I want you to know You are very special; You are kind; You are welcoming; Understanding; And tolerant; You are caring, indeed; I do really admire you; And love you; I don’t know how I can live without you. I need you always; Your place in my heart.
Plenty of things I never Do see; Though wide I open my eyes; Yet, I believe, they exist; Plenty of things I don’t understand; However hard I rack My tiny brain; Yet, I believe, they exist; For those who understand Do make me know; I can’t always see Before I believe; I can’t always understand What I see; As galore things exist, Like stars in the sky, Or fish in the sea, I never will understand, No matter how hard I try; But what use do I want To draw water from a stone? Decipher or not, See or don’t see The writing on the wall Is bold and clear; Many things exist I never will know; I never will understand.
The Law of Attraction, I have been fascinated by it for a long time and I rarely come across people who are fully aware of how much the Law of Attraction impacts their day to day life. Regardless of when we do things consciously or subconsciously, every bit of our existence, we are acting as human magnets sending vibrational frequency out of our thoughts and emotions and attracting back more of what we have sent out.
Unfortunately, many of us are blind to this potential that rests within us – making it all too easy to leave our thoughts and emotions unchecked. This sends out the wrong thoughts and attracts more unwanted emotions and events into our lives.
Having said this, I’ve learned that the Law of Attraction to be true after experiencing personal and hearing others’ failures and successes.
Is The Law Of Attraction Even Real?
The Law Of Attraction can be seen throughout history, which was first thought to have been taught to people by the immortal Buddha: “What you have become is what you have thought.” There is an age-old belief among spiritualists that you draw to your life what you put out.
Then “The Secret“ by Rhonda Byrne, brought together many thought leaders in this world and spread the experience of different individuals supporting this principle. In “The Secret” we learned that this is based on scientific principles referring to quantum physics supporting this argument: “That you will attract to yourself whatever you put out.”
Energy, Vibration, Chemistry
“Like attracts like”, this is stated in the law of attraction. All attractions are based on energy, vibration, chemistry, or whatever you may call it, it’s all the same thing. You send out a frequency, and it attracts someone or a situation of the same frequency.
People with a high frequency, people who love and value themselves, are happy people who vibrate on a high frequency and induces a positive response in others. While people with a low frequency, people who are insecure and self-abandoning, induce feelings of anxiety in others if we ourselves are anxious.
People who are positive, open, giving, caring and kind to themselves and others are not attracted to people who are negative, closed, and needy of approval and attention. While no one intentionally seeks out someone who is closed, negative and needy, however, if this is you, this is what you will attract into your life.
Attraction And Your Level Of Emotional Health
I hear this so often: “I’m a good person, but I keep meeting the wrong people in my life”, followed up with “Am I doing something wrong?”
When you learn to value yourself and take responsibility for your feelings, you’ll be drawn to people who also value themselves and want to share love rather than get love. You will no longer end up with someone who judges, blames or sees them self as a victim. You will just not find this person attractive, as they are not at your level of emotional health.
Of course, this means you need to take action if you want to increase your level of emotional health, of which some are learning:
To be present in your body instead of stuck in your mind avoiding your emotions;
To acknowledge what your feelings are telling you rather than protecting against them with various addictions and self-judgments;
To take action in your own behalf rather than expecting others to do this for you.
Underlying all of these ideas is the idea of connection – we are connected within and without. What we think and feel affects not only how we will act but how others will act as well. The depth of our feelings and actions is a critical variable in “attracting” what we want in our lives.
Understanding your spouse
Is primordial in marriage;
But it takes time to do so;
It does not come overnight;
Enough time to know
It may take many years;
You may argue and quarrel
Which is not encouraged;
But you must not give up
On each other;
Let it be clear:
The more you understand
The better you relate;
A good understanding
Of your spouse
Makes for a good marriage;
And actually, wisdom demands
That you understand each other
Before you become a couple;
But it should not end there;
The endeavour to know
And understand each other
Must be a marriage-long exercise.
When you understand each other
At the start,before marriage,
You build your marriage
On a solid foundation.
And an edifice
Built on a solid foundation
Has a rock to stand on;
Exactly what it takes to last.
You heard it said;
Love truly conquers;
Love opens all doors;
Love is the master key;
Where there is love,
When your love tank
Joy fills your heart;
Where there is love,
And when hate goes,
Conflict and war go.
Let us plant love,
And more love
In the garden of our
To grow and bear
That will be peace,
unity, harmony and joy.
We all love to complain. It won’t take an extensive observation to reason that it’s something we love to do as human beings. We tend to feel better once we have a good moan. Getting things off our chests seems to relieve a burden or two. A problem shared is a problem halved, right?
I have caught myself complaining a lot lately about a project that I’m doing. At the same time, research shows that most people complain once a minute during a typical conversation. It is tempting to complain because at that moment it feels good. However, like many other things that are enjoyable, such as smoking or consuming too much alcohol, complaining isn’t good for you.
How Your Brain Works
Writer Steven Parton describes in his post on Medium: “Throughout your brain, there is a collection of synapses separated by empty space called the synaptic cleft. Whenever you have a thought, one synapse shoots a chemical across the cleft to another synapse, thus building a bridge over which an electric signal can cross, carrying along its charge the relevant information you’re thinking about.”
He continues: “Every time this electrical charge is triggered, the synapses grow closer together in order to decrease the distance the electrical charge has to cross… The brain is rewiring its own circuitry, physically changing itself, to make it easier and more likely that the proper synapses will share the chemical link and thus spark together – in essence, making it easier for the thought to trigger.”
From Temporary To A Fixed Habit
If you think about what Parton described, your brain loves efficiency – it doesn’t like to work any harder than it has to. When you repeat a behaviour, your synapses reach out to each other to shorten the flow of information. This makes it easier to repeat that behaviour in the future. And can you really blame your brain for making such connections?
Here’s a practical example: Who would want to build a temporary bridge every single time you need to cross a river? That would be a waste of time and effort. It makes a lot more sense to build a permanent bridge.
That’s exactly what your brain is doing: Your neurons grow closer to each other and the connections between them become more fixed.
As time passes, you find it’s easier to be negative than to be positive, regardless of what goods happening around you. Then complaining becomes your default behaviour, which changes how people perceive you.
We As Humans
Since human beings are inherently social, our brains naturally and unconsciously mimic the moods of those around us, particularly people we spend a great deal of time with and it’s the basis for our ability to feel empathy.
The flip side, however, is that you don’t have to complain yourself to suffer its ill effects. You have to be careful about spending time with people who complain about everything. Complainers want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves. If you find yourself in this situation, it’s better to distance yourself.
Besides that, here are two things you can do when you feel the need to complain:
1. Engage In Solution-Focused Complaining
The first thing you can do is to engage in complaining that is solution-focused. This is applicable when you have something that is truly worth complaining about – see it as complaining with a purpose. Solution-oriented complaining should do the following:
Make your purpose clear. Before complaining, identify what outcome you’re looking for. If you can’t identify a purpose, there’s a good chance you just want to complain for the sake of complaining, and that’s the kind you want to avoid at all costs.
Start off positively. Starting positively helps to keep the other person from getting defensive. For example, before rushing into a complaint about poor customer service, you could say something like, “I have always been thoughtfully assisted with your service, but…”
Specify the situation. When you’re complaining, don’t search up every minor annoyance from the past years. Just address the current situation and be as specific as possible. Instead of saying, “You have treated me poorly,” describe specifically what that person did wrong.
End positively. If you end your complaint with, “I’m never shopping here again,” the person who’s listening is not motivated to act on your complaint. In that case, you’re just complaining with no purpose other than to complain. Instead, restate your purpose, as well as your hope that the desired result can be achieved, for example, “I would like to solve this so that we can remain doing businesses.”
2. Practice Gratitude
The second thing is the practice of gratitude. When you feel like complaining, shift your attention to something that you’re grateful for. Taking time to consider what you’re grateful for reduces the stress hormone by 23%.
Whenever you experience negative thoughts, use this as a signal to shift gears towards thinking about something positive. In time, a positive attitude will become a way of life.
I am in the fortunate position of looking considerably younger than I am. It is lovely, and I do what I can to keep it this way; face yoga, meditation, seeds in my porridge. Daily smoothies packed with ground seeds and powders. I also take about 14 different supplements every day.
Stepping into the business world as a young-looking person, however, is a different story. People struggle to support a young person, emotionally. It is a primal urge. I hold no judgement. Ageing is hard – hence the aforementioned daily routine.
I think compassion is the only way through it, for the young and old. We all have our struggles. Remember young people do not have the experience to understand their emotions yet. Growing up is a rough time. Likewise society persecutes us for ageing, despite all the experience and understanding and philosophising we offer.
Who will pray with me? Come pray with me; For our families; That love and unity May reign in them; That where these values Have been destroyed, That they may be Restored! Let us pray for Our people; That love And understanding May fill every heart. That ours may be A peaceful And love-filled world!
Let’s come together and reconcile;
Are we not brothers and sisters?
But it’s normal;
And we shouldn’t tear ourselves apart
Quarreling or fighting;
That won’t help us;
The world is looking up to us
To separate their quarrel;
And their fight;
How can we ourselves
Be quarreling so bitterly in public
And fighting so fiercely
With one another?
Who will bring us peace?
Let’s be mature
And stop quarreling and fighting
What has happened has happened;
No one laughs all the times;
And no one cries all the times;
Sometimes we laugh
And sometimes we cry;
Let’s sink our differences and reconcile;
Let’s live and work together
Please, let’s reconcile!