?

“True Love and Loyal Friends are two of the toughest things to find.”   Unknown

Whichever part of the world you are in ,remember,never underestimate the power of true love and loyal friends. Be a true lover & don’t lose loyal friends.

To all my WP friends…

Happy Valentine’s Day 

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How are you celebrating the Valentine’s day,this time ?

Valentines day

Valentine’s day is the day,when all over the world, LOVE is celebrated.

It’s celebrated on 14 th February of every year.

Just think for a second.Are we true to the spirit of Valentine’s day ?

Is it necessary to wait for this day to express love ?

Instead we can  show this love in every day of our life.

Don’t you think true love is the one,which is beyond conditions ?

True love should be forever supportive.

Love should be constant both in times of happiness and sorrow.

Of late, we have become busy in  showing off love ,instead of taking solemn pledge of Love !

And on the Valentine’s day,funnily we exaggerate our Love !

To show love you must buy something and this is  where industries are making a kill on this day,defeating the very purpose of Valentina day.

I guess we are over rating the day !

Money, money,money,it’s so funny !

My take, Love never fails,instead people fail on love.

“Love never dies a natural death.It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source.It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals.It dies if illness and wounds,It dies of weariness,of witherings,or tarnishings.” Anais Nin

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